Peggy

Get ready for the experience of a lifetime! Its going to rock!!!!

Im so sorry that you felt so sad.....you just need a little time...he sounds like a good person. And remember there are so many other things you can do romantically!!! I date men with HSV and without and if I had a physical issue I just work around it...they have always left with a smile on there face. Anyone that cares for you will be understanding:) I do want to mention in the begining I was way more gun shy. As time went on (15 months ago now) Im right back in the saddle:) That's why herpes is such a great filter. I wish you all good things!

MY THEREPY WAS THE HOPP WEEKEND SEMINAR!!!! Not yelling just excited. No lie I found Adrial days after my diagnosis...went to the seminar 2 months later. I then took his on line course. I put all of his tools into my daily routine. It changed my life forever! The forum has really helped too. We are not alone! On that note I think therapy rocks and I have been many times. Where else can you pay people to talk about me LOL! We all heal and cope in different ways...Im so happy that you have made this decision for yourself. You deserve an amazing life!!! Please let us know how its going!

Soooo awesome! Im so proud of your courage and self love.....Its hard to be authentic when you feel like you have to hide your truth!!!!!How empowering!!! Woop Woop!

so awesome and that's what its all about!!! Im so happy for you such courage to be vulnerable!!! thanks for the inspiration!

Very cool!

First Let me promise you that this will all change I mean that I PROMISE...I felt exactly the same...not to one up you I found out I had HSV 1 and HSV 2 and a 3rd curable STD!!! I was shocked and devastated. I thought I was doomed in life and romantically. Promise me that you will breathe and try and take some of the emotion out...I know that can be difficult. I know for me that it was not the skin rash but the STIGMA that scared me to death. I was one of the most judgmental people ever! I thought it was Karma! Then slowly one day at a time I just took it easy on myself...and just thought what do I need to do to be ok with this? You are so much more than a skin rash....please take the time to watch all of Adrial's videos. Also talk with him..he gave me the tools to change my life forever...I mean it when I tell you I would not change a thing...I thought I was living before all of this? NOPE....now I am living the life I have always wanted. Its not perfect everyday but it is authentic. I am here for you if you need a friend....are you going to the HOPP seminar? I will be there it is an amazing life changer! If not do what works for you.. People that judge you don't deserve you....we are all different and it just takes time. I'm glad your on the forum:)

I live in Florida tooo!

Hi there:) I am right there with you. In the beginning I thought I was a walking virus! To everyone including myself. Don't believe everything you read. I wear contacts so I was very concerned as well. So here are a few funny ones! I thought I could no longer be intimate with anyone and If I had my own party I had rubber gloves and a Vat of lube LOL! And when I started being intimate again I had a giant pump bottle of anti bac by the bed and the moment we were done I was slathering us both down with it lol! romantic right! Lol! so now Ive taken it down 12 notches! The gloves are off!! Just be cautious with fluids and the eyes. Especially if you have an OB You are fine and you are normal as time passes you will realize how to have balance in what works for you.

With the seminar just a couple of weeks away...I just really felt like sharing some insight. When this all happened for me 15 months ago I was shocked and devastated. I could not sleep and found myself doing research on the web. Its there that I found Adrial and the H OPP forum. All I could think about was that these people were in the same boat. I knew that going to the seminar last year would at the very least help me to not feel alone. I knew that I would hopefully gain a better perspective on living life with HSV1 and HSV2. Well I thought I knew but I had no idea!!! To be welcomed into this very personable group of people was amazing!!! The kindness and support the honestly the love and compassion that surrounded me was amazing. It was almost like we had met before. And that's because we all shared so many things in common. We made friends and I still maintain these friendships. I also loved that there was no pressure...everyone was able to be and express only what they felt comfortable in doing. There were no expectations and no judgments. I felt safe. It was interesting hearing so many different perspectives and getting to know each other. Who knew such great connections could happen through something I felt was so negative at the time. In those 3 days I learned so much.. the way they helped me to see myself for the real human being that I am was a first for me...Funny by the time it was over I realized that there was so much more to me than this skin rash. Sometimes you have to see yourself through others eyes to really understand what you are worthy of. So The 2014 seminar is just around the corner I have counted the days..I am healthier and happier mentally physically and spiritually than I have ever been before..I know that the tools I was given are so much of what brought me to this place. If you have not had the chance to do this you really owe it to yourself. You deserve it and you are worth it! If your going I can't wait to meet you!!! Feel free to ask me any questions you might have. Thank you for letting me share my experience. The H OPP will always be a part of my life:)

