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HereComesTheSun

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  1. Ahh Sj, all I can say is wow... You really have come a long way in the last 4 months. Good for you, girl. I am so proud of you - how far you've come, and how you've handled yourself through this. You knew what needed to be done - you knew you needed help to get through and you reached out. I'm sure your experience has already, and will continue to help many others who are having similar struggles. And that in itself is truly a gift. :)
  2. I think it's really up to you... but IMO it would seem kind of silly if every time before kissing someone on the lips you had to sit them down and say: "Listen. There's something you need to know. Sometimes... I get cold sores." Kinda silly, yeah? Especially when risks are minimal if you don't have an active cold sore on your mouth at the time and when you consider that the other person most likely already has HSV1. A different story if it involves oral sex with the other person and you want to discuss the risks of gHSV1, of course.
  3. Yes - sorry I should have been clearer about that. By HSV1 not preferring the area I just meant that once someone has it, recurrences are much less common/likely and less severe from the sounds of things, but yeah still contagious with lesions. Probably still a chance without too but what I'm saying is that since its such a nonissue I don't get why anyone would really worry about it. Das all. But yeah definitely smart to educate future partners regardless. Cheers!
  4. Interesting, thanks heat. Correct me if I'm wrong here but it almost sounds to me like genital HSV1 is such a non-issue (after the initial ob, which I'm sure can be just as painful/unsettling as the initial HSV2 ob) that I don't really seem to get why people feel the same way about it / treat it the same as HSV2? I know genital herpes is genital herpes whether it's 1 or 2 but in my experience with HSV2 thus far (and most others I've heard/read about) is that although manageable it can be a real, unpleasant little biatch with many recurrent obs and so I totally get why disclosure is necessary. What I am wondering is ... since the vast majority of the population has HSV1 antibodies and since HSV1 doesn't prefer the area, realistically shouldn't there be a lot less anxiety involved in the thought of passing it along to someone from genital to genital, especially since recurrences are so seldom/uncommon? I don't understand why disclosure is even really necessary in that situation? Or even why a genital HSV1 diagnosis is as upsetting/devastating as HSV2? Sorry if I come across as insensitive/uninformed re. gHSV1, it's just something that I have been pondering!
  5. GreenEyes! Takes an awesome person to recognise an awesome person... A thank you :) I am an old soul for sure. Thank you for taking the time to read my long winded story. HSV, although harmless, just bums me 'cause I spent a lot of time daydreaming about my love story and how the universe would conspire to bring it about. Throwing this into the mix sorta takes the innocence and beauty out of it all... or so I keep telling myself. Maybe I'm wrong though, and it will actually bring me to something even more beautiful in the end... who's to say? Guess we'll just have to wait and see how the whole thing plays out. For now just gotta focus on controlling the controllables.
  6. Ugh you are so freaking awesome! I can't get over it. Have to throw a quote in here by MJ Fox that sorta comes to mind when I read the second part of your wake up call: 'unity is strength, knowledge is power, and attitude is everything.' ahh.. and of course there's another: "Either you decide to stay in the shallow end of the pool, or you go out into the ocean." Love having your energy here and I think you've made many people breathe easier already. I know reading / thinking about the ways you've made light of this situation has brought a smile to my face several times. Reading your posts I feel a little spark, a little light flickering inside my soul that reminds me that the part of me that was super silly and found humor in any situation isn't really gone ... I mean how could a couple of pimples take that away? You're inspiring and hilarious; please keep the comments coming pal! :-j LOVE, your fellow flawless star dust 'H buddy' B-)
  7. Amazing. Thank you. I'm going to read that over and over and over until I really get it at a deep level and it sinks in. :x
  8. Wish I could also go heal & hug & party with all of you amazing people. Maybe someday! Enjoy the weekend! :)
  9. OMG!! I love you. Reading that made my day. You're freakin' badass! I think we will get along just fine. My problem has been (and you're going to laugh at how much sense this doesn't make) that because I treated my body like a sacred temple before, and that didn't protect me from herpes (I met the person who gave it to me at a vegan yoga retreat centre...figure that one out) that I just sort of threw in the towel after the diagnosis and said "what's the point? I'm damaged now.. may as well damage myself some more since no one's ever going to love me anyways!" Silly, I know. My brain's been doing some crazy things the past couple of months. Nasty tricks, like you say. Looking forward to chatting with you H buddy. LOVE, Mother Nature's unsullied child :)
  10. Incredible! Thank you. She is such a wise lady. I stumbled upon a book of hers not too long ago that's also been helping me along this healing journey. Part of one passage ('Difficulty is Inevitable') particularly stands out... "It is so basic in us to feel that things should go well for us, and that if we start to feel depressed, lonely, or inadequate, there's been some kind of mistake or we've lost it. In reality, when you feel depressed, lonely, betrayed, or any unwanted feelings, this is an important moment on the spiritual path. This is when real transformation can take place." ~The Pocket Pema Chodron, pg. 11. Love, love.
