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So I am 37 years old. Two years ago I met my fiancée in April 2020. After a lot of domestic violence I finally found my person. We decided to have sex at the end of April and exactly 13 days later I knew something wasn’t right. I crawled into the hospital on my hands and knees bc I was in so much pain. They then referred me to planned parenthood and from there I was diagnosed with HSV2. I cried I was devastated I’ve been so careful for 35 years of my life. Now this. My boyfriend felt horrible he’s like there’s no way. Well long story short he got tested and found out he’s a carrier. He has never in his life had a breakout. His ex wife had it never told him and now continues to make jokes about how she’s messed up both out of life’s. She’s spread it to 8 guys that we know of in the last 3 months but that’s awhole nother story. When I was having my first breakout they put me on a message that you only take when you have a breakout. That made me so sick that they had to switch to the pill I take everyday. So far I’ve been ok with that but my question is they told me each breakout will be less painful than the one before. This is about my 6th one and I can barley walk it hurts so bad I don’t know what to do at this point. I joined this forum to hopefully get some pointers on what to do what not to do I just need help. I went today and got some bactine max with lidocaine that’s a spray but don’t know if I should use it down there. Has anyone ever tried this if so did it help? Also my sister who’s a rn told me to get some witch hazel not sure if that will help or not but I’m willing to try anything at this point. I’ve been very sick for 3 weeks recovering from covid so I’m not sure if that’s what caused this breakout or the stress with his ex wife that I’ve been under but this is by far the worst breakout of my life. Someone please help…

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I am so sorry for the emotional and physical pain you've been experiencing. Please know that everything will be okay 🌻☀️. There is hope and healing headed your way! 

I am at a family Easter 🐇 party at the moment, and I will respond to your questions in depth ASAP. I just wanted to let you know I read your post and an answer is on the way! Stay strong and hang in there 💛. Love is the strongest force on the planet; a ride ex or HSV does not have the power to come in between the love and happiness you and your fiance share 💛.

Sending blessings and prayers your way! 🌻🌈💛

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Sorry for the late reply. 

I hope you have been doing okay.

I am so sorry you have been struggling. It sounds like your body is having a very adverse reaction to the virus. Are you on any medications or have any illnesses that suppresses the immune system? This could be why the outbreaks are so severe and are staying severe even as you have your sixth one. 

What medicine are you taking every day to help suppress outbreaks? It's possible your virus is resistant to the current medicine and you may need to try one of the other two antivirals (so for example, if you are taking Acyclovir, you would switch to Famcyclovir or Valacyclovir).

How long do your outbreaks last? Is this sixth one lasting really long? If so, it may be best to head to the doctor or OBGYN and ask for a referral to a neurologist (HSV impacts the bundle of nerves at the base of the spine). Also, an antiviral injection IV may be helpful in soothing your nerves and reset your body to a state of not having to have an extreme inflammatory response. You deserve to be okay! ❤️ 'You may really need to push for the referral and to get IV medicine but your health is essential and you deserve to be heard and supported!

In regards to how you contracted H, and how your partner contracted it, I am truly so sorry. Dishonesty is so cruel, and sadly cruel people take pride in their dishonesty and cruelty. I can't even imagine the emotional strain this has placed on your relationship. Please know that this person does not have the power to ruin your life and/or relationship. They are acting out of hate and jealousy, and those negative emotions are no match for love and kindness. Honestly, this person needs to back off. You and your fiance deserve to live your life happily! 

Also, it is okay if you need to grieve. Contracting H, especially with the people/relationship/context surrounding it that you mentioned, is perfectly normal. You may cry or be angry or be numb. Let yourself process everything and take out your emotions in a healthy way. Work on healing and loving yourself, and seek support from those in your life whom you can trust and who are kind and caring. 

We are here for you. Please reach out if you need anything, or someone to talk to! I am praying for you ❤️ Hang in there. You are a warrior! 🌻 



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Thank you so much for this. I needed this especially today. I’m on a med that I take once a day big blue pill not sure of the name but I can check it’s not working. I feel like it’s almost making it worse I know that sounds weird but that’s how I feel. This is the sixth one like I mentioned and this is by far the very worst. Yesterday I could T barley walk or move it hurt so bad. I did buy some numbing stuff that’s got lidocaine in it and as scared as I was to try it I gave in and omg it helped tremendously but only for about 30 mins. I’m gonna call the dr today at planned parenthood and see if maybe I can try something else bc I never want to experience the pain I had yesterday ever again. Thank you for the information you are appreciated more than you realize. 
much love and appreciation 


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Oh okay!! I dont know if that's meant to be put down there, as it might cause vaginal issues. Another thing that helps is taking a spray bottle and filling it with ice water and misting it on the area. It is soothing. Also, I don't know if an Epsom salt bath would help, but it helps reduce inflammation and soothe nerves ❤️

I hope the doctors call goes well!! 🦋

Hang in there!! 🌻

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