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Hi all, last year I found I had papilloma virus (HPV) when finding a warth on my genitals which was removed sucessfully but on January this year I felt a bump in my private parts every time I seated, didn't itch or burn or tingle just felt it there. I went to my OB/GYN and before taking a look she asked me if I ever had a herpes type 2 test before, never had one before so didn't know why she was mentioning and didn't know too much about it before that. She took a look and said it was a warth right in my hymen scar and did the same she did with the warth before that, she put some acid and removed it. I felt the normal pain and went back to work, two days later I had to go to ER with fever, dark color urine and almost unable to move my neck. ER doctor run some urine tests and determine it was a urine infection and gave me antibiotics, after that I started to feel right but I had weird sensations in my vagina, like itching, stretching, some nerve pain behind my legs and also I didn't feel when I had to pee so I had to go every number of hours to the bathroom to make sure I was empting my bladder. The reason why I'm telling you all these is because I googled and I found these symptoms where also shared with genital herpes. I had zoster herpes when I was 19 so I can recognize the pain, discomfort and blisters but never saw those on my genitals. I went to the doctor a week after and I told her all my ordeal in ER and my symptoms and she told me that urine infection caused me all those and then looked at my vagina and said that there were no more warths and everything was fine. Despite all that, the idea of having not only Papilloma virus but also herpes didn't leave my mind for the last couple of months and now with the COVID pandemic thing I knew going to the doctor or having tests was more difficult. But last week I found a lab that could come and take a blood sample to your house, so I called them and they had an std check package that included HSV II (ELISA method) and a technician came and took the blood sample to my house. I got the results today and for all STD everything was negative but for Herpes I got weird or undetermined results. My results were negative for IgM but for IgG were 11.0 and according to the reference results: less than 9.0: negative, between 9.0 and 11.0: bordeline, more than 11.0: positive. As you can see my results are not positive but they are not negative either I called to my OB/GYN office and I will go to an appointment on Monday (taking all measurements to avoid COVID of course) to see if I can get a new test but in the meantime what should I tell the guy I'm dating? I will have to call him but don't know what to say, we have had a weird relationship and I don't know what to say and, should I tell him what is going on? I was thinking on telling him what is going on in case the new test comes positive but I don't know what to do, any advice?

I started dating a guy a few weeks ago. Earlier in the night, prior to having sex he confessed he had had a mouth sore and didn't know what it was so he consulted his dentist, who told him simply he has herpes. And then he added he doesn't have genital herpes. Later that night we started to have sex and I chickened out on my own status (HSV II - more details in other posts). It wasn't until a week later, when he was supposed to come visit me, that I finally was able to confess. But my question/issue isn't about the disclosing per se. It's after the fact. I told him he should go get tested immediately to confirm he doesn't already have it and then again later (whenever his doctor recommends, as it seems there are varying time frames to wait for the antibodies to build up). He resisted/denied my request for getting tested right away, claiming he had already been tested for EVERYTHING, including HSV. But now, a day later, I'm wondering why his story doesn't seem to jive. He claims he recently had a mysterious mouth sore, and that his dentist (visually) diagnosed it as herpes (more obivously type I). So how could he claim he was surprised by this recent symptoms/diagnosis, when he claims he had already been tested for it. He would've come up positive already for at least Type I, no? The mouth sore shouldn't have been a surprise to him, unless he was just making out with someone and somehow got it that way, I suppose. Either way, I'd like to insist he get tested right away, in addition to waiting later. That way we could be sure he doesn't already have it. MY MAIN QUESTION IS: Is that weird of me to ask/insist of him to take a test now? He seemed comfortable taking my word for it that my last test results came back negative for other STIs. But I'd be willing to take it again if he asked/insisted, in fact I plan to anyway. I'd just really like to clear that possibility out right away, so we won't have to wait unnecessarily another 45+ days for a diagnosis.

my ex and I recently started messing around but were still seeing other people since we felt as though we wanted to gradually get back into it. so I shaved one day and then we knocked some boots lol it burned when I peed that day but it turned out to be just the "friction burn" if you know what I mean. 2 or 3 days later it started to hurt again. & I was on, lets say, a camping trip. so I was not at the liberty, nor had the privacy to look down at my vagina in all its glory. & I honestly didn't even think to check because of the environment I was in. I kept praying and praying that the burning would go away, but it wouldn't. some times peeing wouldn't hurt at all, and then one fateful night it burned like hot acid was being poured on my lady parts. It was all I could do to not let out a blood curdling scream. tears flowing down my face. that morning I decided to head to the ER after finding two red bumps on the top of my labia in the shower. this "doctor" at the ER had the bedside manner of an iguana. he was constantly insinuating it was my fault and couldn't manage a kind word to save his life. so after spending all day in the ER, this terrible ass doctor sent me home with some Valtrex "just in case" it was HSV2, saying it was not characteristically developed enough for him to give a diagnosis. My ex came and saw me and gave me some encouraging words. Since I did not receive a diagnosis, I decided to NOT take the Valtrex since I typically dont like taking medicine for nothing. I had to go back out to this camping trip and try to save face. but friends would ask, why are you walking like that and would wonder why im not helping out as much (& they were probably more upset than anything). I tried to do what I could, but I could not keep up the farce emotionally. & begged to go home, and was. I then decided to go to this clinic for a second opinion/more help. I had to wait a day because she didnt have an appointment slot the day after I left the camping trip. So Monday ER, Friday was my clinic appt. Thursday night though, the pain got worse and worse and worse. The only reason I didnt go to the ER again so I didnt have to run into this same jerk face doctor. In the mean time, I tried Epson salt bath, oatmeal bath, it gave me no relief. My appt Friday was SO much better. She was educating me on everything I wanted/needed to know and told me she thinks I MAY have a really bad bacterial infection down there. So I started to have hope. Although, when she took the swabs down there, I swear it felt she was trying to swipe my skin off with a lava knife. (dont ask) unfortunately I had to wait a very long time to get the results of that swab test, so I was researching everything that it could be instead of HSV2. She sent me home with Keflex (one 4x a day, for 10 days. forget the dosage rn), 800 mg Ibuprofen (one 3x a day), I started to take the Valtrex, and Lidocaine 5% and Bactroban (topical, 3x a day). In about 3 days, the lesions that covered almost my entire vagina started to close. I had my ex there the entire weekend holding my hand whenever I needed to pee (I was of course traumatized by peeing), he applied the Lidocaine and Bactroban for me (with gloves on of course) and was such an emotional rock for me when I was at my complete lowest. he is currently waiting on his results as well since he waited a while to get tested. I received some oral action from other people and he's had sex with someone else, but as for right now, we're not playing the blame game. He constantly is saying we're going through it TOGETHER. so for now, we are ok and still working towards a relationship. I finally got my concrete results Sep 7th and I was honestly devastated. The doctor stated she thinks it was a bacterial infection on top of the HSV1/2 There was no distinction on whether it was HSV1 or 2, so I still have some unanswered questions. He and I had sex recently and I think I am currently breaking out. I wasn't aware of the 7 day period to wait after everything is clear so I think im about to go through another scare. & we did use protection if you wanted to know. Anyways, I wanted to write this to get it off my chest to people who would listen and understand. so if you're still reading, thank you. you are a gem. Maybe someone can read this and somehow gain strength from it. now, im just trying to move on.