butters1111

we're in the same boat. I discussed all this with the doctors but the medical community is not in agreement with what you said. They explained that medically that not all people who show the anti body shed or have outbreaks. They told me that many people who are Asymptomatic do not shed and do not spread the virus. There is no test for shedding. They say they struggle with this all the time as what to tell patients who show anti bodies but are Asymptomatic. Some shed and some don't. Chances are I have had it for 30 years plus and never transmitted it. I'm not trying to follow myself just telling you what 3 doctors have told me.

I am 52 and recently had a blood test that showed I have antibodies of HSV 1 and HSV 2. It was quite a shock because I have never had a genital outbreak. I have however been getting cold sores every few years on my lip since I was a child. So how long have I had it? Good question and a question I can't answer. Could have had it for 30 years or more, but never transmitted to my wife of 20 years or any women since my divorce. I went to my GP Doctor. Top of his field. He told me that if I have never had an outbreak then it is impossible to know if I have the virus. He said there is no test for it. I then went to a skin doctor then a urologist. They told me the same. They said the only way to know if I carry it is if I have an outbreak and they can test it. I asked about disclosure. The doctors actually had a phone call to try to figure out what to tell me. They didn't know. They all felt that it is impossible to know if I carry the virus. In Canada, the medical field tells patients that show anti bodies but have not had an outbreak that they do not need to disclose. I have thought about this and will definitely disclose. But would love your input. P

thanks for sharing

it means he was not the right person for you! universe will find that person. stay strong, chin up.