Ok so here is my 2cents....You are an amazing real person and you feel close enough to this person to want to disclose to them..Awesome! Here is what makes it easier for me. If this person really cares about you they will want to understand. Also I agree with the fact that sometimes people are afraid or ignorant. I used to be that person... I would speak from the heart and OWN it...because you are a beautiful human being with a skin rash! Just be calm and honest. I also think that its important to give it a chance to sink in don't pressure just let nature take its course. And offer any factual information they may need. For me here is the bottom line this person may or may not be ok with herpes and I hope that they are ok with it. Just remember if they are not ok with it... it may hurt in the moment..but it does not make you less of a person It does not change you and your courageous heart. And you will know and you will be a stronger person for it. It will also show great insight to that person and their integrity...Just be you that is all we can control:) I kow your gonna shine!!!

So great to meet you on here! I am here if you need anyone to talk too! You sound like your really taking care of yourself! I love that! have a great night! Peggy

Ok so I have to give a SHAMELESS shout out to the up and coming Herpes seminar...It is going to be such an amazing weekend!!! The support knowledge and caring will be over flowing. I went last year and for me it changed EVERYTHING!!! I cannot imagine not being part of it! I hope to see everyone there. We deserve to live an amazing life! Thank you Adrial!

HMMMM that's odd I live in Florida and have no outbreaks, maybe its because I have always lived here and my body is used to the climate? Weirdly enough I had only one outbreak and that was in OKC? funny:)

Hi you sound like you are going through all the normal things that occur when we find out we have herpes...I know you don't know me....but herpes does not define you at first it is totally devastating. I found out I had HSV 1 and 2 15 months ago, my life was basically shattered. Then I thought well am I done living? do I deserve to be judged? Will people think I'm disgusting?....guess what none of the above. It is so human to have these feelings but they just are not true. You are worthy of love and an amazing full life. Remember this is just a skin virus if it was on your knee who would care? Its the stigma and the stigma is a lie. Just take this day by day and the people that really care will be there to support you. You deserve a wonderful life. I would love to talk if you need a friend. Be good to yourself! Peggy

Hi I just wanted to share and say please be kind to yourself. Everything you are feeling is totally normal. I was devastated. Just keep doing what your doing and take the emotion out of it...as much as you can. Everyone on here has shared really great advice. Also yes sex can be painful this is a side effect of herpes..however and sorry I have to be straight forward because I want to help... you must use plenty of lubricant...also for me it is only for the first few movements...tell your mate to take it very slow at first...then slowly it should get a little easier. It literally can feel like thorns at first so remember to relax..I promise it gets better. Also don't assume that you have to use any medication..if your symptoms are not to bad see if your able to go with it. I have had this for 15 months and have had only 1 outbreak. The L-Lysine is awesome and 2 tbl spoons of apple cider vinegar a day. No matter what you will be fine it seems you have a caring partner. Just take it slow and keep communication open. Herpes does not define you and the amazing gift that you are...please remember that. I am here if you need a friend.. Hugs Peggy

Don't believe the stigma! Be the amazing beautiful person you were meant to be! Stigma is not the truth its a lie! S-Shameful T-Tainted I- Ignorance G-Guilty M-Murderer A- Abusive If you stop and realize we are all only devastated by herpes because of the stigma and fear that people believe it. Its a creation of ignorance and judgments not based on facts! Once you realize this you can truly move forward. Don't we all deserve that!:) Stigma is UGLY and this is a fact! We are awesome and deserve the best in life!!

Hi there I found what you wrote so honest and real! I have only had H for a year. I felt exactly the way that you felt. Just give it a little time to sink in. DON'T JUDGE YOURSELF you did not do this. Someone gave it to you. Yes we made some choices that maybe were not smart in the moment. We are all human. I am here to tell you that you are not a failure and you have your whole life ahead of you! You are so great at expressing your feelings. I hope your keeping a journal it really helps to vent. My life is better than it has ever been. I am healthier than I have ever been. And I date in the H world and out of it. I still have some things that I am working on but things get better every day. And just FYI I still don't get intimate with anyone without that piece of paper and I never will. I am happy to help in any way that I can. Please call if you need a friend. I can privately give you my number. The biggest advice I can give is to stay on this website. Adrial helped me change my life. His weekend seminar is so amazing full of love and support. I am going this year as well. Please don't feel alone I swear it gets so much better!!!! Big hugs Peggy.

