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I also had the fact sheet printed out. Told him I was asymptomatic and that I had meds I could & would take to lessen the risk of transmission. I let him know how hard it was for me to tell but how important it was. He definitely wasn’t turned away because he is making lots of plans for sexy time 😆😆😆

Well I had a “script” typed on my phone and I just read over it again and again. only to try not to forget anything I wanted to say out of nervousness and so I could be confident in what I was saying. I didn’t read it off to him & I definitely left some things I wanted to say out... but I got what I needed to say out, then we were able to talk more about it later. My “script”: ”I’m going to jump and I’m asking you to hold my hand while I fall. You are somebody I enjoy spending time with & as much of a surprise as it is to me, I have started opening up to you. Because of that, I have something personal about me that I want to share with you. I am afraid of what you may think or that it may push you away but I am willing to risk that & put it all out there. I hope you respect that. Ive mentioned to you something that happened to me years ago, but there is more to know about that. I contracted HSV2 (one of the viruses that causes cold sores/herpes) and I'd like to know how you feel about this and also give you any time to ask questions and/or do research about it. It's just part of my life, something that is not a big deal for me, but also something that I like to be up-front and open about. This issue hasn't had a negative impact on my sex life or me physically, and I respect any choice you make.”

Good luck!!

I did tell him that having kids was still possible. We were kind of awkward the rest of the night. He thought I didn’t want him in my space and I thought he was being distant. We talked about it this morning & it was just confusion. He told me everything is fine & I need to relax. I definitely cried tears of relief after all was said and done. He is very patient and understanding. Definitely blessed to have him in my life. Glad we can focus on us without me holding back due to fear! Mom happy to have a successful disclosure story! With the right person, anyone can! Thank you all!

Well I told him. He was cool with it & told me it doesn’t change how he feels. He told me I need to relax. Lol His only question was can I still have kids. So my first disclosure was a success!

For me, it has been a little over a year since diagnosis. I haven’t yet had a reason to disclose either. I’ve always been scared of that idea too, but I’ve just changed my thinking. Using it to my advantage. If I tell him and he sticks around, then that’s a good sign to me & makes me look forward to growing with him. If he doesn’t accept it, then that saves me to trouble & time of working towards a relationship with somebody that doesn’t deserve me.

Thank y’all!! So little update... I didn’t disclose lastnight. Turns out that the stress of telling mixed with the wine I was drinking to calm my nerves was the perfect recipe for the best sleep I’ve had in a long time! I passed smooth out on him! Left him up watching football. 😂 Tomorrow night is the night! Less wine & less wasting time running through what I’m going to say in my head. So send me good vibes tomorrow!

HSV2. Read it written out is what I meant. He is coming over tonight. I also have the handout printed out already.

Debating now if I’m going to speak it or let them read it. If they read it then I can give them some space in the other room. But then that doesn’t seem very confident. I’m just going to feel it out and see what seems right in the moment

Well... the title pretty much sums it up! I am getting ready to disclose for the first time ever! Feeling nervous but oddly ready for it. I guess ready to just get it over with! Wish me luck & I’ll be back at some point to let y’all know how it goes.

So this may be a little off topic so forgive me if this is not the place for this post. However, maybe it will spark interest for others that need to recharge their life! I am want to take some solo trips. Take time for myself to get in tune with my life & really focus on the good. I am not H, but who am I? I live in Texas but I am not opposed to traveling to different states. What I’d like is if you all could share some ideas on where to go. Maybe some places you have been. I did find some cool resort type healing places when I searched “self-discovery” trips. I do like the outdoors, cold or warm. I have no limits really on what I’m looking for. Can be a weekend of hiking, just look out over a beautiful scenery, or a weekend inside a spa, meditating or just reading and writing. Thanks in Advance.

Diagnosed in Dec 2017. HSV2. I have felt pretty good for the most part. People are not lying when they say the stigma is the worst part. I only experience some feelings of sadness/anxiety when I think of dating again or disclosing. I’m on suppressive meds (acyclovir 2x a day). I have missed a few doses the past week & I recently switched to night shift so my body is a little off right now. I’ve not really had any physical symptoms down there. At this point I only have a few small concerns or questions: - Back acne. I started having a few (what appear to be) acne spots on my upper back. Red raised bumps that sometimes are itchy. I also see a black head. I’ve never had this problem before. Could it be H related? An outbreak? From the meds? Stress? Not enough water? I’m just concerned about this being a new constant for me! - I like to stay clean shaved down there. I’m scared to shave too much or to cause irritation/spreading. If I don’t shave enough then the hair is irritating. What do I do? Has anyone had laser hair removal after diagnosis? - Sex. I haven’t had sex since diagnosis and I know suppressive therapy, condoms, and not having sex during an outbreak is best, but for future reference... (given the other party understands risks & is okay with it) What about unprotected sex? Oral sex? I don’t want to totally kill the vibe of my sex life. Thanks in advance.

I meant to say that there *are* beautiful women out there with H also. Just to show myself that anyone can have H and I’m definitely not alone. Putting a face to it helped.

I recently got on positive singles as well! I had the same reaction as you! I am a 26yr old Female. (Just FYI) I didn’t want to limit myself to only people with H, but I wanted to at least see what was out there and have conversation without the anxiety of future disclosure. I will say, I only found maybe 4 people on there that even peaked my interest, but the anxiety free conversation & just seeing so many other people living with H like I am definitely helped! If I went to the chat room I could see everyone’s online (women & men). May sound crazy but I would look at some of the women’s profiles on there just to see that there aren’t beautiful women just like me out there. Adrial, thank you for the info! I’ll check it out also!

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