my herpes is dormant blood test show in active gh2. i have unprotected sex feeling guilty

[lostangel]

So heres my delima august of 2013 i was diagnosed with gh i was told nothing but it wasnt active and im not contagious. I redid the test in november of 2013 because i was pregnant. The text was negative. Now i took the negative test the doctor said yeah you dont have it. This past tuesday i took the test again because im inlove with this guy and we have having alot of unprotected sex since i was told i didnt have it. Now i do have it its dormant no outbreaks ever and im just scared i gave it too him and hes cheating on his girlfriend with me i dont want too pass this too anyone i was upfront until i got the misdiagnosis and its positive i do have gh feeling guilty

[WCSDancer2010]

@lostangel

 

First - Welcome and glad you have found us.

 

So yes, you have quite the dilemma! Sounds like you were given a lot of mis-information and a mis-diagnosis.... sadly it's sooo typical especially if you are going to a family Dr for the tests.....my first advice is to ALWAYS go to an OBGYN or Planned Parenthood for ANYTHING in the Gynecological department ..... because anyone else is likely to mis-interpret the results and give out-of-date advice :(

 

So I would say that given that you were told you were negative then you were going on the advice of your doctor.... and who knows why you were told that given you already had a + result... but either way, you took that to be true and it's not your fault that the doctors either mis-interpreted the results or you were borderline and they didn't tell you to re-test.

 

However, you DO need to tell him now. And soon. Certainly now that you know you should tell him before you are intimate again. And you are going to have to be ok with whatever his reaction is. He is likely going to be very scared that he will have it and will have to confess to his GF .... with whatever ramifications that has on all of you....

 

And sister, I'm not judging here, but if this guy is cheating on his GF so much with you, I'd say you need to be careful with your heart. Someone in a marriage with kids has the "excuse" to not rock the boat. It sounds like you have thrown your heart over the fence for a guy who isn't willing to leave someone he has no family ties with for you.... be careful that you are not being used my friend....

 

Do you have any idea where you got it from? Ie, how long you have had it? And are you still pregnant? (You said "I was pregnant" so it's unclear if you are now). If so, then the Dr will put you on anti-virals the last month of your pregnancy to protect the baby....

 

(((HUGS))) - we're here to support you through this. Be well.....