  11. Eek... I'm not grateful for the virus, or the physical discomfort, but am grateful that my eyes have been opened to a new world of love and compassion that I may not have seen otherwise. Here's a short video that I found inspiring and relatable:
  12. You are right. Ultimately the cure is going to have to be finding peace with this circumstance, and with everything it's brought to light. That's going to have to happen whether or not there is an actual cure for the physical symptoms.
  13. Thank you Beckie. I am so grateful that tools like this forum exist, and that there are so many strong, beautiful people out there (like yourself, and many others here) to lean on and look up to when times get tough. It inspires me (and even gets me a little emotional at times...but then again, what doesn't) that so many people care so much, even when they have no clue who the person on the other end is. And you are right... I really had no idea how much crap I still had weighing me down until this happened... I thought that because I was at a stage in my life where I felt "happy" that that meant the days of despair and self-loathing were over. This has been a HUGE wake-up call. & Moveon... Lol @ your comment :P Big hugs & blessings to you all ... xoxo
  14. http://www.news.com.au/national-news/queensland/professor-ian-frazer8217s-newest-vaccine-against-genital-herpes-has-reached-clinical-trial-stage/story-fnii5v6w-1226671502558 :)
  15. Hi Paige, This is all pretty new to me as well. But I see many parallels between your story and mine. So I thought I should let you know you are not alone. At the time I too felt deeply/spiritually connected with the man who ended up giving me herpes, and even deluded myself into thinking I loved him, because I really wanted to believe that what we seemed to have was real. The same day I was diagnosed, he said something along the lines of "pfft, herpes is just a couple of bumps every few years, so what". He didn't understand why I was so upset. Then later that night, I found messages he was sending to other girls telling him he "loved" and "desired" them, too. Ouch. Then he just disappeared from my life the next day. So I really do feel your pain. I am with you, and I really do hope that things get better. It helps having so many wonderful, strong people in this forum as proof that making peace with this virus is possible. Much love, and blessings to you. HoG
  16. Reading this post has been my moment of inspiration. For some reason, your response to my story got deleted, but I still remember what you said and think of it quite often. I too had "herpes" long before I had herpes, in many of the ways you mention. Know that while you are climbing the mountain, I am right there with you. Much love and blessings, kindred spirit. HoG
  17. Hope someday I'll really understand that last bit, and that life was never meant to be perfect. <3
  18. Just feelin' bummed lately; like you said, my reaction was that this is just another perfectly good reason to be depressed/angry/sad over herpes. Tryin' to shake out the negative feelings but they don't seem to be going anywhere fast. I know life wasn't perfect before H, and won't be perfect with it either. Just trying to learn to deal with the overwhelm of all the insecurities and deeply buried feelings it has brought to the surface. "What is to give light must endure burning."
  19. YW, Carlos. I haven't read the poetry but will look into it. Love. Xx
  20. So glad to have found this thread! I'm a bit of a quote junkie too. Some that have been sticking out lately: "Whether we like limitations and obstacles or not, they take us out of our comfort zone, out of what we are used to and we are forced to grow. We can fight it or we can go with it. But if we choose the path of acceptance, it can open our eyes to the hidden doors of opportunity and we come to realise that instead of being on the brink of disaster, we are actually on the verge of a miracle." -Mrs. Wicked "Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it." -Mark Twain "You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analysing a situation, trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on." -Tupac Shakur "You must be able to bear your sorrow, even if it seems to crush you. You will be able to stand up again, for human beings are so strong, and your sorrow must become an integral part of yourself. You mustn't run away from it. Do not relieve your feeling through hatred. Give your sorrow all the space and shelter in yourself that is its due, for if everyone bears grief honestly and courageously, the sorrow that now fills the world will abate." -Etty Hillesum "Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be." -Wayne Dyer
  21. Honestly, I think in a way it might be better if more people knew. It would definitely show me who is worth keeping around, and who is not. I also think I'd have more motivation, more drive to prove that herpes isn't the end of the world. I think it may also be beneficial in that it would help me in my healing, to realise that this isn't something so shameful that needs to be kept quiet at all costs. I'd find a way to show people that there is a way to happiness in any circumstance, and that they too, can triumph in spite of their perceived limitations. In any case, I hope to move in this direction regardless of how many people know or don't know. It's personally helped me out a great deal to find people who openly discuss having herpes (thank you, Adrial )) and I wish more people (such as celebrities, whose stories really could reach a lot of people, and help end this ridiculous stigma) were brave enough to do the same. That's my two cents. :)
  22. YES! I love that. Haven't heard it in a while. Thanks, Adrial. :)
  23. Trying to constantly repeat to myself a quote of his: "It's not about the cards you're dealt, but how you play the hand." (Randy Pauch). Will H be on my mind 24/7 for the rest of my life? Or does that go away eventually? This is getting ridic! I don't even have any symptoms. What gives?
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