We slept together — did I give him herpes?

[Northoftheborder]

So I haven't posted in abit but the guy I have been dating for 2 months we finally slept together ... I have been in meds over a month and he chose no condom .... I have been struggling with constant nerve pain in my legs but no outbreaks down there.... The day after sex I came down with a cold and saw one tiny bump appear on my inner thigh..... My anxiety is thru the roof... What if I have given this to him he knows I have hsv2 I have tried to put him off in having sex but he was very persistent so I gave in .... Now this.. at my wits end and willing to make a deal with the devil to keep him safe!!! I just need some ideas in what to do if he does contract the virus how shud I talk with him?? I feel that he does not contract it I need to break it off my health is suffering due to stress!

[thirdstar]

Take a big deep breath! you disclosed your status and gave him the choice of whether or not he wanted to take that chance and that is the most important thing. Even if you did give it to him which you wont know unless he gets tested, many people have no symptoms. Maybe if this is so stressful for you it means that your not ready to have sex yet, but if this concerns you so much that it is effecting your health you should consider using condoms in the future and taking antivirals, this lowers your rate of transmission to 1% ! I can't say for certain whether or not you gave it to him and I can certainly relate to and understand your feelings but not to worry, you've done nothing wrong! Anxiety can be a very powerful emotion that can convince you of almost anything if you let it take over. You need some serious relaxation time for yourself, settle into a hot bath with some candles and a book and you just might find yourself feeling a lot less concerned!