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  1. Hi @sjj238 amazing! 4 months! you are the real deal! Sorry for the off topic but, could you elaborate more about that HSVI dual zone infection?
  2. Yeah sure, Have you ever watched the dog whisperer? LOL, yeah, I am comparing humans with dogs, what up. So, Cesar Millán says that dogs can feel your energy, absorb it, and project it 2-fold. Your body language, your voice tone, everything, the dog catches and behaves accordingly. Cute guys do the same. You are transmitting your insecurities, your fears, your low self esteem. You had a bad past experience (did i read right? you slept with you bf before disclosing it?) I can smell the scent... sniff snifff you are scared and you will scare him away. You told him that you have a skin condition but then you acted like it was a big deal (you were shaken and all) First, control your feelings like a Zen monk, then down-play the issue, believe in what you say! no need to lie, and obviously don't need to sugarcoat it. Be straight, be fun, be sincere, PROFIT form it. I mean, seriously, you are in total control of the situation. He is absorbing your feelings unconsciously. He doesn't know anything about the H, but he projects himself into you and react likewise. 1.- You go into full panic armaggedon emo girl mode? he will too 2.- You behave like Legolas wearing shades kind of coolness? he will accept it as a minor triviality. And hey! if at the end he decides not to give it a try, H worked for you as a filter for good/bad guys. Its a win-win situation for you!
  3. james81

    Herpes 1

    I wonder if everyone who has HSV I when they were young, now 20 or 30 years later still disclose they have herpes before kissing some one.
  4. Oh Adrial that article just hit the nail. I love that "disease mongering" thing. Yeahm I wonder too why we make a big deal out of it. :-S
  5. Don't put bandages on it. let it breathe! If you get more recurrences in the same spot wear jeans.
  6. So you really have HSV1 and you are freaking out because of the idea of passing into your kids, right? Well, there is a bigger chance that your kinds would get HSV1 in School that you passing it to them. Remember that cold sores = HSV. Fever blisters = HSV How many kids have you seen running around with cold sores? why are you making a big deal out of it? Think is perspective. You have exactly the same virus that you have seen so many times in people's mouth. You are not going to reinfect your husband, since he has developed the right kind of white cells to fight back that specific kind of virus (HSV1) Stay happy!
  7. Ok, herpes is not as well known in Spain (and Europe i guess) as it is in US. I see there is a lot of fuss in US about it, kind of collective hysteria. I had an american gf once and she freaked out (but accepted me and loved me anyways) I have been with girls from other countries, (lol that sounds so douchebaggery) and the all reacted like "so?" And here is my thoughts about 'merica. You guys live in a complete state of fear and paranoia. News broadcasts are all about influx that fear down you throat, making you feel vulnerable and under a constant threat. H is just one of those fears that society has marked as the worst plague in XXI century -among other worst plagues lol- It's that sense of magniloquence drama and spectacle that sells so good and make a big deal out of nothing. I've disclosed four times, and four success. So in my humble experience, we positives, make it to look bigger and nastier than it is. But don't get me wrong, I am ready to hear a NO. I have nothing to lose and that's give me a particular halo that makes me irresistible LOL
  8. Check on internet arginine/lysine ratios on food Long story short, arginine bad, lysine good.
  9. Would you think that it might be better to go to your doctor and find out? In case of an OB, it's not spreading to other areas, simply the H finds another nerve way to reach the skin. I've had a few of them maybe 4 in almost 5 years, the farthest was in my left glute (???) and never had an OB in that spot again.
  10. IF it doens't look like the familiar H blisters, seek for medical advice. Here is some insights about how and why H can appear somewhere else: A recurrence takes place when HSV reactivates in the nerve ganglion at the base of the spinal cord and particles of virus travel along the nerve to the site of the original infection in the skin or mucous membranes (e.g. the skin in or around the genital area). Sometimes, the virus travels down a different nerve causing recurrent symptoms at another site such as the buttocks or thighs.
  11. Hey, I believe for what I have read that you are HSV2 positive, right? You can not infect yourself again in that area. It could be razor bumps, men's daily nightmare Or it could be that you are having an OB somewhere else. Perfectly plausible. Eitherway you are not infecting yourself again. Needless to say, do not share your razors with anyone, just for the hygiene's sake :)
  12. since we are in a quoting spree, I raise to Hemingway
  13. Oh I get it, you just need to vent it out! lol Glad I helped :))
  14. hey, Seems like I didn't express myself properly. I was saying that when we receive a compliment we don't take it seriously, but when someone makes a mean comment we swallow it and drown in our sorrow. We truly believe it. And that's plain and simply wrong. Let me tell you something that you might not like. All these upsetting feelings, sadness, disappointment, are not because of him, of the H for that matter. You are dealing right now with a low self-esteem problem. You are not upset because he quit talking to you. You are upset cause his actions are the proof you were looking for to convince yourself you are not worth it. You need to start working on building some self-esteem. We all go through that phase in our life for one reason of another. I recommend you to read about cognitive psychology, specially the book called "Feeling Good" by Dr David D. Burns. trust me, this is not on of those pseudo-scientific self-help books that you can find in walmart. This is a branch of psychology and he is a real practitioner.
