Diagnosis runaround

[CatsAndCrochet]

I apologize for how disjointed this may be, I’m having a lot of thoughts and feelings.

I recently had what I thought was a bad stress-induced yeast infection and went to the walk-in clinic for antibiotics, as my family doc couldn’t fit me in.

the walk in doctor said he thought it was herpes after an exam. I was shocked! I am married and my partner and I have been together for 13 years. We had very few partners before getting together. We stopped about 3 years ago, but used to engage in some multiple-partner sex together consensually, so each know all recent partners equally well. We asked each if they have any STIs beforehand and did not see any symptoms (I now know that’s not enough, but back then I did not realize that).

I think this sounds like BS if you don’t know us, but my partner and I have a very secure relationship and I do not for a minute think he’s cheated and that’s where this came from. I know I didn’t have any new partners. 

Never did I dream that sex we had 3+ years ago would result in a herpes diagnosis today. I’ve never had any symptoms or outbreaks or anything before, even when I supposedly contracted it. Nor has my partner.
so the walk in doctor sent a swab away and told me to do bloodwork.

The walk-in said they would call me if the results were positive, but they would not call me at all if they negative. I was too anxious for that. so I called and left a voicemail and asked them to call me with the results. They didn’t get back to me, so I had called again, at which time they told me over the phone that it was negative, so I felt so relieved and it took away so much worry.

i still discussed it with my family doctor when i saw her for my usual physical today (I wanted to know what it WAS if it was not herped). She pulled up the swab results (which i called the walk-in and asked them to send her)…and they were f-ing positive!!! She showed me the paperwork, and it said “reactive” for the herpes. She conducted an exam and said she thinks it’s herpes. I’m still waiting on the blood test results.

so I’m home from my family doc for less than an hour…and the walk-in calls me specifically about my test results (I guess in response to that first voicemail)…and says again that they are negative!! I told them I JUST left my doctor who said it was positive, and ask them to have their doctor review the results again and call my doc.

firstly, I’m so angry with all the calls and run around and misinformation happening here.

I’m going to make a second post for my upset about the results themselves. 
sorry for so much info, it’s just a lot to process.

[mr_hopp]

@CatsAndCrochet 

Wow, that sounds like a crazy runaround. I get why you’re so frustrated. It’s tough dealing with mixed messages, especially about something so important.

Firstly, it’s good you’re staying proactive and following up on your results. Mistakes happen, but it’s not fair to you. The stress from all this can definitely take a toll.

Herpes can be a real surprise, especially when you’ve been with the same partner for years. It can lie dormant for a long time, which explains why you didn’t have symptoms before. Stress, like what you mentioned, can sometimes trigger outbreaks too.

As for the mixed test results, sometimes swab tests can be tricky. Blood tests, especially the IgG test, can give more definitive answers. Have you heard about the Western blot test? It’s considered the gold standard for herpes testing.

Take a deep breath, you’re doing all the right things. Keep communicating with your doctor to get clear answers. And remember, having herpes doesn’t change who you are. It’s a common virus and you can manage it with the right information and support.

Hang in there and big hugs!