Question for the Men re Condoms and Passing Herpes

[adventurelovelife]

I'm curious if any of you have gotten HSV from a situation where your partner was infected, but you had always used condoms/protection.

 

Thanks

[NSgreenville]

I have heard that this is not a 100% protection. I know personally my outbreaks don't usually occur on the condom protected area. Anytime I even feel a tingle I avoid sex to make sure I am protecting my GF who is negative. Just my 2 cents. Hope it helps a little.

[WCSDancer2010]

Condoms only give you a 50% reduction in your risk basically because if the person has their OB's outside the area covered by the condom (ie, scrotum, inside of thighs, anus, outer lips of the vulva, base of the penis) the condom isn't going to cover the area that may be shedding. If you only get your OB's on the tip of the penis your risk is *lower* but there is no way to tell if you are asymptomatically shedding elsewhere or not.

[WCSDancer2010]

And I know that we DO have members on here who got HSV while using a condom ... so if they use a condom odds are it won't cover the area where they are shedding anyways :(

 

[Sil88]

I used a condom 4/5 times during the week that I caught it, but my newfound outbreak location is in the pubic area. So chances are, 5/5 wouldn't have made a difference, but I'm no doctor.

[seeker]

I always used a condom, got H2. my OBs are in an area that condoms don't cover so either shedding or an unseen/unknown sore.

[adventurelovelife]

thanks-i'm specifically curious about males getting it from females-i understand that the risk is way higher for a female to get it, even with a condom.

 

Are seeker and Sil88 males?

[seeker]

let me look, yeppers

[seeker]

thank god you didn't ask in the dead of winter though

[adventurelovelife]

haha.

 

thanks. not the answer i was hoping to hear…but thanks anyway :)

[Sil88]

@adventurelovelife yup

[WCSDancer2010]

i'm specifically curious about males getting it from females-i understand that the risk is way higher for a female to get it, even with a condom.

 

A condom reduces the risk EQUALLY whether you are a male or a female.

 

If it's covering the area where the OB's are then the percentage for protection is higher (ie, if she gets it in her vagina or inner labia), but the bottom line is if it isn't covering the area where she has her OB's, it's not going to protect you from getting Herpes. :P

 

I know that @HerrytheHerp (also male) also got it using a condom btw

[babysteps]

I'm terrified of infecting my H- partner....this is great information to know. IM finding it increasingly stressing to think about passing it on and was wondering if anybody had gotten it whIle using a condom....my H- partner wants to stop using condoms...

[WCSDancer2010]

@babysteps

 

my H- partner wants to stop using condoms

 

Well, he's a grown man, yes? He knows the risks, yes? He can make his own mind up about things, yes? Then perhaps you may want to allow him to make this decision for himself, eh? If HE has made the choice then he accepts responsibility if he gets it. I assume you don't go around trying to protect him from anything else, so what is the difference here? As long as you know that you are doing everything you can to protect him, and he understands the risk, then why do you feel the need to continue with condoms? ;)

 

(((HUGS)))