linda89

See. Im glad you all was able to talk about it and work it out. Take it one day at a time and you all with get through it. You still can have a normal life.

Did you tell him over the phone or in person?

Thats great. How did you tell him?

Thanks. I sure will.

I was crying hysterically and I said I have something to tell you. I said I just came from the doctor and I have something I cant get rid of and he said what and I said herpes. He was like are you serious And he said I thought you was keeping it real with me and saying I knew the whole time I had it when I knew I didnt. He hung up in my face and i told him I understand if he wanted to end it but about 2 days he said he wasnt breaking up with me because he loves me and that we will get through this together. So far we are getting through it together with one day at a time. And I been praying and I have supported people on my side who i can talk to and Im going to start going to counseling to also help me cope with it.

I told him over the phone because I wanted to tell him soon as I found out. When I did he thought I knew and why I didnt tell him. When. I told him as soon as I found out.

Thankyou and you are welcome.

Thats how I was diagnose with it. My aunt is a medical assistant and she test herself through a blood test and after 15 years she still has it......... He might lose it because its a scary thing when you find out just like it scares you but the more you talk about it and take it day tp day you will come to with you. I didnt know herpes was that common. If you have the shingles or ever had chickenpox you have herpes which I didnt know.

Not long only a few months we used a condom once but after that no.

Well to only test for herpes you have to get tested through your blood. My boyfriend said he was a blood donor I guess for his son and i guess he told the doctor about our situation and they tested him and he has it. He told me that they told him he couldnt have nothing in order for him to be a donor since his son has cancer and you know when you have cancer your immune system is already down

I got tested because I wanted to get tested for everything and I researched that you had to get tested through your blood for herpes and I didnt know because I always get tested for STD through my urine so I ask my doctor to test me for herpes and it came back I had 1 and 2. After all the crying and blaming myself for being careless I thought to myself if I had any symptoms in the past and I did and I didnt realize it that I did. Because my symptoms were mild. I got a well woman check up last may I didnt have it so I had to get it at the end of last year. It was the hard for me and still is. But I have some supporter people I can count on to not tell anyone and I have an aunt who has it. She had it over 15 years and had children and been married. You still can have a normal life its just the part being honest with someone you love about it. How they going to take it. It wont kill you. It just a virus that will live with you forever. And trust there are alot of people who dont get tested has it and dont know it. But stay encouraged. It takes time to get use to it.

I understand how you feel. I was so hurt when I found out because of my boyfriend. His son has c9cancer and it hurted me because he was a donor and just me thinking of that I felt so bad even though i didnt know I had it. So I had told him soon as I found out. And he was so hurt because he couldnt no longer be a donor. I felt like dying. I tried so much but he didnt leave me. We are still together taking it a day at a time. Just pray about it and talk to someone who you trust or talk to a professional because thats what I did. Im still doing it. Im learning how to cope with it because it is hard.

Thank you all for those encouraging words and support as well as advice. It makes me feel better.getting lifted up by others in the same situation as mines. I know with God's help, my family, and you all I will get through this. Thanks again.

@lowkeytee thankyou so much for those wonderful words. I have my mom, my brother, and a an aunt to talk to since she had it for over 15 years. Thankyou so much and I will do some research about therapy medication.

Hi I just found out I have herpes. I found out 2 months ago and every since than I have been depressed. About 2 weeks ago I start having loss of appetite and I have loss weight behind it. I have children and I dont want to allow this to take over my life. I want to live my normal life again as though I have not found out. I have not been myself since I found out. I just want to know how to get through this depress mode so I can start back eating and gaining my weight back. I cant allow myself to get too discouraged. I am frighten about losing too much weight. I went from 158 to 143. Please give me advice. I greatly appreciate it.