Stuckinashinybox

Awe I'm sorry :( You never know. It may not have been that. I am going to tell this guy I'm seeing that I just got diagnosed. I'll do it this week. I'm nervous but at the end of the day if it's meant to be then it will be. I just don't know how to do it.

Yes I've been sort of creeping them! I see him Saturday but we are having a play date with the kids and I don't have a vehicle right now as it broke down so it may be awkward to do it then. I'll see if I can see him sometime next week. I don't know want it to wait too long but I would like to be alone and even if we go to his place I would like to have my own ride out of there in case it goes weird. I've practiced disclosure 3 times as practice with people who have been interested in the past and all 3 were okay with it! Isn't that insane?? I'm feeling more positive about this already!

Thank you so much! I am going to tell him tomorrow. I think I'll take your advice and tell him I've had some symptoms and that I'm getting tested and that he should too. Maybe I'll tell him that it is important for us to find out who has it so we can make safe choices for the future? I don't know if I should act like it isn't going to tear us apart and that it isn't the end of the world or what. Maybe tell him the statistics? 1/4 women have it, 90% don't know, there's a 4% chance to get it, 2% with condoms and 1% with condoms and pills? That it's harder for men to get it? I really like this guy. It's the first guy I've felt this way for since puppy love in Jr high lol. Any suggestions are welcome...

I'm a little late but this gives me so much hope! I am disclosing tomorrow. I found out today, a month into dating. Wish me luck!

Did he ever respond?

I think you're the same girl helping me on my other post. Thank you for all of this information. It's very helpful. How did you deal with your initial diagnosis? I thought it would be easier because I know there may be a chance but it's not any easier.

Yes we are still seeing each other. If I get it now it will tell me negative if it's something I just got or positive if I've had it a while? Okay thank you. I'm seriously so scared. I've never felt so unloveable. I am only 23... I know it seems so stupid but I feel like broken goods now. This just hit me really hard. Now it's real. There's no more wondering anymore. I really don't know what to do. Everyone seems so positive on here and I just am so disappointed with myself. I was so uneducated on how it gets passed around. I just assumed you needed the sores to get it. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm so upset.

Yes it did. The first was unconfirmed but the doctor thought it to be type 2 because of where it was but now that I have a confirmed case I've been doing more research and I wonder if it was type 1 and now this is from my new boyfriend. I'm so confused. This was such an awful outbreak. Nothing like my assumed type 2 case from before. Maybe the doctor was right and it was type 2 but now I'm thinking it makes more sense if it was type 1 and now this is type 2 because I read type 1 is way more minor than type 2. She just told me because of where it was to safely assume it was type 2 and use precautions. The other 2 doctors told me not to worry unless it popped up again. This one for sure looked like the herpes pictures I had seen and read about online. It's kind of hard to process. Now that I have a confirmation. I know it's not the end of the world but it's really hitting me hard. I'm wondering if I should get a blood test to check to see if that was in fact a type 1. I have so many questions and I know it's not the end of world but it's hard to accept that this is for sure what I have now. No more wondering. It really is it.

2 years ago I had a case that I wasn't sure if it was or not. I went to 3 doctors and only one said it could be herpes and she thought maybe type 2 because of where it was. It was so minor so I never paid any mind because it was unconfirmed. 2 years later here we are and I slept with someone 2 weeks ago and I have this incredibly awful outbreak. 100x worse than what I had first assumed was a possible outbreak. I had 0 symptoms for that entire 2 years so I thought maybe the other 2 doctors were right. I had sex with him once with a condom about 2 weeks ago. I've seriously never experienced anything like this in my life. The doctor said it looked like a first outbreak and so now I'm wondering maybe this is my first outbreak and the other one was a false alarm because it was unconfirmed. How do I bring this up?

Got the results. Type 2 again!

I've had HSV2 for years. I only had one OB and it was so minor that 2/3 doctors told me that's not what it was. My new boyfriend went down on me a couple weeks ago and suddenly I have a full out outbreak. Is it possible I now have HSV1 and it's just affecting me worse? Do HSV1 and 2 affect you worse/lesser than the other? If I get tested will it tell me which one has infected me? Thank you in advance.