I found out I had herpes while I was in a serious relationship almost 3 years ago. I was only 19 when I found out and in college. The first person I told was my mom. Because I was in a serious relationship, and I believe it was him that I got the infection from, she seemed supportive and told me that everything was going to be okay.
Now flash forward three years and my boyfriend and I have broken up and I have finally begun to try and date again. My mom loved my boyfriend and is still very upset that we've broken up (it's been a year). I am finishing up my last semester of college, so I don't live at home. Whenever I go home for breaks my mom is very nosey as to who I am talking to whenever I am on my phone. She has been this way since me and my boyfriend broke up.
I told her I was talking to someone, and since then she has been bringing up the fact that I have herpes. She has said the following things to me...
"Well have you told him you have herpes?" this was one of the first things she asked me... which I feel isn't first thing a mother should ask you...
"Why do you want to try to be with someone, when you had great guy that accepted you for having herpes?"
"I really don't think you should tell this guy about your herpes because it's not going to go anywhere."
"You know if it weren't for your whole herpes thing, you'd probably be 'Girls Gone Wild' right now."
And these were just the most recent comments she has made.
And these were just comments in one day. I am still coming to terms with the fact that I have herpes, and am afraid to get too close to someone because I am afraid to disclose. These comments have really gotten me down recently right when I thought I was confident enough to get back out into the dating world.
Just looking for some words of support!