Crookshanks1217

I did send a message to the ex on Facebook but it shows she received it but has yet to read it. I did what I could to inform both. It hurts but there is nothing else I can do at this point. I really really hope he gets tested for his own sake and hers. Mine is pretty obvious who gave it to me and I am grateful for that because I don't have to worry about someone else getting it from me unknowingly and I contacted my partner. I just have to get over being angry and upset about it all.

About three weeks ago I had sex with a guy I have known for about a month. Charming, Sweet and very nice. We hung out for almost two days just hanging out, talking and having sex. I was pretty sore afterwords but I haven't had sex since last July. Well, exactly five days later I start getting painful bumps all over my vagina. I called my GYN who told me that it sounds like herpes. I was devastated. I went to urgent care before I went and saw her (It was memorial day weekend and she couldn't get in until Tuesday and I was in some PAIN.) and they did a culture test. That Tuesday I went and got a blood test done (both IGg and IGm) for both HSV1 and HSV2. negative. I did get my culture back which came back positive for HSV-2. I called him that Saturday freaking out. He ignored my calls and texts and early the next morning he just texted me that he couldn't talk to me anymore because he was getting back with his ex girlfriend. I was hurt and mad. He also blocked me on Facebook and his phone after I told him. I did however mailed him my results as well as information about herpes. I think he was sleeping around quite a bit whenever he was broken up with his girlfriend and I just happened to get infected first. I mailed him the results because he needs to know. My friends think that maybe he thought I was lying about it and that's why he blocked me from everything. I just don't want him to do this to someone else. The pain and the thoughts I have had I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I really hope he does get tested and that he doesn't do this to someone else.

I had sex with a man one day after almost a year of not having sex and had had symptoms almost immediately. I called my GYN freaking less than a week after because of the bumps. I had a culture and blood test done. I had negative results for blood but positive for culture for HSV-2. I tried contacting the guy but he blocked me on both facebook and his phone after I told him because he said he was getting back with his ex. So, to make sure he knew, I certified mailed my results to him as well as herpes information. I would never wish this on my worst enemy. I really hope he doesn't give it to her or anyone else. I am very angry and it comes and goes in waves. I will probably never really know if he knew he had it or not but it's hard to think about forgiving him. But by me sending what I sent to him I have peace of mind knowing that he does know.

You're probably right. I am still pretty emotional about it. It's all happened so quickly. I deleted his number out of my phone and I plan to just focus on myself and my health. But I understand what you are saying.

I think you're right about not talking to his dad. But honestly I don't believe that he didn't know. The nurses I talked to, the friend I told, my mom, they all said the same thing: "What a strange reaction for someone who didn't know." Also "I would have so many questions for you." I did message his ex girlfriend too. I had my friend (whose an RN) write it out so it would be completely unemotional. Just factual. If he reacted that way I thought that she deserved to know too and he wasn't going to tell her. I have no desire to ever talk to him again and I hope he really does get tested like he said he was going to. I wouldn't wish this kind of pain on anyone.

I did have unprotected sex. I am stupid. I am the one that lectures her friends about having unprotected sex and I did it. I am similar, I am pretty physically active and I am just going to focus on that from now on instead of a man. I have been through a lot in my life and if this is the worst thing I have to deal with I consider myself very lucky.

So Here's my story - I met this really great guy. He was smart and funny and charming and after talking to him for awhile I hung out with him one night and we had sex. A lot of Oral sex too. I left sore because it had been awhile since I had sex, but then it didn't go away. And then 5 days later, I had sores. I called my GYN freaking out. She said it was most likely herpes. She told me it would get worse before it got better... and boy was she right. I have been in the worst pain of my life. Can't sit, can't stand, and the sores turned to blisters that have now popped. I told the guy who informed me that he couldn't talk to me anymore because he was getting back with his ex. But when I told him that he had possibly given me Herpes his reaction was "I will go to my doc next week. I didn't know I was a carrier." And then blocked me on Facebook and his phone. I was mad but now I am just hurt. I went to urgent care today because I couldn't stand the pain anymore and they confirmed it was herpes. They did a swab and now we just wait for the results. But we all know what it is. I go to my GYN tomorrow where I am going to ask for a blood test to verify I did get it from him. It's just been a hell of a week. The irony of this story is that this guys dad is a GYN surgeon. ONLY my life I tell ya.