Question: Herpes giver contacting me

[AshleyS]

Does anyone else still get contacted by their giver ? Mine feels the need to text me every so often and it's always during a time where I'm beginning to feel at peace with everything .. But when he texts me, I feel hatred all over again .

[mr_hopp]

Hey again, CAS! It's been a while!

 

One word: Boundaries. If you truly don't want to have contact with anyone in your life, whether they gave you herpes or they just give you a headache ... it's your right to not have to get contacted by them if you don't want it. And you can do it in a nice way, but it's an option for you. Don't put up with anything that doesn't serve you.

 

And in the same breath, I feel the need to say there's an opportunity for you to forgive him. I read a great facebook quote today: "The first step to forgiveness is ... realizing they're batshit crazy." If you need that kind of a realization to truly forgive, then do it. Holding resentment and hatred is only hurting yourself. Resenting somebody else is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. ;)