Maybe I really did get HSV from my boyfriend...

[NewLife2013]

Hi!!!! I was diagnosed in june. Life has been great, I feel positive and I don't feel defined or shameful about having H. I'm taking great care of myself - lowering stress, vitamins, great sleep/exercise/health...you get the picture. I also started on acyclovir 1x a day for suppression.

 

I have something on my mind though....ever since I was diagnosed in June,I have had 4 outbreaks. I never experienced outbreaks before June.

 

My boyfriend of 3 years says he definitely didn't have it/pass it to me. But I'm just confused as to why I'm getting so many outbreaks NOW? It's really obvious when an outbreak is coming- I couldn't have ignored it prior dx.

 

I don't don't know what I'm looking for...I guess maybe to say, it makes me wonder if my boyfriend has been unfaithful? It's just not making sense.

 

Anyone else relate?

 

Thanks!

[WCSDancer2010]

Welcome NewLife!

 

Well, you don't know if your BF was tested unless you went with him or he has paperwork... and he may well BELIEVE he was tested when in fact he could likely have only been tested for Syphilis, gonorrhea, and HIV. Many, MANY people ask for STD tests and believe they have been tested for everything when in fact they were only tested for those 3 because the CDC seems to think it's unnecessary to test for the others until you get symptoms.

 

OR - you *could* have carried it for years and only just started having outbreaks. I have a friend who was married 30 years before her fist OB and another on here was 27 yrs from when she believes she was exposed till her first OB.

 

Herpes is a slippery little bugger and until we can get PROACTIVE testing, many people will be in your shoes because so many (up to 80% of people with Herpes) have no idea that they are carrying it.

 

It may be a good idea for your BF to get tested now. If he comes up negative, then you have your answer. (Then you may want to contact past lovers/BF's to tell they they may be carrying Herpes). AND you know to take precautions to keep him from getting it. If he comes up positive, then it's a crap shoot of who got it from who and you may never have that answer. But don't automatically think he cheated. If you have reason to feel he may have, then you need to address that :(

 

(((HUGS)))