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I am also asymptomatic and when I found out via blood work I told my guy and he left too. That was 6 months ago and I haven’t seen or heard from him. The pain will go away, I promise!! I just moved on with my life. If we were meant to be he’d still be here. Hang in there!!

I don’t have OBs but get itchy down there. I have tried both and prefer TTO mixed with coconut oil. It has a cooling feeling similar to when you put a cough drop in your mouth. I recently purchased oregano oil and tried it the other day also mixed with coconut oil and wasn’t thrilled. I guess it’s a matter of what works for you.

WoW, what a story! I’m sorry you had to go thru all of that. Unfortunately, this guy is a jerk and wasn’t acting responsible at all. The fact that you have proof he knew all along has to make you sick to your stomach because it that’s how I felt reading!! People can be so cruel! I definitely wouldn’t say anything else to this guy and move on. I wouldn’t bother suing either because you’d have to say how you found out which could put your friends in trouble with HIPAA laws,etc.

Awww I’m sorry you’re going thru this. I have only known about my HSV2 diagnosis almost 5 months so I haven’t disclosed yet. It’s really nerve wracking just thinking about it! Maybe he’s doing some research on his own and may come around. You should encourage him to get tested..he may already have it!! Hugs!

@IcanOvercome, thanks for sharing your story. I have told none of my friends about my new diagnosis. The only person that knows is the guy I was seeing at the time and I kind of hate I said anything to him. I just thought it was the right thing to do. Your giver sounds like a real winner! Smh @PresentMoment, I think you did the right thing by telling her!! Good for you!

This is awesome!!

Yes the first 2-3 months after my diagnosis last October were brutal. I was alllll over the place emotionally and the fact that the guy I was seeing at the time hauled a$$ didn’t help!! When I told him he said “well you didn’t get that $hit from me!” Then he went on a full rant saying some horrible horrible things..couldn’t believe it! He said he was going to get tested...that was 4 months ago. I never heard from him again. Smh. Today I can honestly say that I’m in a MUCH better place emotionally. Not hearing from him helped me move on with my life. I had to take my control back and refuse to waste another day in 2018 worrying about what he is doing!

Thanks for all of the information on HPV. I didn’t want my daughter vaccinated at such a young age (12-13) because it just didn’t make sense especially if she wasn’t having sex. She’s 20 now so can she get the vaccine now or is it too late?

Hey PresentMoment. Thanks. Unfortunately, I’m not a young man. I’m young at heart but my body tells me I’m 48. Getting hsv2 when you’re middle aged seems ridiculous but here I am. I’m very responsible and encourage everyone on this site to take care of yourself responsibly and disclose. I would consider it evil not to disclose and potentially pass on a life long condition. I stopped meds but have some on hand if/when the next outbreak takes place. My asymptomatic girlfriend and hsv2 provider and I are still together. She didn’t know she had it. So, I can’t hate her but anger about the situation still crops up. I’m sorry you’re going thru this. I’m 42 and was diagnosed last October with HSV2 via blood test. I don’t get blisters at all but occasional itchiness down there. I also plan to disclose going forward to potential partners because it’s the right thing to do. I’m glad you and your lady were able to work thru the initial shock of it all. It will get better as time goes on. Be encouraged!

Woot Woot!! What an awesome story and thanks for sharing! I hope things work out for you two!!

Awesome!! I haven’t had the disclosure talk so this gives me hope!!

Thank you for this thread. My daughter’s doc was so adamant about her getting the vaccine at 12 or 13 when she hadn’t even started having sex yet. I thought it was odd so declined every time. She will be 21 this year and had her pap last year. All was normal but I think the doc asked if she had the vaccine again and she told them she hadn’t and didn’t want it. She’s old enough to go to her appts by herself so I still didn’t think much of it. I saw a woman post a video of her young daughter after receiving the vaccine and was horrified. The poor girl was acting like she had been drinking! She couldn’t hold her head up and was making noises and drooling. That’s scary!! I still question all these vaccines they try and push down our throats for things we never had to worry about when we growing up. Now they want to vaccinate the young boys with it. Smh

Thanks for the responses about receiving oral sex. I also would feel nervous about it and wonder if he’s thinking about H while he’s down there!! I guess if he’s going to be ok with intimacy after I disclose it would include everything that he’d normally do under normal circumstances.

@Sunset, not trying to change the course of this great thread but you’ve talked extensively about HPV. I have a 20 y/o daughter and when she was maybe 12 or 13 they started pushing the HPV vaccine at her appts. I refused them because I didn’t know much about it and thought it was just another way for them to get money. She’s not a virgin any longer as of 2 years ago but she’s also not sexually active. Did I mess up by not allowing her to get that vaccine years ago? She had her annual pap last November and was fine. I’m just interested in your thoughts on that. Ok, for the ladies that have disclosed and have had sex since their diagnosis...is receiving oral sex going to be a thing of the past?? I thoroughly enjoy receiving oral sex but can’t imagine a man wanting to go there after I’ve disclosed. Gahhh!!

@monika, no I’m not on any AVs yet. I don’t get blisters at all unless they are internal. I do, however, have bouts of itchiness down there that gets on my nerves at times. I recently started taking Azo yeast tablets and they have done wonders for the itchiness! I used to mix tea tree oil with coconut oil and apply to my vagina which also helped with the itching. I take Lysine in the mor morning and Apple Cider Vinegar before I eat breakfast and again before bed but I’ve been doing that for years. When I decide to start dating my plan is to start taking AVs on a daily basis especially if he’s negative since I have no idea when the virus is active. As far as that guy is concerned don’t bother reaching out. Just move forward with your life and if he wants to talk then he will contact you. He says he can’t deal with the virus so there’s nothing more to talk about IMO. I don’t talk to the guy I was seeing when I was diagnosed. No contact since October when I found out. It totally sucked at first but I’m much better now. We will find love again...just stay in the race!! @Sunset, I was the same way with the condoms!! I always had some on me just in case they don’t which most didn’t!! I also knew of others (guys) that had it but thought that I was safe with my partners as long as we had condoms. Never even heard of viral shedding or contracting H1 from oral sex until I was diagnosed with H2 and started researching the virus. I also miss that warm body in my bed!! Ugh!! But I’m gonna take my time and scene them a lot better when I start dating.