  15. Hi Nigella! One month in and you are talking like that! wow I am speechless. You must be an incredible woman. Your post sent me tons of electrifying positive energy, like a force field that's keeps all the bad thing away. We need to learn a lot from you. There is something though I would like to address in your post. You said you made a stupid decision when you slept with your friend. It was not stupid. It was fine at the time and something happened. In my experience is easy to forgive your friends and family, but it's hard to forgive oneself. For me this is the ultimate sign of love since we all are extremely harsh to ourselves. You didn't make a stupid decision, you just slept with a friend because it was fun. Sex is fun, it's great! How could I probably know? Would I do it again? what if? What if? These question are not taking you anywhere. It was the right decision given the information you had. It's water under the bridge. But again, after one month and you are talking and acting like some one who has overcome the worst part of all. From now on the ride will be fun! enjoy!
  16. MY SECOND WAKE UP CALL It was a month ago. I went to the hospital to retire my medical prescription. I was sitting in the STD area minding my own business, playing video games on the phone or just simply staring at the ceiling. I was just one guy waiting for my turn. But then, I looked around and i saw others' faces. Oh no... I saw fear, concern, people taping their fingers frantically in their knees. Poor things. I started wondering who came that day for a H OB, my heart sunk. I saw myself years ago waiting for the results, believing that my life as I knew it was over. I felt so much pain for them, I almost shared it with them, telepathically, I can't explain. I wanted to get up and tell them, "hey buddy, no worries" But how could I do that? Just get up and ask straight? " heeeello are you coming here for herpes?" hahahaha no way! That's why that day I decided to help other to go through THE PHASE. If I got this for life, let's better make sense out of it. Let's use it for the greater good and help others. I want to be the person I needed during that phase of my life. Sadly, here in Spain there are not that awesome support groups that you guys have in US. It would be great to be part of something like that. I asked in the STD pavilion and they don't such thing for HSV. They do have for HIV though but that is not our fight. There is nothing much in Spanish on the web neither, so that's how I ended up in here ;-) English is not my mother language and I believe sometimes I make no sense, please pardon my grammar mistakes. At least I am a human being and I can share with you the pain, your concerns and I can love you back haha, believe in what I say: it gets better. I know I am a complete stranger for you, but we share something together, something that makes us stronger and united for life! Don't see it as a curse, please don't. We are together is this awesome trip called LIFE. We are accepting ourselves as what we really are, beautiful and flawless star dust. You are not alone, you are being loved in this precisely moment.
  17. danielle330 just hit the spot. Check some medical sites, it goes like this: OMG I WANT TO DIE, THIS IS THE WORST THING EVER, MY LIFE IS RUINED. joined in 2003, messages 01 hahaha Then they forgot and they move on. Now we get online, with our fresh H vandalizing our groins and we read this: THIS IS THE END, I DESERVE THIS FOR I'VE SINNED I AM DAMAGED GOODS, NO ONE LOVES ME SHE CHEATED ON ME, I HATE HER I WISH HER DEAD I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME PERSON, WHY ME?? WHYYYY? And obviously we freak out sooo much we go crazy. Thanks you for all the old timers that put some sense into this. I wish I found this forum the first day I started freaking out, oh boy I was in such terrible state.... But now it's gone, life is great and from time to time I feel a need to scratch my crotch hahaha. LIFE IS GOOD
  18. HEY HEY!! you can diss on men as much as you want! hahaha I am not gonna be the one defending my homies! From the Darwinist point of view, i should push you gals to think badly about guys, it's like I am eliminating competence LOL. More for me! hahaha just kidding! I am gonna throw you a curve ball and she how you respond. One guy, THIS SPECIFIC GUY, booty-call you (lol that word) he made you feel like his last resort, and yeah, probably in his eyes you were the last chance to get laid. He probably tried with 23,456 women before even try with you. That can be a plausible scenario. So, is that making you the last resort for the 3 billion males left in this planet? That guy attitude and decision made you what you really are? If a woman down the road yells at me "Jaime you look like an ass" Am I automatically an ass in the eyes of everyone? Should I consider myself an ass because one's opinion? So my mom can't stop telling me I am the most handsome son in the world. Why I shouldn't believe her? Ah yeah, because it's a compliment! But the other day I was in the beach and someone told me I have a fat ass. Yeah, it's true,I am a fat ass... Do you get my point? WHY WE PUNISH OURSELVES SO MUCH!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Last thing, this sentence of yours; "so feeling weak and just texted him back, because im weak and pathetic" No you are not. You texted back because you want someone to show you love, you want to feel loved. That's not pathetic. You are confused and you are just putting names into your feelings and jumping to the wrong conclusions. change weak for needy Pathetic for demanding. Then, when you can handle it, change that sentence for something that goes like "I texted back because I want to" Start showing some love for yourself, and you will have a ton of those guys that you hate now, crying at your dooorstep, begging for some kitcattat's sugar. PS: I am not a fat ass, actually my ass in awesome :-))
  19. Yeaaaah Pacific! We need to step back and look at this in perspective. I wonder if there is an unknown side effect of getting H that messes with our brains and made us be too full of ourselves (in the down-path way). No kidding! I heard virus can affect behavior. It made me think, why we got soooo stressed about it?. Why we feel like shit? honestly! why? I guess it has something to do with the combo sex/virus/heartbreak/mistrust/lies/ignorance Who knows, I have no idea. The only thing I know is, it got the best out of me but at the end I won this bitch. Whoever needs a H buddy I will be there, just around the corner. Lets make it through!
