Libragirl

@ash2018 Thank you! I'm still learning.. so much to figure out.

Can I transmit my genital hsv2 to a partner who doesn't have it if I give them oral sex?

@futurelawyer I felt the exact same way you did. I joined a couple dating sites one is POF the other is positive singles. And i met my current partner on positive singles. When I was on POF I just disclosed on the site but didn't include my picture (for obvious reasons) but I would share my picture with them after talking and getting to know someone first. I had many people message to tell me they also had it, some people message and ask questions, others were just flat out attracted based on my honesty alone. I even made friends with some guys on there who were concerned they thought they had it but we're too scared to go find out for sure and I provided support to these people. I dated a few people from POF none of them had hsv, one guy I dated for a while included a doctor. I say get out there and give it a shot because there are plenty of open minded people and I found that if anything it helped rebuild my confidence to get back out there again.

I do have an appointment in a few weeks... but I'm curious now and know people here are so helpful and educated. I have met someone who has the same thing I do. We are obviously still safe and using protection as I'm not using birth control and both going to go through all the tests again to be sure neither of us has anything else. Anyway I was looking into the iud as an option or the depo shot.. was wondering if anyone with hsv2 has had any issues with either. I'm also still fairly newly diagnosed but have gotten my OB's under control for the most part with daily supplements, healthy diet and regular work out sessions. Any advice/stories with either birth control options would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

@hikinggirl thank you so much! And I agree these forums got me through the first few weeks when I was scared and feeling alone and like no one would ever love me like this. I soon realized it isn't that big of a deal and everyone that I have told has been so accepting of it, whether it be family, friends or guys who were interested in me. I am hoping to find out which strain it is but I was told I have to wait for an outbreak so that we could swab it and have a definitive answer. I'm still unsure which blood test was ordered but since I wasn't actively having an OB my practitioner told me that having blood work done would be the best way to go. She did state that if I have ever had a cold sore that it would come back positive regardless but I had never had a cold sore so I figured this was the best way to confirm what I already knew was the case. So I guess in the meantime we'll just have to take things slowly in regards to our sex life. I'm just happy I found someone who is so patient with me, I know he'll understand because it's about our health.

I started online dating as well but I disclosed in my profile. I still have many people message me knowing that is all I put in my profile. Guys find my honesty attractive. Some people ask questions and I answer them the best I can. I've had over 20 people send me msgs to tell me they have it as well.. yet nothibg states that in their profile. And I've had people msg to ask questions about themselves scared they might have it and I become a support for them. Any guy that messages with an interest tho knows about herpes and isn't scared off by it. I really thought this was a dealbreaker myself but online dating has done nothing but boost my confidence. And I met someone amazing (Who also has herpes) who has been so patient with me while I take my time to get used to the idea if being sexual again. Disclosure was so scary for me but now I do it with confidence :)

So I'm new to this whole diagnosis. I am grateful for this site because this is what has gotten me through my rough days. I am now doing ok with the whole diagnosis and realize it's not that big a deal. I'm ready to get back out there and start living my life again. I have met someone who also has herpes, we haven't been sexual.. he's been beyond patient with me. However I would like to get back to my sexual self again. It's been 4 months since my diagnosis but I'm unsure if it is hsv1 or hsv2. The swabs haven't been detecting which strain it is, but my bloodwork came back positive. And we were only sure of it because I have never had a cold sore in my life. Anyway the issue.. can I still have oral sex with my new partner? Will I get oral herpes if I do that? And vice versa? I just don't want to show up with my arsenal of dental dams to go along with the condoms he's already purchased. I know he doesn't get oral cold sores either.. so I don't want to add to our already embarrassing issues. I mean at least you can't see when we're having an OB. And I know he is also paranoid about getting it other places as well cause he is also fairly new to the diagnosis and doesn't know which strain he has either. Any advice is greatly appreciated.