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Hsv2 transmission question

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Hi all

I have a question that I can’t find a direct answer to so I’m hoping someone here can tell me for sure... 

I know hsv2 can be passed through bodily fluids even when no symptoms are present, during skin to skin contact. 

My question is can it be passed through clothing?
To be direct I was recently with my ex boyfriend and we were sharing a bed. He was naked but I kept my pj bottoms on but we did get quite intimate. I’m not currently taking any medication and he had no condom on. While we didn’t have intercourse because of my pjs, I’m wondering if it’s still possible to infect him through vaginal fluid seeping through my pjs?

I always read that it’s passed through skin to skin contact but also, through bodily fluids, so could it be passed even if I kept my pjs on? Or underwear as another example? Also no outbreak present.

thank you

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Hello! 🙂 

I hope you are well. 

That is an excellent question that many many people have asked and wonder about! 

In general, HSV is not passed through clothing. It is spread through skin-to-skin contact. 

HSV is a skin-spread virus, it is not blood-bourne, so blood doesn't spread HSV (such as AIDS, for example). If I am correct on this (friends, please correct me if I am wrong!), HSV doesn't live IN the fluids, but instead can travel via fluids. Like, the fluids are like a travel mechanism for the HSV. Kind of like they are people on a lazy river in their little inner tube thingies and the river is the fluids! They don't live there/reproduce there, but instead they use the fluids as a means of transport to spread. Does that make sense? If I am wrong, I would SO appreciate if someone would let me know! 🙂 🙂 I am not a doctor or medical professional by any means! 

So, if you weren't having prodrome symptoms and you didn't have any active sores, you should be good. Even if you DID have an outbreak, but you kept it covered with clothes, so, you should be good ❤️ 

If he touched you there but touched you with your clothes on, I think he is totally fine, even if vaginal fluids made a little wet area on the clothing/undies.

Also, Let's say that he touched you in that area (no clothing as protection), and you were worried... soap and water/if he washes his hands, that is all one needs to help them stay safe! 🙂 

I hope this helps. Sorry if I was confusing at all or gave bad info! 



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Thank you Grace.
The idea of passing this on has me almost terrified to be in any way intimate with someone. As my ex and I spent a long time thinking I had passed it - and he didn’t handle it very well - I’m afraid to go near him again in ways. Also I am on immuno suppressants and have read that that makes you shed the virus more frequently. 
thank you again for your answer. It eases my crazy overthinking mind!

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Oh my gosh, I totally understand the overthinking! It can be so exhausting. Rest assured, it seems you are fine. I am sorry that he did not handle it very well. Remember, that shows something about him, not about you! 

Suppressants can impact the shedding of the virus, but it depends on the specific biochemistry effects of the specific medicine. If it helps you feel more at ease (knowledge is power!) it might be good to consult your doctor or pharmacist for more info. 

Stay well! Don't let the worries hold you back from being happy! 🙂 



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