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cp42

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  1. You do know that HSV2 is not passed through oral sex, right? I saw that you said as long as you don't let him give you oral. If you have HSV2 and he doesn't, and he gives you oral, it won't be passed that way. Just thought I'd throw that in there. :)
  2. I know exactly how you feel. For the past year which was my first year with herpes I put myself in denial and had a couple casual flIngs. No sex, just a few things I still shouldn't have done. I convinced myself I can act the same as I have before and this time just not let any guy perform oral sex on me and he'll be fine and not disclose. But after a while, I felt worse about myself and realized I was only protecting them not me and by me going down on him I still could catch something more! I have now been doing what you are, stopping trying to like guys and although I have no prospects right now, it will only last so long. It's hard when all your friends are in relationships and you aren't and know deep down its that much harder for you to find a good accepting guy. Every time I meet a guy I imagine myself disclosing and picture how they'd respond based on their personality and if I go oh no way then I can tell they prob are no good for me. What do you find helpful at all?
  3. That's great information. Thanks. I think it will be helpful to a lot of people on here!
  4. Hi @Farmerclay and welcome! Kudos to you for doing research on your own and stumbling upon this forum! There is a category called "My partner/loved on has herpes" where people such as yourself have posted. Browse some of those responses for sure. It is possible to not contract it without using condoms. I've read that when having sex with a person without condoms and without antiviral therapy, and avoiding intercourse during an outbreak, the risk of contracting it in any given year is 4%. With the use of daily antiviral therapy on her part it is cut down to 2%. Daily antiviral therapy decreases the amount that the virus sheds thus decreasing the chances of transmitting to a partner. There is still a risk, but it is a small one. If she is established with the virus and knows her body, like the signs of impending outbreak, she will also be able to help keep you protected by avoiding intercourse during those times. The only time that HSV impacts a pregnancy are the following two situations: a. a woman NEWLY acquires an HSV infection while pregnant b. a woman has an outbreak at or near the time of delivery If b. happens, then they would do a C section to prevent the baby from contracting the virus during delivery. I've read that they typically put women on suppressive antivirals around 36 weeks of pregnancy up until delivery to prevent that from happening. As for other advice, just be open to it and what she has to say. Educate yourself, as you already are, and accept her unconditionally. Unconditional support from those we love is so important
  5. great explanation... and great question! I never thought of that
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