I've not posted before, but I would like some advice. I am probably going to get some stick for this. I found out a year ago I had HSV2. I'm pretty positive it was from the guy I was dating at the time for just over a month. I told him and he was okay with it. He'd been exposed to it quite a lot before apparently. We continued dating for about 5 months and then called it a day. He's never had an outbreak and doesn't think twice about the fact he might have it. His STD tests come back clear....but then so do mine of course because they don't test for Herpes.
So here's my issue. Because I know I have it, I'm now expected to have to tell each guy I want to sleep with and made to feel shit if they go running because society has made it such a 'bad' thing. No one seems to have a problem with cold sores, and it's exactly the same virus.
Doctors don't test for it without symptoms in the UK because of the psychological issues it entails, but because of this my ex for instance just keeps going around spreading it further while those of us who then know have to bare the burden.
Here's my issue now. I have slept with a few guys and not told them because they were just a random one-nighter. I know people will think 'how could she' but if not me, they'd sleep with another girl who doesn't know she has it and be more likely to get it that way. I know I have it. I take acyclovir to control it, and I am very careful about using condoms (always have been but here we are anyway). I feel the guy is less likely to get it from me, then the next girl who doesn't know they have it.
My dilemma...one of these guys could be turning into something more. We've been on a handful of dates now and its going really well. 99% of me tells me I have to tell him, however, a small thought keeps popping into my as in, do I though. I don't want to be 'the girl with herpes'.
Has anyone else been through this and can you share your thoughts on it? Thanks
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