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Hi all, last year I found I had papilloma virus (HPV) when finding a warth on my genitals which was removed sucessfully but on January this year I felt a bump in my private parts every time I seated, didn't itch or burn or tingle just felt it there. I went to my OB/GYN and before taking a look she asked me if I ever had a herpes type 2 test before, never had one before so didn't know why she was mentioning and didn't know too much about it before that. She took a look and said it was a warth right in my hymen scar and did the same she did with the warth before that, she put some acid and removed it. I felt the normal pain and went back to work, two days later I had to go to ER with fever, dark color urine and almost unable to move my neck. ER doctor run some urine tests and determine it was a urine infection and gave me antibiotics, after that I started to feel right but I had weird sensations in my vagina, like itching, stretching, some nerve pain behind my legs and also I didn't feel when I had to pee so I had to go every number of hours to the bathroom to make sure I was empting my bladder. The reason why I'm telling you all these is because I googled and I found these symptoms where also shared with genital herpes. I had zoster herpes when I was 19 so I can recognize the pain, discomfort and blisters but never saw those on my genitals. I went to the doctor a week after and I told her all my ordeal in ER and my symptoms and she told me that urine infection caused me all those and then looked at my vagina and said that there were no more warths and everything was fine. Despite all that, the idea of having not only Papilloma virus but also herpes didn't leave my mind for the last couple of months and now with the COVID pandemic thing I knew going to the doctor or having tests was more difficult. But last week I found a lab that could come and take a blood sample to your house, so I called them and they had an std check package that included HSV II (ELISA method) and a technician came and took the blood sample to my house. I got the results today and for all STD everything was negative but for Herpes I got weird or undetermined results. My results were negative for IgM but for IgG were 11.0 and according to the reference results: less than 9.0: negative, between 9.0 and 11.0: bordeline, more than 11.0: positive. As you can see my results are not positive but they are not negative either I called to my OB/GYN office and I will go to an appointment on Monday (taking all measurements to avoid COVID of course) to see if I can get a new test but in the meantime what should I tell the guy I'm dating? I will have to call him but don't know what to say, we have had a weird relationship and I don't know what to say and, should I tell him what is going on? I was thinking on telling him what is going on in case the new test comes positive but I don't know what to do, any advice?

Here is my story. I had contracted herpes (HSVII/genital) in 2012 from a partner who *claims* he didn't know. I was naturally devastated, but luckily had been on road trip with said partner, and honestly being away from home distracted me from the bizarreness of it all, at least temporarily. I could be distracted with all the adventures that we had planned for the trip. And surprisingly this partner was totally not freaked out by this new diagnosis, let alone current symptoms/outbreak. Over the years I had managed to disclose successfully to a handful of different partners. Most of them came around and we had full-fledged relationships, ending for other reasons, but mostly on good/decent terms. However, in September of 2018 I had met this one guy and failed to disclose to him. He was everything (I thought) I wanted and thus I was greatly ashamed & intimidated about disclosing. Then, what I will call "the perfect storm" happened and I failed to disclose before sex. I'll skip the details about that here. But I do have another post where I got into trouble with him being angry from having told him after the fact. Fast forward to about 6 months later. I had been working hard, and even enrolled in courses to propel my career, just hoping to redeem myself and help build greater self-confidence in order to prevent the weakness I had experience previously. Having started to feel stronger and better about myself, I put myself out on a dating website. I had so much interest and quickly met a great guy that I started to build a connection with. I thought I would have the courage to tell someone within the first few dates, but it started getting close to six dates, and I was growing increasingly anxious. After I had made the terrible mistake with the previous guy, I was sure I would have the confidence to tell just about anyone, but that seemed to have faded, and I struggled all over again with shame and (lack of) self-confidence. One night we had a miscommunication that upset me, and he was so apologetic and sincere, that it became clear to me that this man was dedicated, so I thought F-it! If he's so dedicated there's one quick way to be sure. Also, in the weeks leading up to this, I had run it through my head that I could approach with the mentality/attitude that *he* needs to be okay with this if we are going to progress. And by that I meant it's *his* responsibility to be cool with this (not mine). I finally got myself to a point where I don't feel like I need to take full responsibility for someone accepting something about me that I cannot change and that I didn't really get the decision to. I no longer need to take responsibility for whether someone else can make a reasonable rational decision based on facts, and that me already knowing, sharing/disclosing, and protecting myself (& my partner) is a lot LESS riskier than had he continued dating so many other people, many of which could have it and not know it or not be able/willing to disclose in advance properly. So that night I texted him to get his butt over to my place and that we needed to have a talk. He hurried over and was scared that he had done something wrong. I quickly reassured him that wasn't the case. We walked over to a cute little suspension bridge in my neighborhood, where we could have privacy from neighbors, and then I managed to cough up the news like hairball (awkwardly). He immediately stopped me and told me that even though he hasn't dated many people, it wasn't the first time he had a relationship with someone who had this. He barely let me finish and then hugged me and reassured me. Then we continued walking the neighborhood and he took that as an opportunity to bring a few other important topics to the table, nothing related to this site. I felt amazing, redeemed & relieved, and finally proud of myself. I hope this lil story helps at least one person. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. Oh, and no judgements from me if you are struggling or fail to disclose. I'm here to do my best to educate & encourage so you don't continue making these mistakes.

Newly diagnosed with hsv-2, after one year with boyfriend who says has zero symptoms. If we’ve had unprotected sex for a year, and I had no symptoms of herpes during this year.. what is the probability of me giving him the virus? Should we assume he more than likely has it now, or he himself brought it into the relationship and infected me?

I was diagnosed with HSV 2 in December I have a rash that pops up everywhere- half the time I don’t know if these are hsv bumps or hives and I’m absolutely miserable about a month and a half ago I got a rash and my forehead and it’s never gone away and has anyone else had an outbreak that look like this