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Military and herpes

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Hi All, 

I slept with a friend from high school who had joined the military. He was deployed for four years and came back in the winter for good. We slept together and I got herpes. I don’t know yet if he knows he has it. Does anyone have experience with the military / veterans and herpes?

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Hi @Ohwell and welcome! He wouldn't have necessarily gotten tested for herpes before going to the military, so it's possible he's blissfully unaware (like 80% of people who have herpes). Are you planning on talking with him about it? Was this just a fling or are you wanting a deeper relationship with him? 

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It is very possible that he doesn't know he has it. I had it for at least 11 years without knowing. I never had an outbreak. I was completely celibate for 11 years and only found out I was positive when I went in for routine STD testing before starting a new sexual relationship and they ran a HSV test as part of it and it was positive. 

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