😭😭 Distraught. Advice required

[Welshman20]

Evening all. 

 

I've had cold sores most of my adult life. I usually get 3 or 4 per year. 

Anyhow. Yesterday I met a friend. We kissed and had oral sex. 3 hours later a cold sore appeared on my lip. No tingling, no signs 😫. 

Now my friend has never had a cold sore though she's had many sexual paetners, especially in her teenage years. 

 

This one off, what would be the chances she's now caught oral or genital herpes? 

 

I'm totally gutted. 

[mr_hopp]

Hi @Welshman20,

That’s hard to give a direct answer, unfortunately. If the actual outbreak came later, then at least you weren’t making out during the height of the virus shedding.

Even though she hasn’t had any cold sores, has she ever gotten a blood test for herpes? 20% of all people who are herpes carriers *never* have an outbreak. So it would be helpful if she were to get a blood test now to see if she’s a carrier. If she is (80-90% of everyone in the world is), that at least would have given her more protection since she would have HSV antibodies.