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So let's run the numbers with HSV2 - 1/6 people have it, 97% are unaware - so that would mean that 5 out of 1000 people know they have it....

Sorry to hear. To help people respond: What kind of info are you looking for? Did you get diagnosed by a doctor? Do you know what type of hsv you have? Did he give you meds?

I agree 100% - I would not wish HSV on anyone There is a risk with everything. The fundamental question is: is the girl worth the risk? A lot of people would say flat out no. The OP seems to think maybe.... which all HSV+ ppl want to hear. My point was there may be other things to worry about. Being on the other side of the coin - I am struggling with the possibility (risk) of infecting a loved one. Being a numbers person I lean on statistics / my compassion makes me question everything. herpes is a dating game changer for everyone

Ok so let's put a few things in perspective: Statistics indicate that if you used a condom perfectly there's about a 2% chance of pregnancy - in real life things aren't so perfect so statistics indicate actual effectiveness of about 85% (or a 15% chance that she'll get pregnant). Statistics show that women to man hsv transmission rates, with a condom, are about 5% (without antivirals AND no outbreak). Add antivirals (w/out an outbreak) and the risk goes to 2% I ask you: if you just had sex with a condom would you be worried about her being prego? The statics indicate that you should be more worried about that ;)

500mg 2x/day might be a little much considering that you are hardly having outbreaks. I thought the suppression dosage was 500mg/day based on less than 9 OB's/yr Anyway - personal opinion is that if you aren't having a lot of outbreaks and you don't need to be on suppression meds (aka you aren't dating) then why are you taking antivirals? Your body will build up its own immunity if you let it

A few comments: 1) I liken getting hsv from someone who KNOWS they have it (and don't disclose) as a form of sexual assault. As stabbing someone with a knife is not murder / passing hsv is not = to rape. My comments about rape were based on the victimization reponses to my question. So hard to prove, you asked for it, it was your fault... all of these responses are the same excuses of why not to pursue rapists... 2) yes I take responsibility for my actions. Wearing a low cut shirt does not mean that I want to be verbally assaulted / having unprotected sex does not mean I want your disease. 3) I am amazed at the victimization attitude 'woes me I have it and it's my fault'. My situation is obviously different in that I was infected by a habitual liar the reality is: someone infected you. 4) yes I have accepted myself and my life long disease / but that doesn't mean that I have love for the person who gave this to me. Having hate for this person does not mean that I hate myself you can pawn off herpes as no big deal but the reality is that it is a life long disease with no cure.

RG and L&C Exactly my first thoughts - until I asked myself: would you give the same advice to a rape victim? What if this victim was your sister / wife / mother?!? Then I thought: was this the advice rape victims got in the 1960's?!? Laws are in place to protect society - ignoring transgressions and walking away meekly could be the very reason I'm here with a life long sentence This could be a stepwise process - setting the authorities off to do their job does not take a ton of cash or effort... but I hear you too / this is something I have to live with either way so does it matter?!? Exactly my dilemma

Have you ever thought about suing the person who gave you herpes? Or threatening legal action knowing that the reason you were gifted was do to a non disclosure? In my state I can have her charged criminally and if convicted she will be labeled a sex offender for the next 25 years Is pursuing either spiteful revenge or my responsibility aka to ensure she doesn't do this to someone else?!?

Be responsible next time and disclose

I would ask: Are you on suppressive therapy? If u used a condom and she is on suppressive therapy - She was responsible - forgive & forget If she didn't insist on a condom and she's not on suppressive therapy - I would run. She is not thinking about you. A mix of the two - move cautiously.

I believe that suppression therapy can sway (or delay) a positive result for an initial outbreak as the blood test looks for the virus antibodies not the virus. I don't believe that suppression therapy will effect the results for someone who has had herpes for awhile (like longer than 6 months). I saw Adrian comment on this and did a ton of research / Terri was advising someone (on the web) who was newly diagnosed to stop suppression therapy before getting tested but did not come out & say this was due to an initial diagnoses.... Side note: I read an article that some HIV positive people can test negative while on HIV suppression therapy. This is a bit frightening as HIV is a killer / but the question was: is a negative test equal to not having it. A quagmire of legal and moral questions Anyways I'm not 100% sure what the deal is for HSVx....

Are you sure anti vitals can influence the igg blood test?

I would think that suppressive meds would slow your bodies response to building antibodies BUT since you've been having constant ob's your body may need help. Supression meds surpress the virus from multiplying which helps you immune system get control. Over time your body gets better at fighting the virus. You may want to go to 1/2 a tab 2x a day and see if you have any ob's before you go completely off. If ur female you may need extra help at that time of the month b/c I understand hormones can also affect things If you want an educated opinion I would talk to your doctor as I am not one

highly unlikely You'll need to wait 12 weeks to get a blood test

@countrygirl13 - I know EXACTLY what you're talking about - I'm a month into learning that I'm hsv2+ so I've struggled with many of the same questions. My twist is that I started dating someone about 2-1/2 weeks ago - may not seem like a big deal, but the connection we have forced me to start a disclosure discussion. I waited about 4 dates before I had the courage to open up - I couldn't go months because I wanted either acceptance or rejection. I dont have the energy to invest in a relationship unless theres a possibility its going somewhere. I emailed her my disclosure because I couldn't find a good opportunity to say: btw, I have herpes. I also wanted her to have a chance to digest before being forced to make any decisions. This email opened up some honest, frank, deep conversations that actually moved the relationship forward. We had sex this past weekend... I've gone from thinking I would be celibate the rest of my life to having a deep connection with an amazing person in 31 days. My new thinking is: don't stress too much about herpes - easier said than done - but, when the right person comes along they will work with you or they will move on. If they stay, you have a better chance of having that deeper connection we all want Cheers.