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Thank you so much! :D

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Adrial! :x Love the feedback - let me correct myself when I say I would not let him off the hook LOL (Oh I am laughing) no revenge at all - having him OFF my life has been the greatest blessing ever - I will just refuse to thank him - is like SERIOUSLY? I would have lost my mind to do that.... there is nothing to thank for being that way... Anger presents itself momentarily like tonight when someone else tells me how wonderful I am but no thank you, their fear to get herpes is big. (And I dont blame them) Can't wait to Friday!

I am for sure not thankful to the person that gave me this... absolutely NOT!!! I refuse to make this a way to let them off the hook! I feel sorry for them and at the best of the times I feel compassion and that is the biggest gift they can receive. To be so selfish and self centered (speaking of those that KNEW they had it) and didn't care enough?! There is nothing good about having herpes... I give no power to it. However, I am thankful for the people in my life who shares the same path and has helped to make it lighter, to learn together to be stronger and to SMILE! but at the same time to care about the people that lays eyes on us and decides they are important and then we disclose.........................................

I am having a really rough time tonight. I disclosed last week I had herpes, honestly I wasn't really too much into the guy but he was so sweet and nice that I thought giving it a chance to a different type of guy I pick. His initial reaction was to tell me "I am a different guy and do not base a relationship in sex, I care about you, you are a very attractive woman and I want to get to know you more" he followed sending me flowers the next day . Well I saw him yesterday, we talked extensively about this, and he continued to say how wonderful I was and he was ok with that. Well - tonight he calls me to say he was not strong enough. That oral sex was very important for him and he would not be able to stop even if I wanted him to stop. I told him, I appreciated him calling and not sending an email (like the last guy). He also treated me with respect and like a gentleman and for that I thank him. He followed to say we could stay friends but ended saying If I ever needed something I could call him or email him that he would be there for me (too much for a friendship I thought) He also suggested I get involved with someone that has the same problem... (?) I am at a very low point, not because the rejection... but to think this is a journey that is probably more than I can bare... to think in the person that gave me this (KNOWING HE HAD IT) not sure what to feel. 2 guys this year have told me how wonderful and attractive I am BUT.......... and to say that they were not the right person seems to me like a cop-out right now instead of facing the fact that indeed and honestly if I was in their shoes I would probably would not get involved with someone that had an STD. I am not scared of how my life it is going to play out, I am a very strong woman and I have gone through a lot in my life. But it makes me VERY SAD to only have had 1 partner and to be destined to be alone the rest of my life... or to have to settle with someone that CANT have sex. Am I wrong wanting to have sex with someone that actually loves me?! This is so hard - worst part is that it impacts my regular life - tomorrow at work probably I will be a little insecure and my interactions will be a little rough until I forget the feeling - maybe by night when I am able to sweat this out during my exercise routine. I have found out that most people say oh it is not a problem until the go to the internet and they see all those pictures and comments.

Hi! Part of me wants to say sorry for what you are going through but the reality is that you deserve someone that LOVES you and wants to be in an exclusive relationship with you. I think you are grieving the idea of a relationship you wanted and just so you know... that is easier to heal! I have been there, when you realize how much you loved and truly how your love was not appreciated it... Be thankful for knowing how much you are capable of giving and loving - but also use this opportunity to learn what is that you want from a relationship :) and know that you deserve it :) As to what is next, having herpes and developing new relationships - :\"> I will be right here and share the journey ... what is important (beyond herpes and who/why/how gave it to us) is to stay as healthy as possible, positive thinking and NEVER give up hope :) Stay strong, healthy, love yourself... and SMILE :D Much LOVE

Kaybee!!!!!!!!! I just read this and am SO HAPPY to hear you are HAPPY! :x was worried :( -that is all I can say right now!---

Hmm interesting, not sure about the chlorine, however have to agree with Adrial on the sun exposure. If you get too much of it, your body will react to it. I used to be a swim a lot and it never triggered any outbreaks, of course I am learning we all have different reactions/triggers.

Well that might not be THAT bad... this means you could eventually forget that you have Herpes!!! ROFL

Adrial, Again thank you - you are right. This is the first time I reach out for help and support other than my doctors. Hate talking about this and how it makes me feel, because it brings out a world of emotions that I wish I didn't have to deal with. =((

- here we go - Waited to have sex until I met the man I was truly in love with, after 4 months of marriage and a lot of stress I found out I had Herpes, he claimed he didn't know (which was a lie). Looking back I think the fear of starting over and having herpes was the excuse I made to myself to stay for 6 long years in such a bad relationship. Great news! I am free now - going on 7 years :) and my life just keeps getting better. Having to deal with Herpes has not been fun - however outbreaks have not presented in the past 7 years as they did in the beginning, now that I finally got the courage to start again and found someone I was really really interested in, got my first slap of rejection, I get it... it happen for a reason, but being rejected because of H sucks! I also understand they reject the H and not me, but this adds a variable to all this finding a soul mate and it almost feels like it reduces the fund and spontaneity in a relationship. I was told today I live in the shame of it - and yes I do... not sure if I will ever get over it. In all of this what I am looking for is to become a stronger person / woman / human being, in all that it would be great if I can find someone that loves ME, sadly in my marriage (looking back) I was not loved as a woman should be loved... and it was probably because loving myself was a foreign concept. Having said all that - again I am very happy, like everybody else I am a good person :) and want to learn how to disclose this but mostly how to deal with the rejection... and MOVE ON... :)