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Hello all,

I'm new here and newly diagnosed with H 2. I am a female in my 30's.

I think I've had it for about 8 months but I'm just now finding out. I started experiencing intense genital itching about 8 months ago after receiving oral sex from a guy I was dating. The itch was just in one spot. I was certain it wasn't a yeast infection itch because it was just a different kind of itch. After that I was tested for every std, including H 1 and 2 but the results were negative. My doctor treated me for yeast and the itching went away. About a month later, the itching returned in that same spot. At that time I stopped all sexual activity because I wasn't comfortable engaging. I returned to my doctor and she treated me once again for yeast and for bacteria. The itching stopped for about 2 months. By this time I had stopped dating the other guy and met someone else. We became intimate after a few months and the same itch returned in the same spot. I did research about what it could possibly be. H was on my list of possibilities. I went back to my doctor and she examined me. She said she didn't see anything abnormal. This time she didn't treat me for anything. I went home and used peroxide and it helped a lot. The itching pretty much stopped. I was sexually active again after that but this time it was painful. I was in a lot of pain afterward. It was pain that I had never felt before. I couldn't walk or sit without pain. It was a horrible experience. I went to my doctor and she said it looked like a tear. I asked her if it could be H so she swabbed it and sent off the culture to check. She also gave me Valtrex to take for 10 days just in case. I had to wait 2 weeks for results, which was torture. I told the guy I'm currently dating and he was very supportive as we waited for the results. I was hoping for the best but a part of me knew that's what it was. I called for results and I was told the culture was positive for h 2. I was devastated, embarrassed, sad, angry, lost, confused. The guy I'm currently dating was still very supportive. He got tested and it was negative. He's getting tested again in a couple of months. I cried for about 2 weeks and finally I said, "It is what it is."

I contacted the last guy via social media and he had a nasty attitude about it. He told me, "I haven't had any symptoms at all. I don't know why you're telling me. I would've known by now because it has been 8 months so have a nice life." Before I could reply, he blocked me and I have no other way of contacting him.

The guy I'm currently dating is still trying to be supportive but he has become a little distant lately. I know this can be overwhelming so I try to give him his space, although it does leave me feeling rejected.

I haven't cried in about a week, which says a lot. I've learned a lot in the past three weeks. I've changed my eating habits and I've been drinking a lot of water. I also take Olive Leaf and Melissa capsules. I still experience itching in that one spot and a few other spots. I use tea tree and lavender oil for the itching. Aloe Vera gel and cornstarch are awesome as well. I am currently at the end of my second outbreak, which started about a week after the first outbreak ended. I just hope I will stay outbreak free after this one is completely healed. It's extremely painful and I'm already a little exhausted from this.

I'm happy to have found this forum. This is a big step for me. I haven't told anyone else about my diagnosis other than the guy I'm currently dating and my sister. I'm just not ready to talk about it with my family and friends and I'm not sure if I ever will be.


Thanks for reading. :-)

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Hello and Welcome!


Well, one thing I am pretty certain of... it's highly unlikely you got H2 from the Oral Sex simply because only 1% of all Oral Herpes is HSV2. That was more likely thrush or something similar....


It's more likely you got it around the time of this comment:


I was sexually active again after that but this time it was painful.


This sounds like a primary OB ... It's possible that whatever was causing the itching also caused some kind of compromise to the skin which would have made it easier for the H virus to get into your system.


Sadly the last guy doesn't understand that you often don't have symptoms with H ... up to 80% of people who have Herpes don't know they have it.


I'm going to give you some links to look at including things you can do to manage OB's ... try getting a real Aloe Vera CREAM rather than gel ... the gel has alcohol in it and can irritate the area over time ... read my comments on what to look for in the link.


Glad to have you here! Keep asking questions and come whenever you need support!




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Thanks for the welcome!


In response to this comment: it's more likely you got it around the time of this comment:


That's what I thought initially but I was confused when his test results were negative. I guess it's possible that it's not showing up in his blood yet. I'm still confused and I've given up on trying to figure it out. I just have to move forward because it'll only stress me out.


Thank you so much for the links and information.

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So did you nave another encounter before this guy? If so, you likely got it from that person ... in which case, if your current guy is actually H-, you will want to take precautions to protect him. You certainly couldn't have got it from the current guy if you are coming up H+ and he's H- ... assuming he's telling you the truth about the test (Sorry but I have heard too many stories of people being told that their partner is H- but not seeing the results and finding out later that they were H+ so I'm a little skeptical here ;) ).



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