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It's been 3 weeks since I've found out that I have HSV2 and I'm having an extremely hard time dealing with this. To begin, I am a lesbian and have been in a relationship with my girlfriend on and off for a year. We were off for 2 months and I slept with someone else and I believe she slept with someone else as well; prior to that she was the only person I was with. I went to the doctor for what appeared to be an ingrown hair and the doctor told me he didn't think it was anything more than that and that he would go ahead and take a swab down there to test for herpes to ease my mind. Well three days went by and I hadn't heard anything so I called the doctors office and to my dismay the nurse said that I was positive for HSV2. I have not told my girlfriend yet and we haven't had sex either. I don't know what to or how to tell her this. We have been discussing having children together and I fear that me telling her this will change all of that as well as us not being together. My question is are there any lesbians out there who have been in a somewhat similar situation. If so how did you deal with talking/disclosing this with your partner? I truly do love her and want nothing more than to spend the rest of what's left of my life with her. I don't know if she unknowingly gave this to me or the person that I was with prior to her gave it to me. I tested negative for this in June of 2012, didn't have sex with anyone until her in September of 2012. In January and February of 2013 I was with the other girl. My girlfriend and I got back together in April of 2013 and she's the only person that I've been with since.

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Although I am not a lesbian and cannot offer advice on your specific situation, I think I can be of some help.

The best thing you can do before you disclose is to arm yourself with as much knowledge as you can- the virus itself, incubation period, statistics, how it is spread, etc. Predict any question you or your girlfriend might have and try to get an answer.

Approach it in a calm manner. If you don't act like it is awful and disgusting then she is more likely to take your lead. It is definitely okay to come from a place of "I feel ______" to keep it about your feelings and how this is affecting you.

She is going to take it how she is going to take it. Its a hard thing to wrap our mind around because we want to be able to control for that but we cant. Some people take it well and others, no matter how well you explain it will run away.

All you can control is yourself and how you handle the situation.

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