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Anyone out there familiar with these symptoms and how long do they last. She's been having trouble sleeping

Thank you Katidid This is what we need to hear....positivity

So my wife experienced her initial outbreak and it obviously wasn't good. She had some problems trying to urinate which has gotten better. About 2 weeks ago she started to experience some pain in her calfs and and thighs and these pains still haven't gone away. She now has pain in her tailbone area. Some days are better than others Please tell me this goes away! And is there anything she can do to help alleviate what I'm assuming are nerve pain issues? Thank you in advance

Thank you both optimist and hiking girl, yes I have to change my way of thinking to support her better.

I asked earlier but it was probably overlooked, can women exercise, run, etc while having an outbreak. I asked my wife if she could have during this initial episode and she said "no way" so I'm hoping since recurrences generally are not as intense is this a possibility. Are there women who exercise while having a recurrence?

Thank you again Optimist and no that's not too much TMI, it's exactly what I need to help her. She's good looking and she knows it but Im sure she's feeling down and I need to verbally express how hot I think her lady parts are :)

Thank you optimist, My wife is a strong woman but no one deserves this. I feel so guilty when I look at her and even my kids.......I feel like I messed up their mom a little. my wife knows I feel like crap and she's at times consoling me which makes me feel worse but I'm not showing it(or I don't think I am anyway) I'm sorry, I just thought of another question, once things are healed up down there and she's in a better mood I want to try and have sex with her asap because she has told me how dirty and gross she feels now and I will never want to have sex with her again. Which is ridiculous, I want her to feel loved and as sexy as ever but I'm wondering if that might be too soon, I was reading sex sometimes triggers recurrences....is this correct?

Thank you Hiking girl, I appreciate the quick response. I was thinking along the lines you advised. Giving her space and just supporting her as much as I can. Another question popped up, when an outbreak happens are you able to exercise, hike, run etc. or is this a no go? And thank you about your comment regarding my mental health, unfortunately that's going to take some time. I feel horrible, my wife is the sweetest woman and I want to see her smile again

I'm a male mid 40's, married 2 children, and I'm a mess right now. My wife is getting over an initial OB, she visited her OBGYN who was great and really put my beautiful wife at ease considering the situation. When my wife 1st mentioned her symptoms we searched internet and all results were coming back H, we were both in shock and said no way. Well she made an appt and I kept scouring the Internet and educating myself on this disease and I'm positive I'm the giver. Here's my story, I've had cold sores since I was a teenager but I guess it was never a big deal to me or anyone around me, I was never made fun of because of this. In my mid 20's I was also in a few relationships and to be honest(one night stands). These past 2 weeks I've been reading everything on internet and this forum and I never knew symptoms can be mild or have none at all. well in my mid 20's I remember having a small stinging pimple(s) on my swollen foreskin of penis but it healed up quickly and I didn't think anything of it again, after that I can recall the same thing happen maybe 3 or 4 times over my lifetime but very long stretches between and not very painful, felt like when you try popping a zit .I thought it was from friction of either sex or masturbation. I think I've also experienced that tingling feeling in legs but not certain. From what I remember about Sex Ed in high school I never had anything like the pictures they showed you in those classes. I have an appt with my doctor scheduled for early next week and I plan on getting myself tested but I've resigned myself to......I'm the Dbag who gave my beautiful, sweet, loving, incredible wife.....Herpes. I can't believe what an idiot I was, was it denial? Why wasn't I more aware of my body, I rarely go to Dr, I have a strong immune system, rarely get sick She's' taking it ok so far but I know her and it's just a matter of time before she breaks down and it really hits her. I want to be there for her and help her as much as I can. I've already ordered almost everything recommended to help ease outbreaks,(lysine, alum ammonia etc) I just don't want my wife to lose her spark for life, she's active(career woman and into running) My questions 1. Does it really get better with outbreaks, my wife said what she just went through was horrible 2. I understand she's not going to get over the physiological effects any time soon but do a lot of people really get back to normal...really? 3. What can I do to help? I still love her tremendously and want to help her get back to normal as quick as possible Sorry for the long post, I'm a mess and trying to support her in anyway I can.