HopefulHerpy

I think I have OHSV2. I have never had a culture test done because I don’t get the typical outbreaks. I get a peeling sensation on the mucosal membranes in my mouth. I was also diagnosed with GHSV2.

I do. My tests were wacky in the beginning. I had a positive but barely. I was on the borderline, so my OBGYN tested new again. The next test was negative. The tests alternated between positive and negative for a while. Now, they’re all negative. i haven’t had a observable outbreak. I’m operate like I have it. My husband believes I don’t have it because he’s been negative for the past 5 years. I am confused, but now it seems as if I’ve infected my baby. So, I have something.

Please stop stating stats that give others the impression that oral herpes (HSV2) is rare. It is anything but. It can evolve into more serious complications; I know from experience. It is not as rare as reported; I think when we're diagnosed, we take the information & don't really investigate where we are impacted. If more of us are swabbed, we'd determine that the rate of oral transmission is much higher than reported.

I wish those who are not medical professionals would stop giving out false information & statistics. Being infected in one area does not guarantee immunity in the other. I support being supportive; however, handing out false information is where I draw the line. I have H in both areas & it is hell. My eyes are impacted & so is my equilibrium since I'm constantly dizzy. I would warn against engaging in oral sex. Some would advise that the risks are minimal. I can only reference what I have experienced.

Unfortunately, yes! I too have experienced both or what I think is an OB in both areas.

I am not the best person to say don't give up hope since I too have given up hope. However, social constructs suggest that I should say something optimistic. "Take it one day at a time & it will get better."

Yes! I test negative for all tests.

You're not alone. I understand that the discovery of H can be shocking; in fact, it can be downright depressing. However, remember that this day will be a figment in your rear view years from now. I know--I have these days often & like you I live in regret from a bad decision. I try to tell myself to move forward because we can't live in the past. Often times, I daydream of a rewind or reset button (wouldn't that be nice). But I remember that it does me no good because I'll never find one or invent one. All of the dreams you set can still be attained. H will not stop that. Additionally, I'm sorry that your ex isn't supportive. If you can't speak with him, know that several of us on this site are here for you. First, forgive yourself. You didn't ask for this to happen. Next, focus on achieving those goals you set. Don't let H stop you from living. The OBs are temporary.

Question: Do you think you have HSV-1 or 2 by your mouth? I'm going through the exact same thing. I transferred the virus (HSV-2) to mouth & now I'm having vision troubles :( Be careful of wiping or touching near your eyes. I'm not sure about the transmission with the make-up brushes or beauty blender ball. You should be fine as those are inanimate objects & should not carry the virus long.

I explained to my husband when I found out when we were dating. He accepted, so I don't have to explain to anyone else. I feel tingles, itches, leg pain, etc--which is why I operate like I have it.

I did not get a Western Blot? I just operate as if I have it.

Yes! But if I'm correct, Terri Warren's clinic is closed & she is not administering the Western Blot now--she's looking for a new lab partner.

I have not had any OB (visually). I get soreness & pain. I tested and had a 1.02 IGG value. I tested several times afterwards & each time has been negative. I know that I've transferred this virus to my mouth & im still not showing antibodies on a blood test. Welp! I'm am confused & tired of the pain; I'm especially tired of not getting any answers.

Advice not advices :(

I haven't had any trouble with OBs & exercising. Hopefully your OBs won't keep you out too long! I would take @ihaveittoo advices & get on suppressive therapy to minimize OBs & the duration of OBsz

Kim, I think you're okay as she did not have contact with your lady parts. I'm assuming that you don't have outbreaks on your stomach. Additionally, if you don't have HSV-2 orally, you should really be alright. If more than anything, your morals & integrity are making you experience anxiety.

For 3 years, I've battled with Depression (It is capitalized because it has life-like qualities.) & currently my winning record has been challenged by this unworthy opponent. My flawless victory & chance at any redeeming fight is as bleak as Rhonda Rousey's ability to win a UFC fight within a matter of seconds. One of the hardest parts of the dual has been the gazes from the spectators. You see, most people associate depression with an occurrence or something situational. And their thinking would be correct at this point in my life. Every since being diagnosed with HERPES, I've been overwhelmingly dispirited & extremely melancholy. What's even more depressing is that I can't share my shame with anyone for fear of being judged & shunned. My feelings of self-loathing & insecurities often rear their ugly heads as I look back & cast judgment on myself for acquiring this unwanted hitchhiker while traversing through my journey of life. I know that it's highly irrational (albeit human) to contemplate and obsess over things that we can't change, but if I could do a few things over--I definitely would. I also understand that it's folly & counter-productive to have such thoughts, but I can't stop myself. Today was the utmost worst day I've had in a while. I cried & disclosed to my supervisor that I'm feeling suicidal to which he looked completely taken aback & immediately tried to provide me with the assistance. I can't seem to shake this funk & often times I can't find strength to get out of bed. My husband tries to console me. He's gentle & kind-hearted like that. He says, "Ashley! 'We will get through this!' " I believe we will, but I also understand that he doesn't understand what I'm experiencing as he is H-. I want to give up & quit; however, adult Ashley keeps persevering. When will it get better? When will I move on? When will I see myself instead of the diagnosis?

Chel! Your story sounds like mine. I never had the lesions but trying to drop the sugar babies made me scream to the high heavens. I felt as if I were eliminating glass. I think that the OBs or pain occurs back in that region bc sex causes tears in the anal region (it isn't as durable and lubricated as our vaginal area).

I'm at a lost

No...I wish!! I'm in education

I really enjoyed reading your posts! Your ability to accept it & move forward in reducing the stigma is inspiring. I can't wait for the day when I'm at a place where I'm willing to disclose to those close to me.

I would stop the medicine if it exacerbates the OBs. Another option is to ask for another antiviral.

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your hair due to Valtrex. Have you checked with a doctor to ensure that it's from the medicine? Also, have you considered any alternative options. As an African-American woman, I frequently wear extensions and weaves to change my look. Is this an option for you? I know that our hair is often our means of identity & esteem; however, your hair doesn't make you "YOU". Your character, charisma, integrity, etc. makes you who you are. I pray you find relief or a way to alleviate this concern. I'm also hoping that this loss is related to some other factor like stress & not your medicine.

I wondered the same. In all my life, I've only semi-known one person with it. To be honest, I really didn't know them; I just heard that she had it through the grapevine. I too constantly think about it & feel like an outcast, but then I realize that it doesn't make me feel any better. Afterwards, I give myself a pep talk & try to move on. FYI: it's probably not in most charts bc ppl are embarrassed to list it.

Me too @bambina3 :(