Nirmike

Well I obviously haven't been great at picking partners either so what do I know. I'll be 30 this month, I've got no kids, I've been divorced already and I'll have had mouth herpes for over 20 years...... seems like a winning combination. The good thing I've got going is whenever my mom says anything about grandkids I get to say well maybe you should have been a responsible parent and not gave your child herpes because now nobody wants to make babies with this. Lol Yea condoms arent alot of guys favorite things but alot of guys dont mind em. And genital hsv1 shouldn't be an issue to someone who really wants to be with you since its generally 1 outbreak or just 1 or 2 a year and it's pretty mild I've read for men. If a man does any real research on it most people say it really isnt bad just the stigma. I feel like maybe in downplaying it though because I have it and I'd want someone to look at the best case scenario if it was for me. I cant say I would tell a girl I'm in if she said she had hsv2..... I cant ever kiss or have oral sex without the risk of giving a girl herpes...... I dont know any girl who wants to spend the rest of her life without either of those. I read up on dental dams and the overall consensus from women was I'd rather get herpes than have a man use that on me again...... didnt give me much hope there....

Yea the guys that I have seen with it are all oral herpes and I had to catch them putting stuff on it. Genital is alot easier to hide. Never in my life have I ever seen anyone admit they had it. I did get std tested after my divorce and I did tell people I'd had a cold sore before so I tested positive for that kind of herpes but everyone is like oh yea well it's a form of herpes. I left it alone but in my head I'm like nope its herpes.... there isnt any real difference..... I was surprised how noone really said anything about it. I do know some people in the medical field and from what they say it's an extremely promiscuous job field. Lots of doctors and nurses hooking up. You would think there would have to be some STDs getting passed around but I'm sure noone wants to admit it. I have the same shame and undsrairable feeling. The worst part is there is people that do desire me but I just feel like I'm a walking infection on the planet and that I should be celibate or something...... when i got my divorce lots of people tried to set me up with daughters or sisters or in laws and I couldn't date any of them because how do I tell them hey if you've never had a cold sore theres a good chance you could get one if you stick with me. Based on my one experience it's a little easier with a stranger. I've been very blessed in my life and I have a nice house and nice things but I feel the same disappointment with having hsv..... what's it matter if I have this stuff if I can never feel clean with someone or why do I even workout if I still will have mouth herpes.... One thing I read about disclosing with genital is just say it's a cold sore but down there and it's less contagious than having cold sores on your mouth. I know people seem to respond alot different to calling them cold sores vs herpes. Also you could ask if they've ever had a cold sore before. They say it's extremely rare to get the same form in more than one place. So you for instance would have a hard time catching it orally. But that's alot easier said than done I know, when I told her I was all terrified but some people say it's no big deal. We had talked for a couple months before we kissed so it seemed a little easier for her to stick around when she liked me alot already. I actually did it when she made a herpes joke and I was like well I think most people have herpes so...... and when she asked if I did I said I've got a cold sore before so yea..... another good thing for you is you can kiss people without worrying about transmitting it if you wanted so you could let your relationships go a little further before you tell anyone so you can have a better chance at them liking you for you beforehand.

I think the same thing all the time...... if you go hsv1 in general the advertised statistics are 50% of people from age 14-49, so that's 1 in 2...... I have worked with 60+ guys for 12 years and only seen 1 other person have a visible cold sore. I did catch 2 putting some abreva on but they never had a visible cold sore so I guess they are like me and can feel them and apply the cream before anyone else can see them. Including me that's 4 out of 60 people.......... most of the guys I work with are man whores to. It's literally a joke how few women I've slept with in my life. And alot of the guys I see go to bars and cheat on their wives or are single and with a different girl every weekend and I wonder how i got stuck with this disease from my mom being an idoit and thinking it was alright to kiss me with a cold sore..... I wonder how accurate asymptomatic shedding is because I can feel one when noone can see it and the skin looks fine. I can still feel the tingle or nerve pain even if it never develops. Maybe I'm also just hypersensitive to it for having it so long. I really wonder how accurate the statistics are and if they just make them sound good so us that have it can try and sleep at night. They say 1 in 2 have hsv1 and 1 in 5 have genital herpes but it seems like they always follow it up with and 85% of people dont even know they have it. So are they just pulling these numbers out of thin air?! I know noone wants to go around advertising they have it but dang where are all these people....... I read so much on here where people find love and other people that dont care about them having hsv but I just feel like with the statistics being supposedly so high how could we have trouble finding someone that already has it? If you have ghsv1 finding someone with oral hsv1 shouldn't be an issue since you shouldn't be able to transfer it to each other. But I know the depression and shame asking the question is there.... I never tell anyone its herpes I just say cold sores because for some reason people dont seem to equate the 2.... My main concern is if she was to get it from me would it totally destroy our relationship. I know I disclosed and I literally told her you know being with me you could get herpes and ruin your life but she is still here for now. Last time I freaked about it she said next time i get a cold sore I'm gonna lick it. But I know things change when you actually get it and i would be as supportive as possible and do everything I could for her to help her through it but I know she would be depressed and I would be filled with guilt if it ever happened. I guess that's what this forum is here for is us to find other people to talk to about all this.

