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  1. @Lifegoesonn Are you saying you only received your first outbreak 4 months after exposure? Is that something you know for sure? I find that interesting.
  2. I haven't gotten the results yet, but I'm pretty sure I've contracted HSV-2 based on my symptoms. Although my first, and so far only, outbreak was super mild compared to what everyone else is saying about their first outbreaks, and has almost completely cleared up after 3-4 days (However I did catch it early and started Valtrex by the end of day 2). Now I've had HSV-1 since I was about 9 years old, but get cold sores so rarely now, if ever (age 25), but I remember getting some pretty nasty and painful ones as a child. So my questions are: 1. Could it be that my HSV-2 symptoms are so mild simply because I've been building antibodies for herpes since I was 9? 2. Is it possible I've had HSV-2 for several months/years without knowing, and the reason I never got genital symptoms until now is because my HSV-1 was suppressing it all this time? 3. Also, does that mean the rest of my recurrences should be mild too? 4. I've heard of people getting one primary outbreak and then never again, is it possible already having had HSV-1 for so long can protect against future outbreaks? I'd love to hear anyone's experience with catching HSV-1 as a child, then catching HSV-2 as an adult. I have no idea where this journey will be taking me, so I'd like to form some sort of image in my mind from others who have the exact same herpes history as me.
  3. @WhatNow17 That stat comforted me too! Because it's too true, I've had HSV-1 since I was a child like most people, and now what looks to be the start of HSV-2. But after a while you just gotta say ah screw it, all I did was join this great big community containing the majority of the world anyway. We're now all just part of a larger, much more supportive/compassionate community than non-HSV likely are. And watch, in the next 20 years or so herpes will be the new HPV. It's simply comes down to the era we're living in, people creating a stigma and making us feel like shit for no reason just happens to be our era. I even saw on another post, someone recounting the horrifically overdramatized herpes images they were shown in sex ed as a child. No wonder we all freak out about it, those images were poured into our brains right before puberty when we were going through serious brain development. And what came next? The jokes kids would make after those sex ed classes, "eww I bet you have herpes!" Our young impressionable minds were practically forced to stigmatize it. Which is society's problem, not ours. And the 67% stat makes me wonder if this thing is just gonna slow take over all humans anyway, so big whoop. And I know, I wish they could at least make a drug that prevents us from outbreaking/passing on to others completely! I understand they can't extract the virus, but shouldn't they at least be able to find something that permanently keeps the virus dormant forever, never to be woken again??
  4. @leo I feel the exact same as I recently had my first HSV-2 outbreak, and although it was pretty minor it still leaves a lot of uncertainty for my future and the dreaded conversations I'll have to have with every single guy I might want to sleep with. My world kinda shifted in those first few days after finding the outbreak, I cried a lot and maybe I will some more as it's still new to me. The funny thing is I think I contracted it the exact same way as you, while trying to get over my ex with someone new. And I'm 25 so I feel your pain. 20s are supposed to be fun times only, and mid-way through I hit this roadblock. But what has really been helping me is finding out how common herpes really is. And the fact that 80-90% of people with oral/genital herpes never even show symptoms and therefore never know they have it. And the fact that the majority (67%) of humans on earth have some form of herpes (and most of them are just unknowingly passing it around as they don't even know they are infected). It's a tricky virus whose sole purpose is to just latch onto any human body it can find. And since you are human, it found you too. But the good news is there are so so many people who have herpes. You can easily find boyfriends, soulmates, casual hookups by diving a bit deeper into the community of it all. I know it might sound crazy and scary and ridiculous, but hey, we are all human and we all make mistakes. People are people whether they carry a sometimes active/mostly dormant/or always dormant virus in their body or not. And don't feel too bad if you get rejected by someone who is "clean", as they may very well have the same virus living dormant in their body too and just not know it. So don't let their "ew you're gross" attitude ruin your confidence, because first, why would you want someone who only sees a virus when they look at you having any part in your life anyway? And second, you'll come to see that many people choose to be ignorant when it comes to STIs, especially herpes. And the more you educate yourself on the matter, the more turned off you'll be by people who choose to remain ignorant. You will in fact end up forming much more amazing and deeply connected relationships for the sole fact that, it will take someone who truly loves you and sees how special you are that will want to commit to you. I'm not saying you can't enjoy casual hook-ups, but when it comes to finding a life partner, that person will definitely be pretty damn special and heavily devoted to you. Sending lots of love and I'm here if you need me!
  5. @powerhouse3248 Dude you have literally nothing to worry about. I grew up getting the occasional cold sore too and never once in my life passed it on to someone else. I think I just caught it from my childhood best friend because kids are stupid and share drinks and food even when they have cold sores, but adults are smarter than that so once you are an adult with cold sores, the likelihood of you spreading it to others is basically zero. You would have to consciously pass it to someone, as in make-out with them while there is an erupting blister on your face (which I'm sure you guys won't be doing anyway). As long as she doesn't rub her cold sores on you while she has one, you're totally fine. I myself had two boyfriends (one for 3 years, the other 1 year) and would get the occasional cold sore, but I just wouldn't make-out with them when I had one. And trust me, kissing someone when you have a cold sore is pretty painful and unappealing. I remember not even wanting to kiss my boyfriend while I had them because it's just unpleasant, so I doubt your girlfriend will too. But with that said, I have definitely kissed my ex several times with slight cold sores, or sometimes even worse cold sores with my medication cream on it, and he still never got anything! And if you need stats to calm you down, 90% of Americans will contract oral herpes by the time they are 50 years old (and 80-90% of those infected, whether oral or genital, never show symptoms anyway and therefore never even know they have it), it's a virus that depends on humans to survive, so it's not going anywhere anytime soon. We're human, not angels, carrying viruses is just another nuisance we have to deal with if we want the privilege of living on this planet. Basically what I'm trying to say is, anyone around you could have herpes and you wouldn't even know it. You yourself can already have it, maybe from childhood, could be laying dormant in your body right now. But guess what? It's nothing to freak out about. You're human, your girlfriend is human, any other girl you date could have that dormant virus also because she will also be human. If you like this girl, keep her. It's hard to find people we truly connect with in life. So please don't judge another human being for being "slightly less" than what you believe you are. The majority of our planet has herpes anyway (67%). So technically, we are the majority, not you (haha). So let that sink in and remember that we are all human beings, your paranoia 100% stems from the traumatic childhood experience you observed that poor girl going through. Social stigma scares the crap out of people more than anything. So please realize what you are being blinded by right now is the social stigma. I'm sorry you had to grow up being terrified of cold sores, because I don't know what that's like. When I had them as a kid, no one made fun of me so I just embraced them I guess, never thought twice about it. It's all about past experiences. You have to let go of all these stupid preconceptions kids from your childhood put into your head, educate yourself on the reality of things now that you are an adult, and move on with life.
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