A lot has happened in the last year. I just wanted to take a moment and share a few thoughts. I found out 1 year ago today that I have herpes. Like many of you I was totally Devastated. I tried to find out all that I could about HSV and learn to be ok with it in my mind. It was then that I found the Hopp forum and Adrial. So today my friends is a new day! I live a happy healthy and fulfilling life. I work out and eat healthy. I meditate and am grateful for every day. I am honestly in better shape mentally and physically than I have ever been! I do date both in and out of the H world. And I am 48 years old!! Ok so here's the thing...life is not perfect and hey it never was....But now I realize who and what really matters in my life. And I am honestly ok that I have herpes. I still have things I'm working on and they may take time... but herpes taught me to learn how to love and protect myself...it taught me boundaries and self respect...where would I be if Herpes never happened? Please make no mistake I'm not happy that I have it. But every day herpes made me realize and appreciate so many things that I never would have seen otherwise. I want you to know I truly felt like life, love sex and companionship were over for me. I was wrong its all just begun. Thank you for letting me share. Thank you Hopp and Adrial and all of you! Peggy

I feel for everyone with this confusion. I still can't read my medical report correctly. I even brought the records to several clinics and they were not able to clarify. They just looked at the report and said the numbers indicate that you have Herpes...The only true fact that I have is I have had a couple of minor outbreaks. I initially went in because I thought I had razor burn...Anyway this all drives me to do the research and find out the facts...We deserve the facts Right:)

I had to add to this, I find it frustrating that there are so many half truths out there about herpes...I have had HSV 1 and 2 for 9 months. There are still so many medical details that I am not clear on? Dr's contradict each other. I know of many people that say you can only get herpes if someone has an outbreak NOT TRUE! I was also told that you cannot get HSV2 from orally transferring with number one in the mouth? I'm with you I would love some clarity the absolute do's and don'ts so that we can protect ourselves and others. As I find out true facts I will be happy to share them. Thanks for letting me comment:)

thank you everyone :-)

Thank you!:)

I decided to take the Herpes home course with Adrial (The Creator of the H Opp.) As usual I felt compelled to share. I have been dealing with herpes for 9 months now, Wow I can't believe how time has gone by! Its almost impossible to share how my life has transformed! First with the H OPP weekend and now this course. I swear this is the truth and not a shameless plug...Every time I think I have a grasp on my thoughts, life and attitude Adrial helps me look deeper into another layer of myself. I keep exposing Life long patterns and ways of thinking that just no longer suit me. For me the truth is that I have realized The things that held me back actually have nothing to do with having herpes at all. Any negativity that I seem to have is really from some old bad experience or some wrong way of thinking. Sometimes the easiest answers are staring us right in the face! I guess I wanted to share this with all of you as a reminder. we are so worth it...we cannot let the stigma of herpes win!! I know for me that once I really took a look at my life before and after herpes such a small part of it was affected because of the actual skin rash...It was my attitude and viewpoint and the beliefs of others that had the most impact...and now with the help of Adrial and this website I can see clearly. I have actually shocked myself I never expected the possibility of a better life living with herpes. I can see what's real and move forward with new standards and integrity. Thanks for letting me share!

Defeated.....you sound like you have way too much spirit to even have that word included in your username :-) I wanted to let you know how sorry I am that you felt this way the other night I know what a lonely horrible feeling it is to feel alone in all of this in the beginning for me 5 months ago it was total devastation! but then everything changed.... and to be honest I hope you're reading all of the threads that adrial places on this website. I promise if you take it step by step and just remember its you that is important. I have played that every terrible scenario in my head believe me! There is so much freedom and acceptance in just realizing it is what it is..once you have accepted this it really clears your mind and enables you to move forward. in a similar situation that you are with the gentleman at least regarding what you have posted obviously we don't know the details...there is no one that can make you feel better about having this except for you. people can tell us what we want to hear but deep down it comes from inner acceptance. I cannot stress enough the value in the tools on this website they changed my life forever! Just take it step by step and love yourself and take time to breathe. I feel so sad that you're hurting the way that you are I'm always happy to talk if you need a friend.