Thomas

I'm really sorry that you feel that way after the rejection. What helped me was believing that even though this guy has great qualities.. he was not for me. Sometimes we get caught up in thinking because we vibe with someone that they're the one. Sounds so cliche but time will heal your hurt feelings and self love will come about. That helps with rejection.

Thank you

Oh, okay..but don't you feel like disclosing too early doesn't give the person a chance to get to really know you?

I think you're right, I was in lala land just hoping the disease would go away. When is a good time period to disclose? He said he did feel betrayed and I never understood that. I get that some people won't be okay with it but I'm just confused on what he wants from me? We still hang out from time to time and he makes subtle

This was the first guy I've dated since my diagnosis.. everything was cool..good vibes.. we've spent a lot of time together and even took trips together..we decided we wanted a monogamous relationship .. I could tell sex was on the brain and after 2 months..I hadn't disclosed to him. So finally I do, and he just stares at the ceiling..then starts asking questions since this was my first disclosure I wasn't prepared to answer his specific questions but I did the best I could .. I then asked him if he would like me to leave (this was at night before we went to bed, we usually sleep together) and he said no. I told him I would go to the doctors to get general information. That night.. we went to sleep.. he slept facing away from me. He didn't cuddle me or anything so I get pretty awkward and knew I should of just left. Days pass by.. communication has ceased (I wanted to give him time to think about it) and finally we meet for dinner..I come prepared with my facts from the doctor but to me it seems as if he's already made up his mind and finally he tells me he can't deal with that but he'd like to be friends. His actions confused me..I seemed to be the perfect fit for him until I told him I had herpes. I was hurt, confused and sad. I stopped speaking to him as much and he hits me up to talk but doesn't understand my resistance to him..to save my feelings. A month and plus have gone by and he's still contacting me. I don't understand why..when he does it's just a consistent reminder that I have herpes and was rejected because of it.

I have had HSV2 since April of 2015 at 20 years old after that, I started practicing abstinence and stopped dating. I began my relationship with God and started to accept my consequence. For awhile.. I thought my dating life was over.. I began to become okay with being alone the rest of my life. I told no one...not my parents or my close friends. I suffered silently..just trying to be able to love myself again. The only out break I ever had was my first one that sent me to the doctors..I struggled long and hard with having herpes. I started dating again recently .. told the guy and he accepted it..but only on a friendship level. I don't want to do a disclose talk every time .. I just want to scream to the world that I have herpes ..that I'm still a great person, beautiful and ambitious. I finally love myself again and I fear the disclosure talk will hurt my confidence each time Xoxo