WHATSNEXT1984

thanks everyone :) i couldnt be happier at this moment in my life!!

i found out i had herpes back in july. only had to disclose to one person who was a friend (possibly more) well it turned out he couldnt handle it. That was a blow to my confidence. I met my current boyfriend just over a month ago. I had known him in highschool and just reconnected randomly. i fell for him right away. we decided when we first started talking that we would take things slow and hold off on intimacy. He asked me to be his girlfriend officially 10/22 at this point i knew it was time to have the talk. it was the first time i was disclosing to someone i cared alot about and was so fearful he would walk away. i told him everything and he did have a look of concern but then he held my hand and told me that herpes doesnt define who i am or how much he cares for me. i started crying right then and there. and then he grabbed me and kissed me so deep i felt it in my toes. i am head over heels in love with this wonderful man and i dont think i would be in this place without all of the support and wonderful advice on this website! thank you so much for everything :)

well he was super supportive and said that he just needs to be careful now. he understands the way it happened and he will continue to talk to me. he is still interested in having a relationship with me but he doesnt understand how we can be safe and protect him. i know not to have sex while having an outbreak or when i feel symptoms coming back. but he was more worried about oral sex. am i safe to perform oral on him without a condom? he doesnt know if i can transfer it that way. btw i have hsv2 no oral sores at all. and can he perform those acts on me as long as im not having any symptoms. im also taking the acyclovir daily. its hard to find good info on all of this. im finally becoming ok with everything. i was lied to and i think that is what i am having the most difficulty with.

I found out i have herpes about 2 weeks ago. I am pretty sure who infected me and i feel betrayed. Granted i have made mistakes in my life but i dont know what i ever did to deserve this. I was married for 10 years ages 18-28 and once i became single i did have a few partners. some overlapping which i am not proud of but i cant change the past now. The person who i know gave this to me is denying it and i know deep down he is lying. in the midst of messing around with the liar i reconnected with a friend from highschool and we have hooked up a few times. both of us arent really ready for a relationship so we both were in agreeance about what our status was. well i am seeing him tomorrow and i am going to have to tell him what has happened to me. i know for a fact that i couldnt have transmitted it to him seeing as though the first time i had unprotected sex with the "liar" was about 4 days before i had my outbreak. my friend i hadnt been with for a week or so prior. i know he will wonder why i am not interested in sex with him and i will have to tell him. i dont want to scare him away because i am starting to have feelings for him. i never thought i would be in this position ever in my life and i dont know how to handle everything. how do you have that conversation?? and if by some chance in world he still wants anything to do with me sexually how can i keep him safe?? i honestly have noone to talk to about this because i am completely ashamed. the only people that know are my sister and the person i think gave it to me. i dont want him to look at me differently. and i dont want to lose him as a friend. sorry i have babbled on too much here but i dont know where else to turn.