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Find a new GP if they dont! I got a script from an online DR because it was going to take weeks to get in and be seen.

Late to the party as well but you can use an online Dr, its how I got my antivirals. I could not get into the DR fast enough so I paid $50 and consulted with the online Dr and had a script filled in an hour. Ive used online Drs a few times and its been great each time. Well worth the $50 not to leave my house and sit at the Dr(around sick people! LOL) or dentist(had a tooth infection starting) for hours for an antibiotic or my antivirals. I have always been able to pick up my meds within an hour.

It takes two to tango. Did you ask her to get tested before you had sex and see the paperwork? If you didn't its just as much your fault as hers. I was lied to and not disclosed to but I chose to believe him and not actually get testing done before we had sex so its my own fault. Is he a piece of crap for not telling, well, yes but, I had to accept my own part. Why would I sue when I am responsible for my own body and behavior? We have to accept our own responsibilities in this.

Just want to say I caught it at 19 now 44 and my dating and sex life has been great/normal and hers will be too! :) She is not damaged, while it will take her time to see this, tell here we are here and living a great life just like a non H person.

You can so have more children!! :) If you have an OB during delivery they will go C section. many women have plenty fine pregnancies/deliveries. Cant help you on what to do just know you CAN have more kids!

Glad you had that reaction. :) Mine blamed me and dumped me at 19.(25 years ago this year) I know it came from him and to this day he still would say he doesn't have it. It was very hard to deal with there was no support and info out there like now. Drs dont know Jack either... Today Im way more informed than my gyno/Dr. They seem to be clueless with the exception of just throwing meds at you. Im glad people today have forums like this, a butt load of info to research on the net, and dating sites for us positive people.

Something that made me feel better: I went to the pharmacy to get my meds, and the pharmacist mentioned that valacyclovir flys off the shelves really fast. I'm not in a really big city, so that surprised me. She said I was lucky they just got a shipment, because they normally wouldn't be able to fill my whole prescription. That means that there are tons of people near me who take suppression medicine every day, and they are working, owning homes, raising families, and being normal people. It was really reassuring to know that it wasn't stopping any of them from living a normal life, and there is no reason I couldn't do the same. When I just went on suppressive therapy... they needed to see if they had enough to fill my script. Only 90 days. So yes its that common! They said they had just enough. Ive had it for 25 years but back on meds for the first time in 24 years. My change of life lady hormones are whacking me out.s seeing if meds can regulate me more with OB.

You never know they could have it too! Id say about half the guys I dated said me too at talk time.(had it 25 years) I also wait to see if said guy is even worth telling my secret as dates went on many were not... If hes that good of a man he wont make you feel bad about it/probably be ok with it. I have been in the known him for a long time but realized we would never work so I never had to tell so I cant help there... Ive personally never had a man I told reject me because of H and my greatest loves where all non H men. I say take the leap if you know hes a good man!

Hang in! It will get better! Ive had it for 25 years and had a great dating/sex life. The first outbreak and the first year tend to be the worse and its gets soo much better! You WILL be loved and find love again. I know its hard to see this now... and not to stress but the stress and drinking will only hinder healing. I know the devastation you are feeling, I caught it at a time where there was no net yet/support like today. I suffered very alone. I made it through and you can too! :)

Have you tried just eating balanced foods with Lysine so you dont have to take it as a supplement? This a good ratio chart. http://acidicbody.com/lysine-arginine-ratio-foods/ I use Oil of Oregano with a Frankincense mix using coconut oil as a carrier. Ive also applied Oil of Oregano straight. Burns but its a relief burn! I hit 25 years this year. I have not used meds since my first year but back on suppression therapy. Its been about a week... Since I hit 40's my outbreaks have become monthly. I think its my hormones changing mainly, it can be a problem for us women starting the 'change'. I also love my collagen bone broth(filled with Arginine) but its a big fat trigger! My gut/joints feel good/skin looks so good but yeah, hi blisters! LOL. I dont want to give it up because its beneficial to me in so many other ways. Right now Im in test mode using suppression and trying to balance the Lysine/Arginine ratios in the collagen-bone broth. Im going to try Dr Axes next batch. I contacted them for the ratios so I can balance the Lysine intake. My current I dont know the ratios...

He could have it... Id say at least half the men I dated said they have it too! Ive had it for 25 years. We dont owe anyone all our secrets right away. All my great loves in those years where non H men I never passed it to. You are stressing yourself out, you may want to seek other help over this at this time, you have not come to terms with it yet because this is stressing you so much and youre hindering your life living in fear. Just rip the band aid off and do it! :)

I still 'fear' telling/someone spreading it around for sure... I just don't let the fear rule me. It did when I first got it at 19... It took some time, there was no support/info like today. The net was just starting. Crap... Im getting so old! LOL. Now a days its tiny 'fear'. Ive just lived life and dated like I dont have it, you have to as really its so minute in the big picture of life/love. Its a rash that flares up like many other skin conditions. I also need to see if a guy is even worth telling my secret. Many I met over the years were not! haha. I never told them so the 'fear' was not a factor.

It will take time. I got it at 19 25 years ago. No support systems and info like today. It was total alone in a hole of devastation but I snapped out of that. Ive had a good dating/sex/great loves in my H years and you will too.

@20plusIts holiday week, give people a change to post, you just posted yesterday. :) When ur freaking out 1 day is an eternity! Sorry We have all been there. When I got it the net did not exist and I had nobody to talk to, I didnt even have info to read like today. Talk about a freak out! haha. You'll be ok. :)

I agree with the wife being out of line. There is something else going on and this H thing brought it out...