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@adrial thank you!

May be a little personal:: I haven't had a brazilian wax since my diagnosis because I'm not sure if it will irritate my pubic area into an OB. Does anyone have some success/unsuccessful stories? I'm really nervous to try it out.

Trust me, you'll know. I had these worries too, like how would I know? what if I just overreact off of a normal feeling?? but I definitely felt the tingling & burning like everyone said I would. It was nothing to confuse.

@tina94 you're so right, thank you.

@hippyherpy ok, understood. thank you :)

You shouldn't feel bad.. In my opinion you did all you could to try to prevent it. Your boyfriend was comfortable enough not to use protection after knowing the risk, so truthfully thats on him- don't beat yourself up. GHSV1 hasn't brought many issues to my relationship, in a way I feel it's making it stronger. Just make sure neither of you are angry, don't be spiteful trying to throw it in each others face and forgive. That includes forgiving yourself.

@optimist I have hsv-1 genital. Thank you, I appreciate your wisdom.

Actually as a male you have a greater chance of passing it on and I personally believe you should tell your partners. My boyfriend passed it on to me without knowing he had it and being that you are aware, I think it's the right thing to do. How they respond shows their character but honesty is the best policy.

@adrial Thank you. Simply, the biggest similarity for me is that there's no cure and they can be passed on. The biggest difference is that HIV can eventually be deadly.

I've come across many people and post that say "Herpes isn't a big deal". Is it really? I mean my life has changed forever. Is this something that can really be brushed off as not a big deal? It's not that I'm beating myself or anyone else up about it but I see it as being pretty rude when saying it isn't a big deal. Maybe its just my mindset and how I was raised to see it. Honestly I see it as being on the same level as HIV with a few differences.

I don't think you're blowing it out of proportion at all. Both of your lives are changed forever, it's nothing to take lightly but at the same time you can't keep beating yourself up. If you explain everything to her and tell the truth, there's a chance she'd be forgiving and understand that this is something that happens. I forgave my boyfriend who I trusted and believe is the love of my life. I believe you being there for her and being supportive is the biggest thing you can do, sometimes that's all we need.

Hey, I'm actually in the same boat. I refuse to believe that this was sitting in my system and just decided to ruin my life. Like you I had a terrible initial outbreak. I've read that when you're first exposed to the virus it takes a toll on your body and that will be the worst ever. I've always had check ups and test done, even two weeks before my first outbreak. So I refuse to believe my partner didn't pass this on to me. I'm still waiting for him to go get tested but I wish you the best on pinpointing where it came from.