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That dreaded herpes is back!! Only this time it's like my very first outbreak. Ya know, those little white clusters that turn into little red bumps 'down there?' Yesterday it got to the point where I had to walk extra slow to ensure the sore didn't graze my clothing. Lol Am I pissed about this? Of course. Will it take over my mind and make me feel like shit? Heck no! Mind over matter. What I am confused about is how it got me this time? The last four months- nothing. I exercise four times a week, fuel my body, abstain from sex, I even wake up smiling. I sing Pharrell's song 'Happy' like all the time! I'm not stressed. I guess it could take more time than I thought to figure out these 'triggers.' I can't remember the last time I've had to take a pill (until 3 days ago). Anyway- I'm still happy as can be!! To this thing call Herpes: I say 'You haven't gotten the best of me and you never will you piece of shit!' Haha Happy Thursday! Keep smiling!

One other thing- the itching doesn't bother me during the day. My only concern is that the overnight itching came on suddenly without warning. I guess this is something I should be cautious of immediately after another outbreak?

Hi everyone- I've taken a hiatus from the forum, but now I'm back! The reason: I was doing amazingly well, meaning no severe outbreaks for 3 whole months. That may not seem like a lot to some, but for me it was thee best feeling. Unfortunately, about a week ago, I noticed a bump -down there- so I took a pill for 2 days and it disappeared. Great, right? Well last night, I woke up to an I controllable urge to scratch (rub vigorously) - again - down there. Many of you may know that unwelcome slightly painful feeling that sets in afterwards. Ugh Why this happened now is beyond me. I was doing so well. I figured out that it's not my diet, because I have my healthy days and my not do healthy fast food days. I exercise, stretch, laugh, never get upset, etc. What I have noticed is that I recently started worrying - a lot, like in the last week. I wonder if that has an impact on how my body is reacting. Weird huh? I wish I could find a better way of controlling those nighttime episodes of itching.

Cool thanks!! I'll check out these articles. I was super stressed on Friday so maybe that could be it.

I've been trying to determine what sets off my herpes outbreaks. I've been taking Valtrex for one week on and one or two weeks off. Some months that works wonders. This month I noticed a small bump appeared (kind of uncomfortable). I've been reading that certain foods like chocolate, wheat, etc can be a trigger for some people. I've been watching my diet and just can't figure out what causes my outbreaks. I just don't want to have to take Valtrex every single day (I guess unless I'm sexually involved with someone). Has anyone else noticed what their triggers are and how to combat them?

I've been trying to figure out why I start itching during my sleep. It always seems to be at like 5am(weird). I try to block it from my mind. One time it got so bad I couldn't stop scratching. That ended badly. What kind of creams work?

Thanks! The guy I'm dating is 38 & he took the news extremely well. I'm just happy that he (some men) doesn't think sex is what makes a relationship. There's so much more involved.

It's been awhile since I've posted. I've been dating a guy for about 7 months (semi long distance, I.e., 2.5 hrs away). My secret has been ripping me apart inside and I kept thinking, "He's going to walk away from this relationship if I tell him." After reading helpful posts on this website, I practiced the conversation out loud over and over again. When he told me he would come visit me Sunday, I told myself, "I have to do this I have to tell him." We had lunch, laughed, I took him to the beach (with very little people) and told him I wanted to talk to him about something. I started off in a cheerful, caring mood telling him I appreciated him and told him why. Then I choked up, which got him concerned. He hugged me and asked what was wrong. I said, "It turns out that I have... I'm..." I couldn't do it. I got emotional. He thought I was pregnant because we've had sex. (I did not have any symptoms). Then I started again... and he said the word 'Herpes' for me. All I could do was shake my head and then bury it into his chest ( no I didn't cry but I was so close). Then he blew me away when he said, "Oh baby I'm so sorry. We'll deal with it. I'm here for you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this." Wow! Then he started asking questions about herpes, and I answered. He didn't know how common it was. He didn't know there were two types. He asked if I had any symptoms when we had sex and I said no. Then he cheered me up. I asked him to take time to think about if this is really where he wanted to stay- with me, since now I will find it really hard to have protected sex with him because of fear. He said he didn't want to take any time and that he was here for me. I was sooooo relieved, & thankful- thankful for him; thankful that he didn't judge me; thankful that he was supportive; thankful that he said he wasn't going anywhere; thankful that he sent me a 'Good morning' text today; and thankful for a website like this created for people out there like me to get advice and help when it comes to dealing with herpes. He's getting tested this week.

Hi everyone- I was diagnosed in 2010 with hsv2. Like others I was shocked, distraught, etc. I had only had sex with my bf of 3 years. I got an open sore down below 3 days after oral sex. He tested negative. My doc told me the virus could've been dormant. I thought, 'Well that's weird.' Fast forward to today- no more bf (he broke up with me for different reasons- not hsv2). I started seeing this guy about 6 months ago, who I adore. Yes, we had sex, he had an std test about two months later and his test was negative. I feel like such a dumbass because I haven't told him I have this virus and I know that's not fair to him. When we had sex (unprotected), I didn't have tingling, itching,etc. Everyday I beat myself up, struggling for the right environment and the right way to tell him. I guess I didn't say anything because he was going through a stressful time in his life. Now that that is behind him, I feel like now is the time to be brave. My only question is -- is it acceptable to tell him I recently found out I have it? I feel like, well I know he will feel I deceived him and I don't want to hurt him. Also, I know I'll break down and cry when I do have the talk. Advice?