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My ex boyfriend gave me HSV2 four years ago. We dated on and off for those four years, and during our off times, I had a couple of flings and one night stands. The initial person who diagnosed me
(healthcare worker at my college) gave me some advice on how to handle herpes- don’t let anyone go down on you and just use protection until you feel like telling someone. That’s what I did for years (except I’m horrible and people have gone down on me without knowing).. only one person knew I had it because I told him. I guess I was so ashamed I just wanted to avoid my condition. Now that I’m getting older and talking to other professionals, I feel weird and like a liar for not telling people. I now believe they need to know, and they should have consent before engaging in intercourse with me. I’ve definitely made an agreement with myself that the next person I want to sleep with, I tell because I can’t stand this guilt. I’ve literally been severely depressed for this past year because I feel like the worst person in the world. I don’t know if I’ll ever get better, so I’m wondering if I go back and tell the people in my past what I have (even people from 3 years ago) I don’t know what to do— any thoughts, words of wisdom? I’m desperate. Side note-
I also take medicine every day and have been for years. I haven’t had an outbreak (or so I don’t think) other than the first one.

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This is a great question. After I found out I didn’t go back and fell any of my exes. As far as I know, they don’t have it. I feel like I should tell them all but I am really struggling as well. 

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