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Lol yes I do agree with that @omei

Yes! @dave I am with you 1000%! Before doing my research, the stigma made me feel worse than actually having it.

Yea I can definitely relate to you on the intimacy thing. Been there and done that haha! Honestly I'm a veryyy private person so it takes a lot for me to want to disclose to someone. I pay attention to their vibe, how they are when I'm around and when I'm not around, the connection we have. Once I feel in my gut that I'm ready, I go for it. Always trust your instict. Honestly out of everyone I disclosed to, I've only had 1 rejection. Hoenestly I feel that it was the way I disclosed bc I thought I was "dirty" and he was one of those temporary guys that I now stay away from. @onedayworthit

Thank you for reading and commenting. Dealing with my situation has definitely had its ups and downs. I do constantly have those internal battles. But I must say it isn't all bad. It's definitely a learning experience that I can appreciate as weird as that may sound. I'm so sorry to hear about your divorce but you know what. Once you overcome, you'll be 2x's as strong. Of course the road to recovery is a tough one. But once you reach that end point, man it's the best feeling in the world. So you've got this! These forums have been so great to me. Waiting for the day I post my success story here. Again thank you for commenting, it made my morning :) @hikinggirl

So I've contracted anal hsv1 6 months ago(I say anal bc out of my 3ob including my initial, I haven't had any around my vag). It has definitely been an eye opener. I'll never forget the night I got it. There was no penetration, just skin to skin contact...I had just shaven with a dull razor...2 weeks later I got horrible symptoms and the worst phone call ever. I cried and cried, the guy who gave it to me called me "dirty". I'll never forget it...the same day I found out, I disclosed horribly to someone I was interested in. He never spoke to me again after that. That made me feel worse. I had serious suicidal thoughts and I was beyond depressed. It was a process getting to where I am now. I shut myself out from everyone and just researched until I was informed and more comfortable. I've disclosed 5-6x's with only 1 rejection. I haven't had sex with all the people I disclosed to but it made me feel soooo much better knowing that they didn't look at me any different. Now I'm so much more confident, there are times I think of the guy who gave it to me and I do get upset. Sometimes at myself for not being more cautious. Sometimes at him for how he reacted or even that he gave it to me. But then I think, what if he didn't know? What if he was afraid? Of course it isn't right but being on this side of the h-line, I can sort of understand. Me personally, I'd die just knowing I hurt anyone by not disclosing or by passing it onto them. As far as dating, I haven't really been dating much. I've been chatting with guys but having H as made me very picky. I'm more attentive to how they are towards me. If it seems like they're only after sex or just looking for someone to pass their time or heal a wound created my someone else, I cut them off. Why waste both our time or even bother to disclose when I know this is a temporary situation? I'm more sure of what I want now more than ever and I refuse to settle. I haven't had sexual encounters in 5 out of the 6 months just for personal reasons. Again, I do want something more serious so why disclose for a quick fling? And if it's awful I'm going to be highly upset lol. There are times though that I still battle with my brain. I wonder if I'm ever going to find the one? When my next rejection will come? If I'm ever going to receive oral again(boy do I miss it haha!)? Just a bunch of things. But then I step back and look at all the positive. I'm finally learning myself and what I want. I'm finally becoming a strong woman. I'm finally not settling out of fear. I love that feeling and how far I've come...

Congrats! How did you disclose? When did you decide the time was right? Were you nervous?

Love this. The little confidence I needed this am <3

I'm in the same boat. I had my first ob December around this time. It was awful. Mine is around my anus(hsv1). I was put on valacyclovir 2x a day for 10 days. It cleared up rather quickly. A few days ago I started getting the tingling/itching about a week ago. I hopped on the meds again asap to try and catch it before I had the ob(bc that's what the internet said to do...the doctors at the free clinic were no help). It took about a week for the ob to appear and the sore is a a lot bigger that the tiny minions of sores I had last month...and it's just one. I'm so confused as to how i could have a second ob of type 1 so soon when I read that it happens so rarely. I'm so not looking forward to dealing with this every month. I don't want to take constant meds bc I already take thyroid medication daily...that's more than enough that I need to deal with. I'm starting to get frustrated but I'm really trying hard not to get deep in my thoughts :-/

Hey! So from my understanding skin to skin contact means contact at the site of infection. So if you don't have it orally you're fine. You can kiss and cuddle without worry :)

Wow! Amazing videos!

I was diagnosed with hsv1 genital herpes December 2016. I'm still trying to suck up every piece of information I can find. I'm also trying to live normally and not be so hard on myself. I've been dating but I struggle with disclosure...when to disclose and how. I also fear sex bc I don't want to infect anyone. I would love a buddy to chat with. Maybe if I can speak about it with a friend who understands, it'll help with what I'm going through. 27/female NY LI. Please please message me all friends are welcome :)