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  1. Who on here has infected other parts of their body???? Like their hands or face I have GHSV1 so I obviously touch myself when I shower and sometimes I masterbate. And lately I have these under skin bumps that I can't tell if they're an outbreak or just boils /cysts so i clearly touch and see if they're getting any better its like unavoidable to not touch my private parts! Am i suppose to wear gloves for the rest of my life wth! I wash my hands over 30 times a day because I just feel dirty and contagious. My hands have been peeling because of the over washing I got diagnosed in November. So it hasn't been more than 4 months that I've had this. ( I haven't been consistent with the acyclovir either its just hard to take everyday) I hate myself I feel like I'm a walking infection. I've been taking care of my baby nephew and I'm afraid to even touch him..And when I have touched him I soon remember i carry herpes and i start to overthink and beat myself up for touching him! this cant be life. I'm tired of everyone minimizing this when it clearly affects your physical & mental state I'M NOT OK!
  2. Hi. How long after being diagnosed until you guys had unprotected sex while being on Suppressive therapy? ( GHSV1 BTW )
  3. Has anyone contracted GHSV-1 in the pass 5 months or less & used Suppressive valtrex for about 2 months & haven’t had their partner contract it?
  4. Hello everyone! My question is can someone who is hsv negative get hsv2 from oral sex with someone hsv2 positive? Is this something we need to worry about? Thanks in advance!
  5. Newly diagnosed with hsv-2, after one year with boyfriend who says has zero symptoms. If we’ve had unprotected sex for a year, and I had no symptoms of herpes during this year.. what is the probability of me giving him the virus? Should we assume he more than likely has it now, or he himself brought it into the relationship and infected me?
  6. CAN A MALE TRANSMIT GHSV 1 TO A FEMALE by just sticking the tip in ???? So i recently met someone and things got too heated and i didnt disclose until after the foreplay. Ive felt great since Janurary this year (had H since last year feb) Ive had slight prodrome (slight ingling nerve pain) recently and thought i was getting an OB but what looked like a pimple forming went away... I told her last night and shes been a mess , already talking as if she has it 😔😔 any info is appreciated. @mr_hopp @Ishmael
  7. Hey guys! I have been living with H for 3 months now and I recently met someone. I did my research but I haven't found answers for everything. I have HSV-1 genitally. Can someone go down on me without protection ( I'm a woman) without the risk of me transmitting it to them and vice versa ? Can I cuddle in my underwear or is it not safe? And this is a bit embarrassing but can someone finger me without protection or should we use gloves or something? I haven't been intimate with someone since i found out and even before, it was only with 1 guy for few times so I am new to this like completely. Any help is appreciated Thanks
  8. I googled it and some said yes some said no. I also asked my doctor and she said no. multiple times. before I got my dx I shared a bath with my son. I don't know if I was having symptoms or not. But now I'm concerned. can you pass it through the water? it's not like I rubbed my nether regions on him. But Google is saying there is a dilution factor. also my doctor said it passes through SKIN TO SKIN contact. please help!
  9. 👋 Hello Can anyone tell me how long you need to take valtrex for before it really starts working? I’m specifically talking about for lowering transmission rates. Any help is much appreciated, Thanks!
  10. So I’ve had HSV-2 for around 6 months and thought my outbreaks would be less frequent but they seem to be happening quite a lot🙄 they aren’t terrible, I just get a bit of pain,tingling and swelling no ulcers or anything but it’s so frustrating! Does anyone know any food / vitamins that I can take in order to try and prevent this happening? Also when I had my first outbreak I was already ill and on antibiotics so my first outbreak was absolutely horrific! However I’ve noticed the places where I had the ulcer like sores is totally different to where I now seem to get my little outbreaks ( always in the same place),does that mean when the virus is active and shedding it will be from all of these places or will it just be from where all my outbreaks occur ? Thanks in advance 😌
  11. I have learned a lot about HSV2 since I contracted the virus by an asymptomatic partner who didn't know they had it. This is how roughly 70% of individuals get infected by the virus - from an asymptomatic person. How? By shedding. Even if there are no lesions or visible sores in the genital area, asymptomatic individuals are "shedding" the virus on their skin. And condoms DO NOT protect individuals from this shedding virus, since it presents on the skin, around the entire genital area. This isn't common knowledge, and I think this is a crucial factor of how the virus is unintentionally spread. Therefore, if this virus is inconspicuously transmitted - why does the medical community only "test" for herpes when individuals are experiencing symptoms? This seems counterintuitive and honestly an oversight of the clinicians who know the insidious nature of this virus. I have tried to find articles, research, literally anything that examines the idea of making HSV1 and 2 testing routine; but I have not been successful. I am aware of the arguments that claim routine testing for everyone would expose asymptomatic individuals and cause them emotional and psychological harm; however this logic doesn't hold up when the majority of individuals who infect others are asymptomatic at the time. I think the greater psychological harm is when uninfected individuals get their first outbreak and have to inform their asymptomatic partner of the damage they've unintentionally caused them. Both parties are then forced to face this new reality and the asymptomatic partner must come to terms with not only having the virus, but also implicating someone else without knowing. So while the medical community claims they're saving asymptomatic individuals from the truth now, this negligence has long term emotional and psychological effects for both them and their partner. Why aren't clinicians testing for HSV 1 and 2 when so many remain asymptomatic carriers? Why isn't this the status quo STI testing, alongside Chlamydia and Gonorrhea? I am also curious as to why sexual health and education doesn't inform individuals about the reality of shedding. If this was more "mainstream" knowledge, perhaps individuals would be more inclined to get tested (even if they are asymptomatic). Ultimately, I think the medical community has a lot of work to do in regards to improving the public's knowledge about herpes, as I believe it will ultimately counteract a lot of the stigma surrounding the disease.