I feel the same way..... I've had oral cold sores since I was a kid. I have tons of resentment against my mother for giving them to me. I was with the same girl since I was 16 to last year when she was unfaithful. She also had hsv1 so it was a non issue. Now that I'm back in the dating life it sucks. I have a girlfriend who I disclosed I get cold sores to and she says it's no issue and if she gets it she gets it but all I can think is how much she will hate me if we dont work out. I am terrified to perform oral sex for fear of ruining her life. If we break up I dont know how I'll go about dating. I may just stay single but I really enjoy companionship and having someone to come home and share my life with especially someone I love. I feel like I'll go crazy if I have to spend my life alone. I also have noone at all to talk to about this. I've discussed with the gf a couple times my fears and the possibility of her getting it but she is unphased and says she probabaly has it to but shes never had any symptoms she can recall. I also dont feel comfortable letting her know just how much it effects me. I tried talking to my mom but she just thinks this is no big deal and that I'm making something out of nothing. Cant talk to any friends about this because then I'll be the joke that has herpes. Luckily as I've gotten older my symptoms arent enough to be visible but I can feel them. Theres alot of us out there supposedly but I never see them and it feels like were the only ones that have it. Wish I could help you out but theres alot of us in the same boat. I do know that genital hsv1 is supposed to be better than oral hsv1. Less shedding, less outbreaks, and it isnt something everyone can see on your face. But I know that isnt what you wanna hear.

I was very nervous about it. Especially after reading so many people saying they never even knew they had hsv2 because the hsv1 make the 2 asymptomatic. I still have had cold sores though..... the stigma might not be as bad but I still hate that now I have to date and worry about giving it to my partner.... dental dams just sound terrible like no woman would be happy with that and my dr wont give me antiviral meds..... but even if he did I'd still be worried about giving this to someone.... I've told my new girlfriend about the cold sores and she said everyone gets them but shes never had one so now I'm very scared I could them to her even when no symptoms are showing.....

So I was very nervous about having hsv2 tests come back positive after reading so much about hsv1 causing the hsv2 tests to show a false positive. I figured I would follow back up with so many posts about hsv1 crossover. But my dr called with my results and I was negative for hsv2. Thanks God. I'd been stressing about this to much and the internet is the best place to find stuff to make you worry more.

I dont think I have it but I worry my test will come back with a false positive. Does me having cold sores greatly increase the risk of that? How common is it for people to be hsv1 positive and hsv2 negative. I guess the amount of threads I see on the internet where it seems everyone that has hsv1 also tests positive for hsv2 had me worried.

I recently had an std test done and asked specifically for a herpes test. I had cold sores when i was a kid so he said he felt no need to test for hsv1 but would test for hsv2. My ex, I had been with for 12 years and had vaginal and oral unportected sex with often, had an std test done with swabs and blood and she tested positive for hsv1 negative across the board for hsv2. But when i went to leave he said he felt confident I didnt have hsv2 based on what I'd told him but to let me know i may get a positive result but it would be a false positive if it came back but it wasnt very common to get false positives but he didnt want me to worry. Well I left feeling alright but after googling the multiple people with false positives I'm freaking myself out..... does me having hsv1 cold sores since I was about 5 years old make it more or less likely to give a false hsv2 positive? Is it something that is extremely common to get the false positive? What numbers should I look for to see if it's likely a false positive or not if it does come back positive?

I've had cold sores since I was a little kid. My mom used to make a big deal about kissing me and drinking after her when i was a little kid and now I have cold sores for the rest of my life. I work really late and have been under some stress the last year so I went to the doctor and he gave me some valacyclovir. I've had 2 back to back cold sores and my prescription says to take 2 pills twice a day. So I took the max prescription for about 3 days and 1000 MG of lysine and Abreva constantly to try and knock them out. I've been noticing I urinate constantly since I took the medicine but I feel dehydrated. Is this normal? It's never happened before. I read kidney failure can be a side effect but I don't think I've been taking any extreme of a dose to cause that. Does anybody else have this issue?