Charmander23

@optimist my level was 16.4, but I've never experienced an outbreak. After calling all my previous partners I've found that I was exposed about 4 years ago, and I think I've had it since then. I do feel like I deserve acceptance, and it was handled really poorly. He may have given it to me, but I'm not sure. He did get tested and treated for the chalymidia, but they didn't test him for herpes. He had a fatalistic view of a lot of things.

No, that's the kicker. He could still totally have it. I also doubt he will after all this.

I told my boyfriend I had HSV 2 within maybe 10 minutes of finding out myself. I found out because he gave me chalymidia so I just got a 10 panel STD test and that cams back positive for HSV 2. He was really patient and understanding at first but ultimately decided that he couldn't deal with herpes and told me that staying with me would be the equivalent of walking down a path that he knew had land mines. It's his loss, good riddance, yadayadayada I just feel really angry. I want to yell curse words and all sorts of other nonsense but really just typing it out is making me feel better.

Thanks, that's how I feel too. my IgG was positive for type , I think I just wanted to believe what she was telling me. Thank you for answering. I am going to try a new gynocologist.

I went to an urgent care to get STD testing because I had actual exposure to Chalymidia. No big deal, just some antibiotics, right? So I said test me for everything, and treat me for what you can. So I got the call, expected the positive chalymidia results, did not expect to hear I was positive for HSV2. This was over the phone, they probably should have scheduled me to go see my provider but I decided that I'd rather talk to my PCP who is a gynocologist and an internist. So I scheduled the appointment and did my research. My igG level was 16.4, so it was well above positive. I went and talked to my Dr. She said that she didn't think I actually had HSV 2. That I probably just had HSV1 and not to worry about it, after doing research and considering my sexual history (multiple partners generally with protection) I think there is a good chance I'm an asymptomatic carrier. My current boyfriend is basically a saint and has been super supportive while this has all been going on. It's brand new, like a month old relationship but we're both educated, thoughtful people and could really see pursuing a life together. My major concern is that I think I should probably get on antiviral therapy. He hasn't gotten tested yet because he wanted to wait to test in a window that was more accurate, and he is scared because we both have other medical problems so finding significant others is really difficult and if we don't work out then he doesn't want to deal with HSV. We also have the problem that condoms aren't really a great option because he has dealt with trauma and gets turned off easily so condoms typically slip off. So I guess my questions are 1. How do I find a Dr. Experienced with HSV enough to confirm that I have it, because my level is highly suggestive that I have it, though I haven't had an outbreak. 2. Has anyone successfully not transferred it without condoms? 3. Should I get more confirmation through the Western blot or should I just accept that I likely have this. We are operating as if I definitely have it, and he doesn't. All of my long term sexual partners have tested negative, and I just don't know what to make of the situation.