@danigirl awwww, I feel for you, girl. We never got that far. I stopped dating him last month after he started displaying red flags. My advice would be to make sure that you really get to know the person before you put yourself through the stress.
I can give you some hope though, even though this isn’t the same situation. I randomly met a girl online (I’m bisexual), and even though I stated that I’m “HSV+”, she apparently didn’t know what that meant, and I ended up explaining it through texts when she questioned it. We met up last week and she asked questions about things like the chances of her getting it, whether and how I often I get outbreaks, etc. And then she tried to sleep with me, lol. That will never be anything more than a casual situation, if that, but I guess it goes to show that there are people who don’t care, once they understand what they’re dealing with.
But I understand your fear, and I know how hard it is to decide when the right moment is. There are people on this board with far more experience disclosing than me, but I’m more than happy to help you in any way I can, and you have my support. I’m rooting for you.