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Okay, I need opinions on this situation. In January I went in for an exam due to some itching and bumps. Doctor said definitely not herpetic and prescribed nystatin. I asked for a swab test and it came back positive for hsv2. Four months prior in August, I went in for the same thing and swab was negative. Both times very high levels of candida (yeast infection). Only logical thing to do was a blood test, negative for both img and igg. I have since been with people multiple times unprotected and without an antiviral (with their knowledge of my result) and I never passed this on to anyone. My question is... do I really have it? I know all tests can be false positives and false negatives, so what to go by with two different resulting swabs and a negative blood test? There were no difference in sexual partners between that time. The blood test would have been more than 9 months after what you would consider possible exposure. I have since never had any symptoms or issues at all. I’m confused and annoyed about having to tell people about this if it’s not even accurate or 100%. I have gotten different reactions from different doctors. One said “you were probably just exposed to it and won’t have any outbreaks”. Another didn’t even know what to say because she was also confused!

Thanks! My first ever outbreak was so mild that my doctor swore up and down it was not herpetic, so I hadn’t gotten one since. I still take acyclovir daily for suppression but I started to feel a bit sore in a similar area so I switched to my Valtrex (higher dosage) and used oregano oil in the area but I think it irritated it more. I’m giving TTO a go right now, much more soothing! Hopefully the outbreak stays away altogether!

Curious to hear opinions! I have heard both diluted are good for symptoms.

I finally disclosed. I forgave myself first and then explained everything including stats and information on it and how important it is to have the conversation of sexual health. He admitted to not having been tested in over a year and having unprotected sex with two other people since. I think it also put it into perspective for him that I mentioned how willing he was to get down with me without protection when he had no idea what I had and pushing protection was my idea. He said he respected me being blunt and honest because it is a topic that should be talked about and he trusts me and my knowledge about it, and that regardless of the situation we will figure it out. So all in all successful post multiple sexual encounter disclosure lol

So every doctor I spoke to said it was a bizarre case. I first came into contact with it 9 months prior to my first and very minor outbreak and did not show symptoms until 3 months after ending the relationship with him. He tested positive for it after my outbreak.

No judgement please. I was diagnosed last month with hsv2. My ex got it while he was having an affair and gave it to me. The person I was seeing at the time was perfectly fine with it, so that first and only disclosure thus far went smoothly. I ended up ending things with him because I was not 100% into it and felt guilty about possible transmission to him if it wasn’t a long term thing (he never wanted to use condoms). I went out on the weekend and ended up going home with someone. We had both been drinking pretty heavily and it honestly didn’t cross my mind until the next day that I never disclosed to him. We did use protection. Fast forward to a few days later and we were out drinking again and one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together twice in the same night. Both times with protection. I know it’s so, so horrible of me not to disclose but I’m really struggling with it and now I feel like I can never tell him because I didn’t give him the option to choose. Help meeeeee.

I found out less than a month ago I was hsv2 positive. I contracted it from my ex boyfriend. I am in another relationship, and the dating scene and disclosing is not really what bothers me. Some days I’m fine and don’t even think about it. Other days I am extremely depressed, can’t eat, can’t sleep and up all night thinking about it, wondering if I’m going to accidentally transmit it to my 5 year old daughter. These days I just want to die. I know everyone says it’s not something to go crazy over but I cannot shake the fact that my life was once so great and normal and now at 27 years old I have to live with an incurable sexually transmitted disease for the rest of my life. I feel dirty and disgusting and I feel like a terrible mother. I just don’t want to live like this.

I got hsv2 from my ex. I did not have my first outbreak until after we broke up, months after contact with him, and already in a new relationship. My culture was positive but my blood test negative also. My doctor said it was a new infection, so I immediately thought it was the new guy. His test came up negative. My ex came up very positive and showed he had the infection for a long time.

I will tell you my experience. I had my first outbreak 3 weeks after starting an intimate relationship with someone. I did not get it from him, but my ex. I was completely taken back and dumbfounded with my results and had no idea how to bring it up. I knew I had to though, especially since we already were together sexually. I became very standoffish because I was afraid he would run in the opposite direction. I eventually sat him down in person and explained the situation. He sat in silence for a minute and then asked questions. I gave him all the necessary information about it, statistics of transmission, explained what I was doing to prevent further breakouts and what I could do to prevent transmission to him, and then asked if he had any questions. I told him I would not be angry about rejection and to think about it before deciding anything. We are still together and very happy. Basically, you need to tell him. If he is as serious about you as he says he is, then it won’t be an issue. It will be worth the risk in their eyes. If he rejects it, it’s safe to say he was not as serious as he said and you should move on.

I just found out yesterday I have herpes. After having intercourse with someone a few times, I developed a few pinsize lesions and had them tested, which came back positive for hsv2. I also had a blood test the same day, the IgG came back negative with low numbers (.45). I spoke to my ex about it and he got tested and we are waiting for his results, though I’m thinking I did not get it from him since my body hadn’t developed antibodies yet and more than enough time has passed since he and I last interacted. This outbreak occurred about 2.5 weeks after I started a new intimate relationship. I am so unbelievably nervous to bring it up to my current partner. I have been avoiding him and slowed down my communication with him by staying standoffish. How do you go about telling someone you think they gave you herpes? What if his results are negative and then I just look completely disgusting not knowing who gave it to me? What is the likelihood that he is the one who gave it to me? Help.

IgG result .45 showing negative. Swab was positive. Does this mean it is a new infection and I contracted it from my most recent partner?

Last year I was dating someone for about 6 months. While we were dating, I started getting back to back bacterial infections and around August I developed a terrible yeast infection (Candida) and developed a few random lesions. I had the lesions cultured and they came back negative for hsv1 and hsv2. The lesions were only present for a few days and cleared up immediately after taking the medication for the yeast infection. He also never had any symptoms or reason to believe he was positive for it. Fast forward a few months, he and I were no longer together anymore and I started seeing someone else. About 3 weeks after we started having intercouse, I developed a few small pinsize lesions. They looked and felt completely different than the ones I developed previously from the yeast infection. I decided to go get another culture and also a blood test. My culture came back positive for hsv2, my IgG blood serum came back negative (.45). My doctor gave me no more information other than the results and medication. If I had contracted it months and months ago, wouldn’t it show up in the antibodies test? Does the negative blood test mean that my new partner is who infected me and just hadn’t had enough to develop the antibodies? I’m so confused!