  20. Seems like newlife2013 is sharing the powerful secrets of cognitive psychology. Domh21 use those tricks at your own discretion and be careful. The outcome could be that you will become a really powerful woman and enslave the Universe!
  21. It's weird but I get your point. I got it, seriously. You are taking special care of your body and even so you get infected, by a vegan nonetheless! see? eating lettuce can't be good! haha just joking! Sorry for what I am going to do now with you but I am going to put you in a emotional corner, I am gonna blackmail you and sucker punch you in the soul.... I read about those marines who are sent to the stupid war in middle east. Young, handsome military boys that suffered the worst war injuries and yeah, you can really tell they are damaged goods, really. I read a lot about how inspired they became after the traumatic experience, their bodies practically burnt, limbs cut off, terrible. And yet, those guys are there to tell us they don't give up. They love and they are being loved more than ever. I used to think about myself like a piece of rubbish. A sack full of virus. Some disgusting human being no worth being loved. Was that true? No it wasn't. That was my low self esteem jumping into conclusions. My judgmental self deciding on how others should be seen me. Oh dear, that was so unfair for me and my people... Every time I hear "i am damaged goods" I no longer feel compassion but a bit of anger. We can not feel like that. WE JUST CAN NOT. Because its not fair, because people who are, in theory, way worse than us are giving us lessons about self love. That's why if you don't do it for yourself, do it for the rest of us.
  22. Yeah, been there, "got that" My doctor asked me if I want the treated for two weeks with cryotherapy coming back and forth to the hospital or go with acid treatment and take care of it myself. I had to move out of the country so I went for the acid treatment. Oh boy, that was painful hahaha , now I have some beautiful scars. Have anyone burnt his/her own delicate skin? jeeeeeesus I don't know what is all this fuss with HPV, I know there is a corelation between HPV and the cervix cancer, but i guess It's the same for us guys with the prostate cancer and low levels of testosterone. I mean, what can we do about it? I am not going to live in fear for the rest of my life thinking about cancer, oh please. I remember I passed the HPV onto a friend of mine. We both didn't know we had, but she was pretty sure it was me. Son one day she came back from the OB/GYN and she told me "I got this, hey! it was your fault" I said sorry I didn't know it, and she was ok with it. We remained super good friends today. That's all.
  23. hey domh21, hang in there sister! First, The H has nothing to do with your situation. So get it out of the equation. Your mind is using your infection to punish you. Yeah, you are punishing yourself. So you better stop doing it. How? I believe time cures everything. The best thing you can do right now is keep visiting your therapist, she is a professional and her advice should be the only one you must follow. If you are dealing with depression, please, do not lurk too much on internet. Second. You won't believe the capacity that humans have to heal from adversity. I mean, look at those poor things in Syria, Africa etc. Real human catastrophes and yet, they come up and thrive after all that adversity. I know that these words will not comfort you, yeah, the world is unfair and there is so much pain. You are probably thinking "ok ok, but me?, what about me? no one knows how much I am suffering with this whole situation " I know, and my heart is with you. knowing that people suffer too it won't help you to get out of the hole. But I want you to keep one door open. Let's call that open door HOPE. It is possible. Its happening right now, somewhere. People suffer, lose everything, loved-ones gone, and yet, they go back in their feet and live. You are one of them, you are warrior, you are playing this game call life in hard mode. You will win this. Believe.
  24. thanks newlife2013, I am happy to hear that! SCORE! You just hit the spot, downplay the issue, and set it where it really belongs. We are energy transmitters. If we have THE TALK with moist in our eyes or tweaking frenetically our partner absorb that negative energy and freak out. Best thing is to develop Zen monk's attitude before facing the moment of truth, or simply take as it it is; pimples!
  25. The more I read in this forum the more I realized that this website is not a comunnity help to overcome the H issue but to look out for some comfort after breakups and broken promises. Guys can be whatever you want them to be. I mean, he can be the major a-hole in the Universe but as long as you ignore him he can not harm you. But again, you said you felt vulnerable... vulnerable? so why you met him if you feel in such position? You said you hooked up with him. Before the hook up, did you talk to him about your emotions? Were you crystal clear about it? Did you ask him about what he wanted? a one night stand? a serious relationship? Don't get me wrong, I am not defending my own race (lol) but in my experience all these emotional turmoils are generated by the lack of communication. Since I am the most extrovert person in the solar system I believe talking is the best cure for all ailments. I mean, you already did the most difficult part, THE TALK, well.. before you "hook up" why don't you lay some ground rules? Tell him what are you looking for, ask what he wants, and if both palns matches you guys are good to go to the joyride.
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