skokan22

If you don't mind me asking how long have you in your wufe been together? I'm trying to show him the truth but he seems to be convinced. As I see all the positivity in this forum I have begun a drastic healing process. I text him lastnight and I let him know he's waiting for perfect & Im going to live my life. He's sad, hurt, etc. But I don't understand how, your deciding to leave me. Our ONLY issue is herpes our relationship is great, thats the DEAL BREAKER. Haven't heard from him since I text lastnight round midnight I know he's at work so its okay. For someone to say I am good enough, Im great etc. But because of this condition Im no longer worth it. I dont want you, I acknowledged my own feelings and stpped focusing on his so much. I won't beg nor plead, love will prevail. If not he can step aside for the right man. When I see how discordant couples treat their mates, I want THAT love. We were married for 7 or 8 years. She reported the same symptoms I was familiar with. Namely, a feeling of depression , followed with with blisters in the genitals they take 2 to 3 weeks to disappear. At that point, I believe there is little chance of transmission of the virus, at least in males, in females, I don't know.

As i have said on previous posts, my wife contracted the virus even though i was not having any symptoms on the skin. There is evidence that there is "shedding' of the virus even though there are no physical symptoms, This is common medical knowlwdge, eepecially among females in the moist environment of the vagina during intercourse In my caes, this how it happened..

In my life since contracting herpes m in 1972 , I have chosen to become celibate, except for once in 2002 when i went online to a site called MPwH (meet peoople with herpes). The relationship was a train wreck. Not because of herpes, but just because we were incompatible.

I feel for you. There is a high likelihood he will get the herpes virus. But, it's not the end end of the world. Outbreaks of herpes are recurrent and you notice the skin symptoms at the very beginning. Between outbreaks, it is possible to not pass it on, especially if you are older when the virus becomes weak. Even if he gets it, at the risk of sounding crude, so what? Then you both have to adjust.

You may be right. I only know what happened to me. I don't think I would infect anyone between outbreaks, but I have never taken the chance. I would be mortified if I passed this thing on. It sure put the kibosh on the relationship department for me over the years.

I got genital herpes at 20. I am now 62.In my case, outbreaks are now only about every five years. When I was younger, about once a year. I can offer some advice for anyone with genital herpes, from long experience. First, there is a strong likelihood you will infect anyone in a long-term relationship. Second, a a high stress trauma can bring on an outbreak. Third (and, this one seems nuts), polyester underpants creates a friction against the genitals that triggers an outbreak.Throw out the man-made fabric underwear, buy only cotton. A couple other things... I've noticed that I get an unexplanable feeling of depression before outward skin symptoms appear. I also get a semi=painful twinge down the inside of my right leg. I assume this is the virus becoming awakened in the vagus nerve. The virus lives mainly dormant in the spinal nerve, but breaks out due to several circumstances such as what I mentioned above.