Disclosing/info

[megssssss34]

Hi Everyone,

i recently have been talking to someone, we kind of stopped talking and started back up. I made it a point that i want to get to know him and eventually try to date. I have been weary of dating, especially since i will have to tell him if we get further down the road. Before I do that, i want to take the time for him to really get to know me before disclosing. If anyone has any advice, i would appreciate it. 
 

i also wanted to know about the risk of transmission of spreading it for someone like me, who is a little over a year i and i am pretty much asymptomatic. Only time i have a issue is when my time of the month comes or I’m a little stressed. I have never seen any physical bumps at all, i just get irritated in that area and eventually it chills out. I do not take my valtrex daily because it does not bother me like that on a daily basis so far. I am very thankful for that. I will obviously be using condoms but i guess my other question is if i ever had unprotected sex, how big is the risk? I know there is always going to be one, i just didn’t know if anyone had any insight for percentages. I know when/if i do have this conversation with him, he will ask questions. Which will be understandable and if he does say no... least i can say i tried, right?
 

thank you! 

[mr_hopp]

Hello! The risk of transmitting herpes to a man without using condoms or suppressive therapy is 4% per year. Each layer of protection added in cuts that risk in half (so using both brings the risk down to 1%). Check out the handouts for all the facts and the e-book is an overview on having the talk from the perspective of opportunity. All can be downloaded for free here: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook