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I found out 9 months ago I had gotten genital herpes from my THEN boyfriend. I had been through a lot with him. I had gotten an abortion about 1 month ago, he dumped me 2 days after the procedure. It was crushing. Although we we're fighting and it was for the best in the end, It was horrible how it ended. He dumped me over text, his clothes sat on my porch up until 2 days ago and I have yet to get my things. He all of a sudden was done with me so quickly. There is a lot more to the story and it gets much bleaker but, you get the point, it was indeed a horrible time in my life and I'm just at the cusp of a new beginning it seems. I'm not hurt about this anymore I am proud to say, It doesn't bother me as I have been going to therapy, making better choice of friends and (now) moving on. Just want to put some background to my success story as it can help those who think they're at the bottom of hell looking up at the heavens.

 

I used to have casual sex with this guy 2 years ago, We always had a little thing for each other but never anything romantic. Fast forward to now. He is best friend's with my best friend's boyfriend. Perfect, right? Any ways so my best friend told me he was still interested in me. One problem, Herpes! My friend didn't know how he would react to the news if she had told him but, I told her to tell him regardless and for him to do his research. Today, I get a text from my friend saying another one of my "friends" was trying to egg him on to reject and that I wasn't worth the risk. My best friend's boyfriend doing the same. He had the facts right in front of him, statistics and what not. He ultimately decided I was worth the risk and not just once but apparently "for the rest of his life if he has to". Obviously an exaggeration but you get the gist (; I went over his house and he instantly snatches me from off his bed and onto his lap, kissing me in front of everyone. When everyone left, He pulled out a rubber and well... you can guess what came next pun intended. And then round 2 later on. He even went down on me!

 

As for that friend that was not looking out for my best interest after me confiding many of times in her about how hard it is with herpes to move on, the feeling of unworthiness, perpetual filth and rejection, I gave her a piece of my mind as well as some very choice words (: She said sorry but there is no room in my life for someone that is so selfish and insensitive! Plain and simple.

 

Your life will move on after herpes, after your breakup, after whatever you are going through! It's all about your mindset and how you take things. Being shameful of herpes is only going to limit you. People knowing you have herpes will not change the reality of the situation that you indeed do have herpes. Being open about it will only up your possibilities to finding future loves and accepting individuals. It will as well show you who the snakes are in your life and you must do something about those people or else you will be in a vicious cycle of suffering and ridicule. You are worthy and lovable. YOU must know that within yourself because no amount of outside love will turn your mind on to this way of thinking. Goodluck to you all, I hope you find that inner happiness that everyone deserves!

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@itsgabby

 

I totally LOVE Success Stories like this ... because "Success" comes in all shapes and forms (a rejection can actually be a Success Story and we have examples of that on here!)

 

You certainly are one powerful and strong woman and I applaud you for being able to see that

 

1) Your ex BF did you a favor by leaving ... sure, the way and timing sucked, but it told you SO MUCH about him and it sounds like you are better off without a jerk like that in your life.

 

2) There really is NOTHING to be ashamed of with having Herpes ... I'm "out" too and, like you, am just fine with letting my little H Wingman help me to see who deserves to be in my life and who I don't need around me

 

Your life will move on after herpes, after your breakup, after whatever you are going through! It's all about your mindset and how you take things. Being shameful of herpes is only going to limit you. People knowing you have herpes will not change the reality of the situation that you indeed do have herpes. Being open about it will only up your possibilities to finding future loves and accepting individuals. It will as well show you who the snakes are in your life and you must do something about those people or else you will be in a vicious cycle of suffering and ridicule. You are worthy and lovable. YOU must know that within yourself because no amount of outside love will turn your mind on to this way of thinking. Goodluck to you all, I hope you find that inner happiness that everyone deserves!

 

I wish more people could be as confident as you as early as you are with being OK with being "out" and realizing that H will help you detect the "snakes" in your life. So many just can't get that when someone is ugly towards you about something like this, it is telling you that THEY are the nasty/dirty/ugly person.... NOT you .... because they are showing their true side and it's not something that any of us need in our personal space... those people are toxic and will drain you (even without Herpes) if you keep them around you.

 

I wish you luck with this guy ... he sounds like a "keeper" .... in whatever way that works out for you :)

 

(((HUGS)))

 

 

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