Hello friends,
Ive been lurking around this forum for some time now because i have been struggling emotionally to understand how my partner has contracted herpes. I will explain the situation in the simplest way possible using bullet points, and i hope some of you guys can help me make sense of the situation.
.I am male, and have been in a monogamous relationship with my male partner since 2012.
.We decided to wait for six months to get tested before having sex, just to make sure we were both STD free.
.The results came back negative for everything (including HSV2 igG and igM Elisa method) and we have been having unprotected sex.
.We both had oral HSV1 since we were kids.
.Our HSV2 antibody tests came negative for 2012, 2013, 2015.
.Our sex life went through a "drought" in the first half of 2016 (i don't know why)
.Come June 2016, my partner developed an itch in the anal area(about an inch inside the sphincter)
.My partner's lesions were swabbed and an HSV2 antibody blood test was administered( ELISA method, igG and igM), both results came positive for HSV2. His IgG was 22.910!
.All MY test results came back negative.
.6 months later and I'm still negative for HSV2 antibodies.
So here's the thing:
I love my partner so so much! He swears he hadn't cheated on me, and i have never cheated on him either, despite having felt sexually neglected for half of last year. I just do not understand how he got herpes 2 anally any other way!
if he had gotten it on his lips by via an innocent "peck" from someone unknowingly, that would make sense.
if i had given it to him, then i'd be positive around the same time, but i made sure to get tested 3 times just to make sure it wasn't a false negative and they all came back negative, 4 and 6 months after "exposure". I felt guilty for the slight possibility that i might have given it to him, but that was put to rest.
I hate how, because of this, doubt crept into my mind and seems to have nested there. I tried to think of all scenarios in which such an infection can be contracted which don't involve sexual contact but they all don't make sense at all, especially given the fact that the breakouts are inside the anus. If he had it from before we met, how likely is it that the 3 annual HSV2 tests we had were false negatives?!
I don't know what to think and i would be so appreciative and grateful to hear your opinions.
Thank you.