Just found out. Now what.

[Jw31M]

I'm 31 years old I was diagnosed with hsv2 around the middle of august. Not sure exactly how long I've had it to be honest I'm still confused. I have had an outbreak since the diagnosis I feel like the stress of it triggered it and not necessarily an initial outbreak . I'm afraid I may of had it for awhile because I've had some minor symptoms in the past that I just chalked up to skin irritation. I did the right thing and I told my ex girlfriend about my diagnosis and one other girl i messed with after my ex(these are the only two women I've messed with in the past few years). It was very hard to tell my ex because we had just reestablished a friendship I had been trying so hard to reconnect and I was afraid it would ruin it. I knew I still needed to tell her. I'm just not sure what's next. I've been wanting to get back into dating but I'm afraid that may be difficult or too soon for me. I do get the fear that my love life is ruined. I'll be honest I was really hoping to reconnect with my ex but that might not be possible now. 

[mr_hopp]

Welcome @Jw31M!

Your love life isn't ruined. Far from it. You just have to trust me on that one. It has the potential of being even deeper and more real than ever before. Not because of herpes, but because of the vulnerability, truth, honesty and courage it has the potential to call out in our relationships. And all of that can equal some pretty profound connection, brother. In fact, my love life has been exponentially better post-herpes than pre (which if you told that to my past self who had just gotten herpes, he would have scoffed at you and called BS). I'm now married and we have a 3-year-old boy together. Herpes hasn't been the impediment to love; it has been the opportunity for me to create a doorway into deeper connection with my partners that I probably wouldn't have done if not for getting herpes. I know, it sounds crazy. And it's a choice we can all make. 

Download the free e-book here on disclosure, which will give you a kickstart into what this Opportunity thing is all about: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook

And if you want to go deeper, I created a whole course that will walk you through an empowering healing journey. Here that is: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/lifestyle-guides

You can also check out all the videos, interviews and articles on the site here: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/all-posts

Here's one that you might find relevant: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/keeping-your-partner-herpes-free-can-be-super-sexy