  12. Hi there, Long story short, I’ve had HSV1 for what I believe to be about ten years now. However, I only found out my official diagnosis (igg blood test) recently, after having strange nerve pains in my groin area. It’s a very complicated story, but I had what I believe to be a (traumatic) genital outbreak when I was merely 16 - and being young, naive, and ashamed, never got it diagnosed. I know, not good. Since no other outbreak has occurred, it was kind of forgotten / suppressed after some time. Nothing was there to remind me of it or the what-ifs. Flash forward into a long term relationship with a great man, and I get confirmation I’m HSV1 positive. It’s safe to say I probably have it both genitally and orally, though I’m not 100% (my mom says I’ve had cold sores in the past). I’ve had this nerve pain all throughout my bum and lady parts for about a month now, which is why I got tested to begin with. Shocks. Sharp pains. Dull aches. Pinching and pricking. A week after it first started, I had a visual exam with my OBGYN, who did not find any lesions. I’ve been checking myself everyday since - nothing. But this shocking, pricking, pinching, and dull aching pain is still there (off and on). I’m on my 12th day of Valtrex and it hasn’t subsided. The reason I’m on Valtrex is because my SO is negative for h1 and h2. He got tested around the same time as me, same test. I was finally feeling normal for a couple days and after a month of abstinence, we decided to have sex. We used a condom. I did not have any visible sores, though I understand now there’s a chance they could be internal. Almost two days later, he has what I believe to be “flu like symptoms”- sore throat, coughing, no appetite, feverish, just an overall off feeling. He says it’s post nasal drip. He also has anxiety (bless us both) and thinks he’s starting to develop tingling down there. It’s been exactly 3 days now since intercourse. I guess I have a couple questions: 1. Would he develop flu like symptoms like this, including the post nasal drip, that soon after sex? I’d say they developed in 36-48 hours. What do flu like symptoms even mean in the cases of genital herpes? Do they come before the blisters do? 2. I understand that Genital to Genital transmission of HSV1 (especially female to male) is extremely rare. We used a condom, but should I still have reason to worry? I’ve had ghsv1 for ten years now with no outward OBs - isn’t there even less of a risk? Are there any males here who got gHsv1 from intercourse (not oral)? 3. I had been on Valtrex for ten days by the time we had intercourse. Again, no lesions. Wouldn’t this have protected us? Wouldn’t it protect me from getting an OB? Or would it simply prevent an OB from fully surfacing (under my skin feelings make me feel like I’m contagious)? My doctor chocks up my symptoms of nerve sensations to anxiety, again and again, but I’m not convinced. Is it possible that with a condom, ten days of Valtrex, and no visible sores, that I passed this along? Finally, would a condom help if I did have an internal outbreak after all? I understand that hsv1 sucks, but that it’s not harmful or affecting my quality of life in any way. However, I worry for my boyfriend who is scared more than ever. He’s accepted the risk, yes, but I’m not sure how he’ll handle the actual reality of it. I don’t know how I’d handle it either. Thanks for listening- and for your input. Turned out to be pretty long after all!
