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Hey guys, Recently been going out with someone, a long time interest but the only problem is I truly don't know if I'm herpes negative. Back in August I had an encounter that left me with irritated and burning lips and later on I developed what looks like candidal intertrigo between my inner thighs that is resistant to every fungal cream and oral medication made available to me by prescription and I'm still following up with appointments to see whats up with that , to this day I have not had a traditional outbreak/sores and the only thing that came close was at one point and only once after shaving I had in gown hairs on my scrotum with clear liquid-possibly folliculitis? I've tested negative for everything, negative for type 1 and 2 at 12 weeks by Igg by quest labs here in CA which I believe use the Elisa Blood test that have a 91% sensitivity and 92% specificity for HSV-1 and a greater accuracy for HSV-2, my doubt on truly being negative stems from the to this day constant mild lip burning and inner thigh/groin issues and that the person I last had an encounter with had a red blister on her lip to which she brushed off as a sunburn but in reality I truly believe it was a cold sore and behold 2 days later my symptoms crop up. At 6 months I requested a full std test for everything but for herpes my doctor insisted on a "igm" test despite me wanting the igg and everything came back negative. Truly going through some mental torture about this, only reason doctors haven't brushed me aside as a hypochondriac is because the skin between my inner thighs truly looks abnormal.Feel like I need to end things with this person at this point I couldn't forgive myself If i potentially hurt someone else.

Where herpes dormant or active will it be detected? Even if the sore is healing will the swab still come out positive

So, approximately three weeks ago, I had the bomb dropped on my life that I had tested positive for HSV-2. You can read the whole story in my initial post on the forum (https://forums.herpesopportunity.com/topic/8389-just-found-out-and-now-it-feels-like-everything-is-falling-apart/). But, suffice to say, my whole world crumbled. I lost the girl of my dreams and thought that my life was over. I left for a family vacation to Hawaii the day after all of this happened and could barely convince myself to get out of bed at times, unless it was to get a drink. Then, just the other day, another bomb was dropped into my life. I got a call from the clinic and they said that, apparently, an abnormal amount of labs from that day came back positive. They wanted me to come back in for another test, which I did immediately after receiving the call. I just got my results today and, as it turns out, I tested negative. I've never been so overjoyed along with simultaneously depressed and furious. My life has, to some extent, been inexorably altered because this lab completely f**ked up and took three weeks to figure it out. I can't change that my dream girl has moved on to someone else. I can't take back all the awkward and embarrassing phone calls and texts I had to make to exes. I can't take back the past three weeks of intense pain and depression. All of it has happened and I can't change any of it. I'm not writing this to give anyone unwarranted hope that their diagnosis may change. I'm just writing because I well understand the devastating effect that this news can have on someone's life. And I want to say that, even though I tested negative, I'm going to be keeping my account on this forum and am willing to be an ear, a shoulder, a friend... whatever y'all need. If you're in the SoCal/LA area and need someone to grab a beer with and just vent to, I'm here.