  13. So I have fairly recently been diagnosed with genital HSV-1, I got symptoms after a casual sexual partner performed oral sex on me so I am assuming that’s where it came from but that’s not necessarily true or important. It took me a while to be diagnosed as I went to the doctor assuming (and hoping) it was folliculitis, she told me it did not look like herpes, however after a couple of days it became VERY painful and I could barely sleep or walk without tears, due to work I couldn’t get to a clinic to find out, however I think I knew inside the whole time it was, so after a lot of tears I came to terms with it, and googled EVERYTHING I could on the topic. I finally got an appointment and received treatment and results and here I am- since then I have had one casual partner who I did not disclose to as I have read genital - genital hsv1 is not commonly transmitted (is this a myth?) and I ensured we used a condom, I also (possibly unnecessarily) started taking suppressive antivirals to try and prevent transmission as much as possible. I have had a few casual sexual partners, some by my choice and some I assumed it was more, so I am using this as a wake up call to try and weed out the less nice men shall we say, I decided I didn’t need a relationship or sex and should focus on myself, however this great guy came along and we got on well- I disclosed to him and it went a lot better than I thought as I am fairly young (20) so him being 21 I could possibly “ruin” his sex life for the whole future (stigma) but we continued seeing each other. I understand that’s a lot of information I kinda wanted to get it all out and ask - how likely is it that I will transmit to a partner, does anyone have experience? Being young and enjoying sex I would like to have as much information as possible, bearing in mind I am using condoms and antivirals, and has anyone been in a similar situation and have any advice for me? (Young and diagnosed)
  14. Hello everyone :) This is my first post, and I am looking for some insight on how I transmitted genital HSV1. I was diagnosed a month ago via visual exam, PCR swab, and blood test (igg and igm). The results came back positive for genital HSV1, negative HSV2. I am soooo confused as to how I contracted this. I have been with one person for the past four years and neither of us has ever shown signs/symptoms. We broke up, and I was intimate with a different guy a few months later. The new guy gave me oral sex and also touched his penis to my labia, and fingered me. We never had sex. Sorry if this is too graphic... I saw NO sores or anything unusual on his genitals or his mouth. Ten days after our first intimate encounter, I had my first outbreak. He swears up and down he has never had any form of herpes. The REAL clencher is this: three days before my first outbreak, I was at a club and ended up drunkenly making out and briefly was fingered by a different guy. I absolutely regret this. This same guy had unprotected sex with one of my friends, and she did not contract anything from him. My question is: can you contract genital HSV1 if a guy fingers you? Or is this more likely from the guy who gave me oral? Or what? I have an appointment in one week to see a specialist in this area, but my conscience is eating me alive. I'm so confused and can't believe I let this happen. I am a very careful person and I just want to know how this could have happened.
  15. I'm hoping to find more information about the possibility of oral hsv2 transmission, the likeliness of it happening, do many of you have it? Have many/any of you given it? I'm finding it difficult to find information on this, I know it's rare, but if it is a possibility I'd like to be able to offer concise, factual information to my partner, not just "oh it's so rare, don't even worry about it." In short I really miss being on the receiving end of oral sex so any light anyone could shed on this would be oh so helpful. Please!!! I'm losing my [email protected] mind!!!!!
  16. I have Oral Herpes type two. Yes positive. I need more information on symptoms and transmission rates, and can I kiss again?? :( I have kissed someone and I want to know if that can pass on to him? Not too much info out there on oral type two. Please help! - Liz
  17. Hey! I was diagnosed with herpes a month ago, right before a big move from Los Angeles to Portland, OR. I had a very small sore on the entrance to my vagina, nothing painful or remarkable. Because of the situation I was in with my move, I intended on just visiting with an OB-GYN in Portland and let my status go unchecked for a few weeks. I was given herpes by my boyfriend at the time, by receiving oral sex while he had a cold sore. I was not informed of the fact that he had any cold sores or prior herpes infections. Upon arriving here, I fell in love with a really great guy who unfortunately has also contracted herpes from me. We are both suffering through a very intense outbreak. My first "outbreak" could hardly be called that, but this one is very intense with herpes sores EVERYWHERE. He is experiencing extreme pain, swelling and sores. We are so sick, sore and messed up that we haven't left our apartment for a week, but things only seem to be getting worse. Due to unfortunate financial situations, we don't have money to see a doctor. I visited Planned Parenthood but would have needed to pay 160 dollars upfront to visit a Dr., which I couldn't provide. So..we're trying to rough it out on our own because we have to. We've been taking zinc supplements and have been slathering ourselves with vitamin E oil, because we read online that it could help. We're taking it easy and eating healthy and getting sleep, but we just need some insight about how long we can expect this to last..we're really suffering but we don't see any other options right now. Help!?
  18. Hi Y'all! Had a quick question concerning French kissing (mouth to mouth). Is it possible in any way to transmit HSV-2 to my partner this way? I know that HSV-1 can be, but wasn't sure about the other kind. Many thanks ahead of time for your consideration of my query, and your possible response. Have a great day!
  19. Hey you awesome community! There's been a lot of talk on here about herpes stats and questions about herpes transmission and what to share during the herpes talk. So, I've been hard at work compiling and synthesizing information into 2 separate handouts for you to make everything clear for both you and your potential partners. 1. Post-diagnosis handout: Especially for those who are newly diagnosed (and for everyone else for that matter) with all those question marks floating around in your head. There are a lot of conflicting stats out there. This is all the high-level information you should know right off the bat. http://bit.ly/h-opp-diagnosis-handout 2. Post-disclosure handout: This is a "cheat sheet" that you can use after a disclosure to answer all of those questions your potential partner will have about the risks associated with herpes transmission. http://bit.ly/h-opp-disclosure-handout What do you think? Any feedback is much appreciated!
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